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How do I not invite the child who left the class last year but mum is still in the WhatsApp group?

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Lochroy · 22/04/2024 16:45

It's DDs birthday soon and we're doing a whole class party. The easiest and most normal way invitations are done is WhatsApp. The problem is there is one boy who left last year but whose mum has stayed in the WhatsApp group and occasionally does social evenings. My DD has not seen this boy since he left last July and they weren't close even when they were in class together.

Recently a whole class invite came out and the mum replied yes, DC would love to come. I was a bit surprised to see this! And now I'm worried.

I've already taken a punt on a few people declining so I can fit in my other DC plus one friend for him. If we have any more decline then I've got friends from outside school DD would prefer to invite ahead of this boy.

How do I do a whole class invite but without this one child?!? Wasn't it a bit cheeky of the mum to accept that invitation when I know the inviting mum hadn't realised she was even still in the group! I cba to set up a separate group; if she accepts, would it be rude to dm her and say I'm so sorry we haven't got space, or can we wait and see if we have space?

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ittakes2 · 24/04/2024 23:00

Lochroy · 22/04/2024 18:32

The reason for not just setting up a new group is because I'd have to go and find a class list, or make a note of everyone in the current group and then set up a new group. Plus I don't have some saved as contacts and some don't even have their names on their profiles so all in all, it's a pita which I won't be doing.

I think, based on replies here that she's possibly a bit cheeky and I feel it's fine not to include her DC, I'll crack on and use the group, but won't shy away from apologising but saying no/wait and see via dm if she does accept.

I’m beginning to wonder if you are not aware of how to set up a new group from an existing group - you go to group info and the people not in your contacts will have their numbers shown. At the end of your posts you talk about going the old fashion route of paper…writing out invites would take much longer than jotting down a few numbers and adding them to your contacts.

OolongTeaDrinker · 25/04/2024 08:16

ittakes2 · 24/04/2024 23:00

I’m beginning to wonder if you are not aware of how to set up a new group from an existing group - you go to group info and the people not in your contacts will have their numbers shown. At the end of your posts you talk about going the old fashion route of paper…writing out invites would take much longer than jotting down a few numbers and adding them to your contacts.

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But why should the OP have to create a new group - the class whatsapp is the perfect vehicle for all class party invites; a random ex-parent shouldn't even still be in the group, let alone accepting invitations for parties meant for the current class. OP have you approached the admins about this - the ex-parent shouldn't still have access to the group member's contacts details and access to any school info relating to the children.

crumblingschools · 25/04/2024 08:28

A class WhatsApp group isn’t really meant to be a social calendar. It’s meant to be about what is happening in school. The admin should remove the parent who no longer has a child in the class.

Spinet · 25/04/2024 12:28

crumblingschools · 25/04/2024 08:28

A class WhatsApp group isn’t really meant to be a social calendar. It’s meant to be about what is happening in school. The admin should remove the parent who no longer has a child in the class.

Unless I've missed the announcement there isn't really an official statement of use for every single class WhatsApp group in the country. Surely that is for the members of each group to decide (not just one person who can't be arsed to invite people to a party individually).

Zhampagne · 25/04/2024 12:48

OP could have set up a new WhatsApp group for 'DC's party' several times over in the time it took to start and update a thread!

buckeejit · 25/04/2024 15:26

If go for the easy option of messaging saying 'everyone in Mrs Bloggs class - please confirm by x date if you can come'-or even do a poll which makes it easier. Then if she does reply, pm her saying sorry it's just for current classmates Due to numbers & you have some close friends as backups. Good luck

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