Get to an age where you think "Well the best has past?"

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Or is it just me?!!
I'm 43 so my "best years" well and truly behind me!

That depends where you go and what kind of accommodation you're happy to stay. Okay, you can't do it for free but you don't have to spend an absolute fortune either.

I don't feel like the best is passed, but I don't feel like I have anything to look forward too . I've either done it , or I've gone cynical and think forces out of my control will ruin things ( like the pandemic did, or the weather).

Having said that, I prefer being older than being younger

@NewYearTimeToChange I like your positive attitude! I feel so tired of life in my 40s but maybe its just family life not me as such. I decided a few months ago to start focusing on myself, putting myself first sometimes. I took up a yoga class that I cancel about 30% of the time cos of clashes, I just cancelled a nail appt I booked for tomorrow because my daughter got a cancellation medical appointment that we have been waiting on. I booked a date night with DH at the weekend as youngest had a sleepover but he had a tearful meltdown so weren't sure if he would be OK and spent the night checking my phone and unable to have the drink i really wanted. I feel even more frustrated than a year ago when I had no life of my own. I need to imagine a time when I don't have these relentless responsibilities

On average women get more unhappy mid forties to early 60s, and then get happier again.

I read that somewhere too. I’m clearly an outlier.

OP it sounds like you are more concerned about your future rather than being concerned that the best years have gone. Ultimately, life is what we make it.

I absolutely can't relate at all. I think you sound bored but the only person who can change that is...you!
I'm mid 50s & life is generally wonderful. Yes there's the usual 'more money would be nice' situation BUT I think it's so vital to stay curious about life.

Challenge yourself to do or learn something new. It's really motivating across all areas of life. Learn a language. Sign up for an online course. Take a dance class. Join a book club..

I'm seriously having the time of my life despite being in my 50s 😱

61 and still, even on my darkest days, believe the best is yet to come.

Eh?

How can you possibly know that?

Assuming you are in reasonable health, you can make things happen if you want to.

Ditto, and 70 in a couple of months.

I don't believe the best is to come.
But I am having fun times and will continue to do so.

I’m 52 and definitely think the best part of life is over. Being young, carefree, travelling after uni, uni and those debauched years, getting married, having babies and young kids, having parents…

Life is fabulous and I’m thankful for it; we are having a marvellous time. But the best bit is over, I think.

Well talking to someone in the exercise class this morning I found out that they are 90, absolutely don't look that age, they are doing a sky dive this weekend, weather permitting.

I don't imagine they believe their best years are gone.

I think affluence good mental and physical health and having a fair few decent people in your life can help with happiness.

For many affluence is hard to achieve these days. At any age this can affect happiness.

Ds is 19 is on the right track in life.

I am looking forward to my early sixties as I am 60 now so not long to wait before my wellbeing improves!

Honestly there's so much I want to do. None of which I did in my 20s or 30s I'm setting myself a goal of by the time I'm 50 I'll either have been looking into or have started to learn to fly (I have a few health questions that i need to look into).

I want to travel and see more of the world. I want to learn more, experience more.

I want to see the Gorillas in Africa and Orangutans up close in Borneo. Do the London to Brighton bike ride(I got a place this year but wasn't confident enough to ride that far), run the London Marathon.

Then there are the simple things like learning to swim with confidence, learning a language, watching a cricket match at Lords, watching a tennis match on Centre Court at Wimbledon.

Hell no. I’m 44 and about to retrain into a new career. I’ve been lucky to see and live in some amazing places but there are others I want to go to. I’m only half way through my life and, frankly, being a teenager sucked so I really don’t think the best is behind me!

(would like my early 20s body back though….)

I feel like there could be lots of good stuff to come.

I’m hoping my small business takes off and we have a future with more variety, my children are little adults and I’m excited to see their lives happen through college and new jobs, excited for grandchildren one day, and future daughter in laws and son in laws.

I can’t wait to see my DP as a grandad 😆

I feel like I’ll finally figure out a healthier lifestyle this decade.

My life was genuinely quite shit and full of anxiety and crying from birth until the last year or so. So I feel really good and at a new beginning.

Underneath all this though, I’m convinced I’m going to die a horrible death before I’m ready, or that DP will, before we get a chance to do it all.

I'm not sure to be honest. I think life is full of ebbs and flows, and it's normal at times to feel trapped on a rat wheel and other times more hopeful.

I think, for me at least, having small things to look forward to helps. A party in a few months, a weekend getaway a few months after. A big family get together in the Summer. Having small goals keeps us motivated when otherwise it's easy to just plod along.

It's ok to not feel hopeful though, but do keep an eye and if it's prolonged, you could see if a coach could help, just to tease out what makes you happy and help you see ways of increasing it.

That is very far from the norm.

Nope, I'm permanently optimistic. I'm around 60, very overweight, very skint.

I still think I'm going to lose lots of weight and look as good as I did in my 30s. (Past attempts suggest I won't). I still think I'm going to suddenly 'find my style' and look glamorous. And I still think, after a lifetime of work, that I might suddenly sort out my finances and be able to live a life of easy luxury.

I'm clearly a deluded fool - but I never think 'the best has passed'. I'm always convinced that things will get better.

@plumcake2924 you wrote The only thing I am looking forward to is seeing my children grow up, spending more time with friends and family and travelling the world a bit more...
im struggling to understand the Ola e of ‘only’ in that sentence! Those are the best things, and were the things I mostly looked forward to when I was younger, too. I’m 59 now and doing all those things.

Good for you 😁I'm a natural optimist too and consider that part of my personality a gift. But then again, being an optimist, I would.

Don't know if this is going to make others feel better or worse, but I'm mid-20s and already feel like this. I've never been a particularly happy person, but the past few years have just been unremitting stress and misery. I look awful. I feel awful. There's nothing to look forward to.

@ringoffiire Everything seems to need money? I have no idea what I'm going to when I eventually can afford to retire!