I can't quite put my finger on it, but something feels a bit off.
I know him because I've been training with him and others for a physical challenge, although we aren't doing the challenge together (his is the week after mine).
Our little band has become quite close and we've done a few social things together as a group too.
We have a group chat, which is pretty active and generally speaking, if I need to contact any of the married men, I do it via the group. There's nothing that the group shouldn't see and it avoids any misunderstandings. I'm a widow and find people sometimes look for misunderstandings!
Anyway, he's married and 20 years younger than me. Nice chap, very interesting, busy life, lots of friends, we rarely go anywhere without him bumping into someone he knows.
He's quite active on the group chat. I don't know what he's like with other members privately, but he's started contacting me often, a few times a week, just to ask how I am, how my training is, or to follow up on something we chatted about.
Nothing "wrong" as such, but I'm not accustomed to young men contacting me for no reason. What's going on?
He's mid.30s, I'm mid 50s, the rest of the group ranges from early 40s to late 50s, about 50% men and women.