How to tell (ask?) new colleague not to shorten my name

[StormKate]

I've started working with someone who's started shortening my name and it's not that common a name in its shortened form. How do I not sound like an arse asking for the long version? The short version is soooo old somehow and just not me. But I'm awkward and need a Mumsnet one liner to cut it dead before I'm known as this name forever and it spreads.

Just keep saying "it's Catherine" or whatever. Every single time.

I would, and have many times, say “Actually I prefer to be called Sarah, not Sezza.” Said in a casual way. If they get the hump then too bad.

Look round, look back - oh, sorry I thought you were talking to someone else! That's not my name, my name is...

'Can you not call me Trisha! It's Patricia. Thank you.'

Just be mindful of your tone when you say it. Next time they call you "Chris" just say "Please call me Christine, not Chris. Thanks Sam" big smile. And repeat.

Yes, just reiterate your correct name every time.

Eek, sorry I hate Boz as a name, I’m definitely a Boris.

Just keep repeating yourself. So if she's calling you Kath for eg, every single time say, 'It's Catherine' or you could say 'I prefer Catherine, I've never been known as Kath and just don't relate to it as my own name'.
Eventually the penny will drop.

I'd completely ignore them until they get it right.

“Oh I meant to say… I don’t use the shortened version of my name, don’t know why but I don’t like the sound of it”

Don't say I prefer, just say my name is Catherine and I don't use a shortened version of it. Straightforward. Keep repeating one phrase if they do it again. Tone really matters, first one very friendly, second a bit more stern. You can all the way to exasperated and then angry.

@TheMuskratOfDestiny

What should she be mindful of her tone?

The woman has started calling the op by a name she hasn't heard the op say and it's it's obviously to put her in her place. I've often come across this by men and women who do it as power thing.

Example -

'This is Susan, who you'll be working alongside.'

Person wishing to exert power then trivialises the name- 'Lovely to meet you you Suzie.'

It's all pathetic mind games and you stop it immediately by setting them straight.

The next time they do it, say 'please can you call me Sandra, I really don't like Sandy.' Smile while you say it, and keep your tone light.

Because she said she doesn't want to come across as shitty.

The way to do that is to be mindful of the tone you say something in.

Chill

Just say, "Please can you not call me Jenny? I really don't like it. I always call myself Jennifer."

I would say it discretely so as to not embarrass them. Quite simply I go by X not y. Job done. Calling them out over what I assume is a human error isn't necessary in my opinion.

If they did it again then yep by all means.

Oh sorry I forgot to say, I don't go by Ann I'm an Annabel, thanks

Firstly remember they’re the arse not you. I’d regard it as good office manners to use the version of a colleagues name they introduce themselves with, or if I’m not sure I ask. i work closely with an Amanda and I wouldn’t dream of suddenly rebranding her as Mandy for example.

A polite ‘sorry but it’s Katherine not Katie’ should be absolutely fine. If you want to soften it you could add something jokey about how you haven’t been Katie since age 5/ won’t know who they’re talking about/ Katie is your next door neighbour, great aunt, etc.

But just remember you’re totally within your rights to correct them.

Just keep saying 'I go by (insert full name) actually' until they get it.
If you have other colleagues make sure they use your name at every opportunity too.

It's probably that they just have others in their lives that go with the shortened version. Just ask them not to it won't come across as shitty.

It's making an assumption - always best to check if you are unsure!

Yes. I wouldn’t be at all mindful of my tone. Neutral but absolutely serious. If you can manage not to call Edward the CEO Teddy or Ned, you can remember my name is Elizabeth, not Liz.

Shortened colleagues name to cunt. That should help 😉

Nothing to be sorry for. My name is Annabel, you can call me that.

This, but without the "sorry, but".

The OP shouldn't be apologising for wanting to be referred to by her actual name.