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Do you celebrate how long you’ve been together and your wedding anniversary or just the latter?

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JusWunderin · 30/04/2024 12:17

I’ve been with DH for 10 years in August and our first wedding anniversary is 3 weeks later in September.

I saw a post recently where a lot of people said they no longer celebrate how long they’ve been with their partners but only their wedding anniversary’s.

I’m not really sure it feels justifiable to have a celebration for 10 years together and then another 3 weeks later for our anniversary so I’m think I’ll just combine the two and celebrate both on our anniversary.

But I’m interested to know whether anyone else celebrate both, or just one?

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MumChp · 30/04/2024 14:39

Our 25th wedding anniversary was under Covid-19 lock down. So never got to celebrate.
We don't do a lot.

ohthejoys21 · 30/04/2024 14:39

Well I don't know.. once I don't bother with a card for when we first met and dh was v upset!

bakewellbride · 30/04/2024 14:41

We ditched the 'first date' anniversary once we got married. Now it's just wedding anniversary only.

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FlameTulip · 30/04/2024 14:42

We only celebrate our wedding anniversary. I might mention the date we got together to DH when it comes around, or just think about it myself and have a little reminisce, but we wouldn't do anything special to mark it.

Newtrix · 30/04/2024 14:53

We do both! Married 5, together 10. The dates are 6 months apart so it's a nice little celebration

Floralnomad · 30/04/2024 14:56

We’ve been married 35 yrs in June and together 39 yrs in July and we’ve never celebrated either date we just don’t feel the need . We are very happily married .

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 30/04/2024 15:19

Just wedding anniversary. Even then only really the big ones.

Nori10 · 30/04/2024 15:21

We celebrate both, why not!? Any excuse I say!

Wakemeuuuup · 30/04/2024 15:27

We normally celebrate wedding anniversary but this year we'll be 30 years together so will probably celebrate that this year

ClonedSquare · 30/04/2024 15:38

For our wedding anniversary, we do an actual celebration. Go out for the evening, cards and a present etc. When our son is older, we'd hopefully go away for the weekend or something.

We acknowledge the "anniversary" of our first date and sometimes mark it with lunch out or a nice dinner at home but nothing else.

fussychica · 30/04/2024 15:54

Neither really.
We've been together more than 50 years and married for 45 this May. To be fair we're often on holiday on or around our anniversary but do do parties or anything.

LeviOsaNotLeviosaa · 30/04/2024 15:57

We got married roughly around the time we got together for this reason. We only celebrate our wedding anniversary.

SittingBackAndWatchingTheClowns · 30/04/2024 15:59

Just the wedding anniversary (45 years soon)

user1469770863 · 30/04/2024 16:00

Both! 55 years together, 52 years married . Awwwwwwwww

PotatoPudding · 30/04/2024 16:02

Since having DS almost 6 years ago, our wedding anniversary is just another day really. We’ll buy each other our favourite chocs but that’s it.

Snippit · 30/04/2024 16:04

Been together for 40 years now, surprisingly still very happy, many ups and downs, but that’s life. We only do Birthday cards, no presents at any time. We don’t need/want anything just for the sake of it.

LittleRedY0shi · 30/04/2024 17:34

Our wedding day was deliberately the anniversary of our first date! In terms of marking the years we consider our wedding date more important, but on par when the first date year is a milestone one.

Nottherealmama · 30/04/2024 17:41

The date we met is the date we ended up getting married. So technically both.

Shinyandnew1 · 30/04/2024 17:44

We only celebrate our wedding anniversary

Emotionalsupporthamster · 30/04/2024 17:46

DH are coming up for 25 years together, but only 9 married. I think we’ll probably do something to celebrate 25 years as it does feel like a bit of a milestone but just us, not a party or anything. I reckon do whatever feels good for you.

RobinBobbin · 30/04/2024 18:44

We marked the date we got together by getting married. So, only one anniversary date to remember
We don't do much though, a card or a nice steak dinner at home.

Confusedmermaid1 · 30/04/2024 19:02

DH and I were married last year and celebrated our anniversary of getting together with a low key meal this year, it is 9 months before our wedding anniversary
We are planning a night at our wedding venue for our first anniversary
Maybe it will fade off as time goes on but for now there’s no harm in celebrating both!

Notthatcatagain · 30/04/2024 19:11

Will be 43 years for us this year, we were together for 11 months when we wed. We had a really posh outing to a show for our Ruby wedding and the kids bought us something magical. Normally dinner out or a day out somewhere significant to us. Somehow the bigger the number the more it matters to me

Jiski · 04/05/2024 22:57

I do both because it’s 15 years together (last December) but only 6 years married (April) and I feel like it’d be writing off 9 years to only celebrate my wedding anniversary. We only usually give a card, small gift and go for a meal though.

ALJT · 04/05/2024 23:03

Give him a quick Facebook post for how long we’ve been together, celebrate wedding anniversary if we can afford to. February expensive for us 🤣

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