In the past 4 years 4 of my friends have died, only one was over 50 the youngest was 34 and died in the most horrendous way but I can't sit here wallowing. My Dad has had cancer, my uncle has terminal cancer, another uncle a stroke, but they're all here still and that's what matters. I spent my 20s and 30s in an abusive relationship at 40 I was finally free to be who I was and start enjoying life again.
I know I probably have 10-15 years left with my parents so I make what time I have left with them count. Even if it means putting up with their moaning and GB News watching.
I've learnt from losing friends so young that you don't know what life is going to do so make each day count. Go out and have that beer, reconnect with old friends, go out and see the world, sing and dance in the pouring rain, do a job you love, go watch the rutting deer, wallowing just makes whatever time you have left miserable. The best things don't have to cost a penny. It costs nothing to put some music on and dance like an idiot, or go for a walk.
The defeatest attitude from some on this thread makes me realise that no matter what shit life throws at me (and it has) that like Monty Python I always look of on the bright side of life.