Have you ever had to 'Ask for Angela' at a bar?

[TellingBone]

What happened?

https://askforangela.co.uk/

It was supposed to be.

I was on a date at a city centre restaurant and when the date went to the loo, the waiter came and asked if I wanted him to line up a cab outside for a quick getaway.

he wasn’t joking - this guy was odd and the staff had noticed.

I really appreciated him asking although I didn’t take him up on it as I had already ordered my own Uber! 😂

Seems even more bizzare to use it in a bar then ?

I agree with alot of poster though if you need help....ask for help its alot easier, safer, faster
& if your dates going bad that's you job to sort out (baring no physical or sexual abuse)

Why complicate a serious situation

Ive often wondered about that

I dont think its there to escape a bad date. Its if you are worried for your safety

I think it's all being taken a bit literally on here, yes you can ask for Angela and ok most people know what that means, but surely what it's trying to do is make women aware that that particular establishment are happy to help if you're in a situation you're uncomfortable with. That can only be a good thing.

At the same time let's all look out for each other too, few years back I was in a train station late at night going home from work, young girl sat alone, group of drunk men standing way too close on an empty platform, they kept looking over, talking quietly, she looked super uncomfortable so I went and plonked my fat arse next to her, asked how her day was etc, chatted like we knew each other, she may have thought I was nuts but the blokes moved away. We shouldn't have do this shit but we do.

Also this 'put your big girl pants on' if you're feeling uncomfortable doesn't always work, I could have easily said to those blokes to move away but what if it escalated?

So yeah i think it's just a message to women to say if you feel uncomfortable let us know, there's no way it could ever have been kept a secret code for just women, but overall it's a good message

It was never supposed to be secret!

Think about what you're saying for a second.

How on earth do you think they could advertise nationally, in a way that only women or male members of staff could read or hear about it?

It was only ever intended to be a signal to prompt staff to act immediately, rather than have the person stand at the bar and have to go into a long explanation about why they were scared.

Can you explain why as someone who you said gave training on this, you were ever led to believe it was a secret?

That's a brilliant idea!

So young woman is being creeped out and goes to the loo, speaks to another woman who (sadly) will probably have been there herself and helps her out. A lot of us on here are mothers of teens/twenties DD's, and if a woman came to us we would help them in the hope that others would help our DD's if the need arose.
Whilst I agree with this, and would of course help out a woman in these circumstances, what would make me or you as other customers in a better position to help and actually get the situation resolved quickly and without escalating things than the bar staff? Who are there with colleagues as backup and with the power to ask someone to leave, refuse service and have access to the areas that are not accessible to the public? Even if it were the man's local and he knew the staff or they were men they'd be unlikely to join in, worst case they'd be dismissive and the woman asking for Angela would be in the same situation she was before.

Sorry, the bold quote didn't work! First paragraph was quoting pp.