Do you celebrate how long you’ve been together and your wedding anniversary or just the latter?

[JusWunderin]

I’ve been with DH for 10 years in August and our first wedding anniversary is 3 weeks later in September.

I saw a post recently where a lot of people said they no longer celebrate how long they’ve been with their partners but only their wedding anniversary’s.

I’m not really sure it feels justifiable to have a celebration for 10 years together and then another 3 weeks later for our anniversary so I’m think I’ll just combine the two and celebrate both on our anniversary.

But I’m interested to know whether anyone else celebrate both, or just one?

Neither, we rarely even remember on the day. Both of us are not exactly romantic, it was a good match!

Married 20 years this year, we acknowledge our anniversary in a low key way, don't bother with cards or gifts but may have a night away or a takeaway around the date.
We don't do anything for the date we met, I remember the date but only because it co insides with a family members birthday!

Neither really - I don’t know if either of us could tell you “when we got together”, and I don’t know when you would count it from anyway, it was a gradual thing.
And I genuinely don’t remember the date we got married, I remember the month and that it was the Sunday in a bank holiday weekend, I can work out the year because it was the year before we had DS, so I can work it out if needs be. The twenty somethingth of the month. Sometimes one of us remembers, sometimes the other, sometimes neither!
Maybe it’s because my parents got married on my mums birthday so their anniversary was never a big thing growing up.
Me and DH have “been together” for around 23 to 24 years depending when you count it from, and married for…works it out…coming up to…18 years this year.

Our wedding anniversary (35yrs) and the date we got together (42yrs) are the same month. We don't really celebrate either as such (even forgot our 1st wedding anniversary!) as deep down we're not romantic souls. We do get each other rude anniversary cards though 😉

We got married on the same date as the date we met, so only one to remember and celebrate

Just the wedding, and that's low key, maybe just cards, flowers or go out for a meal. I don't actually know the date when we first got together, I remember our first date, it was on a May Bank holiday Monday and I know the year but not sure which of the two bank holidays (I had forgotten by the time the first year rolled round).

We normally give each other a card on our wedding anniversary, but this year we had a long weekend away for our Golden Anniversary, because it certainly won’t happen again!

Both me and DH are pretty romantic and like to celebrate everything. We celebrate the date we met but only by having a nice meal at home.

We got married 9 months after meeting and have always celebrated our wedding anniversary. We at least go out for the day but quite often go away for 1 or more days.

We buy each other a card too. We have been married 44 years

Both.

We celebrate both!
The day I met DH was the day my life changed and it's more important to me than our wedding anniversary.. but I still celebrate that too .
We exchange cards and go out for a nice meal / maybe away for a night or a weekend, for both.

If I was going to have an anniversary party with others invited, though, I wouldn't do that for the "day we met" one.

both, but not a public celebration, just a card each and a nice dinner.

We properly celebrate on our wedding anniversary. It depends on DH's days off though but we sometimes go away or if we can't then we go out for a nice meal together at the very least and always have cards and gifts. It's our 6th anniversary this weekend so we'll go out for a meal then and we're going away the weekend after.

We were together almost 5 years before we got married so we do acknowledge it but at the most we'll go out for a couple of drinks.

We have three dates:

First date, legal ceremony and proper wedding.

They are all within a month of each other so we choose which days work best in our diaries and go out for a meal for one of them and stay in and drink champagne and look through our wedding memorabilia for another.

We dont do gifts but generally do a card on one of the days.

I don’t celebrate the date but I tend to notice to Dh “ooh I met you X years ago today!”

On a tangent, I never really understand why so many people on instagram feel the need to add how long they’ve were together in total when they post a wedding anniversary pic. “HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MR HUSBAND! 4 years married today (12 together) 🥰” Unless they got married on the anniversary of the day they met, there’s no need to post about it.

Oh god no my mind doesn't go that far back we have been married 28 years but together 6ish maybe 😂before that.

I was with the ex 25 year, wasnt married.i would have liked to have gone for a meal on day we met every year but nope ..he didn't want to do that. If i was with someone else..i would ask their views on it tbh...it makes it special to feel lucky you found one another...not taken for granted, married or not

Together 28 years, married 20, don't really celebrate either. We used to celebrate the anniversary of getting together pre kids. Will acknowledge the biggies of either though. 20 years married this year so feels like an adequate excuse for a meal out.

I don't like it when people ask how long have you been married. I always respond 'we've been together for...'

We celebrate our wedding anniversary by going out etc but we acknowledge the extra time when we talk about among ourselves about how long we’ve been together/puting up with each other. We don’t mark the anniversary of when we met though.

Not married so we celebrate our first date
Anniversary. It's around the time of both our birthdays too so we treat ourselves to a city break each year

We just celebrate our wedding anniversary.

Very close to DH's birthday, so no point in really celebrating (he came around night before to invite me to his party next day, we got talking and went for a drink. At party we were attracted to eachother and I ended up marrying my neighbour)

We celebrate our wedding anniversary. We don't celebrate the anniversary of when we first met/became a couple. We're aware of the date of when we got together and we used to get each other a card before we got married, but once we got married it very much lost it's importance in comparison to our wedding anniversary.

Neither, we have been married 39 years

@Farainia Same here, although as it’s at the beginning of the school year, we typically schedule it later.

Tbh, I’m always happy to find a reason to celebrate! 😂

We mark the wedding anniversary. We'd been together for 7 years when we got married, but the actual date is lost to the mists of time and cheap vodka in the student union bar (which is so old it's actually since been demolished 😂)

This.