Do you celebrate how long you’ve been together and your wedding anniversary or just the latter?

[JusWunderin]

I’ve been with DH for 10 years in August and our first wedding anniversary is 3 weeks later in September.

I saw a post recently where a lot of people said they no longer celebrate how long they’ve been with their partners but only their wedding anniversary’s.

I’m not really sure it feels justifiable to have a celebration for 10 years together and then another 3 weeks later for our anniversary so I’m think I’ll just combine the two and celebrate both on our anniversary.

But I’m interested to know whether anyone else celebrate both, or just one?

Once people are married I’ve only ever known anyone to mark their wedding anniversary. I’d find it a bit odd to be invited to a celebration of how long a couple had been together instead of their wedding anniversary.

We don’t particularly mark either tbh.

Just our wedding anniversary.

Just wedding. I don't personally know anyone married that celebrates both.

Just our wedding anniversary. I have no idea when DW and I first got together.

I struggle to remember my wedding anniversary but have no idea what the other date would be so no. I'm not a big celebrator of me things though generally!

Although with wedding anniversaries I am a great believer in the it's the other 364 days that count adage.

We celebrate only the time we got together. We never celebrate our wedding anniversary- we both forget when it even was.

Just anniversary, it's hard to say exactly when we got together. We seemed to get together round my 25th birthday party, he got unsure about 'us' as a serious proposition after a few weeks but I could tell straight away that he didn't mean it.

Just the wedding anniversary.

Celebrating "when we got together " is for those that don't get married or if counted in weeks/months rather than years are still at school.

Me and DP have been together 18 years. We've been married 11.

We've never celebrated either of these anniversaries. I have no idea when our marriage anniversary even is - September sometime maybe.

PILs sent us an anniversary card on our first wedding anniversary which I thought was unbelievably bizarre 😅They've never bothered since.

We celebrate when we got to gather as we have been doing for 24 years - we’ve been married for 12 years and don’t really celebrate our wedding anniversary

We mark our first date rather than our wedding anniversary - 5 year difference. We've done so since 1 year, would feel weird to drop it, it also feels more meaningful to us personally. Don't expect anyone else to celebrate it though!

We’ve been together 26 years and married 18.

never celebrated either

I think it depends.
i have friends who were together 17 years when they got married.
so for example in their case to celebrate a 3rd wedding anniversary rather than a 20 year relationship seems crazy. The wedding isn’t the achievement or celebration, it’s being together all that time. I think it puts too much importance on the wedding itself to make that the only date in those cases.
However year to year they just celebrate the wedding, and only celebrate the relationship for big years. I think that makes sense.
since yours are so close I’d probably combine them each year, and if there’s only a year or so difference between the relationship and the wedding anniversary I’d just do the wedding.
but also, I’m all for a nice celebration as much as possible, life’s short, do two if you want, who cares.

Just wedding (20 years this year) tbh I can't really remember when we got together tbh!

We celebrate when we got engaged, when we got married and used to celebrate when he first emailed and when we first met.

We've been together 34yrs, married 28 this year. Occasionally went out for a meal on our anniversary in the early years. We were going to do something special for our 25th but covid...
I'm hoping we may be able to do something for our 30th.

I've been married 2 years next week and together 6 years in August coming. Usually mention the meeting day and have a laugh do cards on anniversary. Husband says every day is an anniversary as they are all special 🤣. Gets him out of trouble when he forgets!!

We do both.

But by celebrate I mean we go out for dinner somewhere cheap and cheerful and have a few drinks. We don't throw parties or buy presents or invite others to celebrate with us.

We acknowledge the date but don't celebrate it

We’ve been married nearly 25 years and always celebrate our anniversary, although as it’s at the beginning of the school year, it’s usually a busy time!

We also met in the early autumn so I suppose we’re doing both at the same time. 😂

I’m thinking of celebrating this autumn to mark 50 years since we met/got together, as we didn’t actually get married until 6 years later, and we may not still be around for our Golden Wedding! Not that it will be a massive party or anything, but we may treat ourselves to a luxury stay somewhere 😁

We celebrate our wedding anniversary, but we do acknowledge the anniversary of the day we met. Just a takeaway, nothing fancy.

Go for it, @RustyBear . Congratulations! 🎊

We celebrate both but only simply and with each other e.g. a card and meal out/takeaway

@RustyBear i love that idea! I think because 10 years together is such a long time and a bit of a milestone (a decade of tolerating eachother without leaving 😂) that I feel a bit sad to not celebrate it and ‘just’ celebrate 1 year a few weeks later😯

I suppose there’s no harm in acknowledging how long we’ve been together at the same time as out 1 year anniversary. Not that anyone except us actually cares 😂