So I’ve just discovered Tattle…

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My friend told me about it recently so I thought I’d have a look. So I do have some views on ‘influencers’ showing off their DC before they’re old enough to consent, but blimey, this goes above any beyond that. There is a woman on Istagram called ‘Knee Deep in Life’ I’ve followed her for years and I can see that’s she’s not everyone’s cup of tea but she’s pretty inoffensive but the way she’s been talked about of Tattle is horrible, I don’t know how anyone could describe as anything else other than bullying.

i stopped reading after this and I’m very willing to stand corrected if this was a one off and every thing else is well put together and thought through but suspect that’s not the case. I know MN is in no way perfect but just found it really nasty.

This isn't true nor accurate. There's at least one individual who posts on there who quite clearly does so to get his kicks. I know exactly what you're talking about and I'm surprised to see that page of all things being defended. I've left the page for that very reason.
I agree with you about that person definitely and on the fb page everyone fawns over him.

This has long commented on Tattle. However their are women who are after a confidence boost or maybe a bit insecure and they are mocked on the Tattle page. They have given nicknames to some of the women which aren't complementary.
You've lost me a bit who is defending that page?

I'll have to go back and read the whole thing now as the only comments I recall are about those who clearly use it as a fetish page. It's one of the things which took me there as I felt so uncomfortable about that company, having been a customer for years, and didn't know if I was being prudish (shock horror!), then found the thread.

I'll have to go back and read the whole thing now as the only comments I recall are about those who clearly use it as a fetish page. It's one of the things which took me there as I felt so uncomfortable about that company, having been a customer for years, and didn't know if I was being prudish (shock horror!), then found the thread
Certain women on the fb page do over share information about their family and other stuff that really should be kept of the internet. However there are currently about 15 chapters each with about 53 pages about this group. There are some really nasty comments about the women. As I've said before, they are not celebties, public figures or wannabe insta stars. Some of the women are probably attention seeking (there's usually a reason why people are like this), some maybe a bit naive but they don't deserve the slagging off and mocking behind their backs.

“Many of the JM posters were clearly furious when people off Tattle actually started drawing attention to Jack's dodgy schemes and so gave them less to talk about.”

This is a barefaced lie. All of the comments I’ve seen are from people grateful that she’s gone quiet, and therefore less able to continue her grift (although she’s still raking in a four figure sum from Patreon every month, despite never sending out any of the rewards that are promised for up to £44 per month). It’s openly celebrated when her lies and swindling are called out anywhere, whether that is on social media or (much less frequently) the mainstream media, since raising awareness of her grift is the best way to try and protect the public from her.

I don’t think people want to be honest with themselves that people just love to slag other people off.

I used to do a job where I had to spend a huge amount of time with clients.

The things that people (usually women) would say about their own daughters, sisters, mothers, friends, colleagues would shock me sometimes. So, so vile. And then sometimes, those people would pick them up and it would all, “oh, aren’t they lovely!” And sweetness and light when they had just spent and hour telling me how they couldn’t stand them, how fat they were, how awful they were.

Everyone on this thread has someone in their life slating them, probably multiple people. You probably sit and bitch to your partner about the person you don’t like at work.

The only difference is, influencers are putting their whole life’s out to the public. so there are going to be many, many more people who dislike them and want to slag them off. But guess what - that too will happen in public.

It’s no point crying that someone has called you a cunt, or to get upset that someone says your hair looked shit or that you look fat on tattle. And there is certainly no point in crying when you’ve been caught out in a lie.

They put it out there for all to see. Some people will comment on it, just like if they went on a night out looking awful, or said something stupid, their friends would be bitching about them in the loo.

And I know I’ll get, “well, I’m sorry if that’s what
YOU are like, I would never do that!” Spare me. We all vent about other people. We all say bitchy things behind others backs sometimes.

Influencers who expect nothing but hearts and flowers are just stupid or have narcissistic tendencies.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 @Chunkycookie

I always think the po-faced pearl clutchers on here who would NEVER bitch about a stranger online and find Tattle the worst thing they’ve ever seen (on the entire internet, really?) are definitely a) lying or b) extremely boring in real life, and I’m glad I don’t know them 😂. It’s human nature to gossip about others, and anyone who says they never do it is deluded. Tattle is just that on a larger scale.

I agree re. Influencers, but as many in this thread have pointed out it’s not just influencers who are targeted on Tattle, it’s also people who post on Facebook threads, people who post on here. There’s currently a thread in the Tattle subreddit about someone who’s been targeted who has hardly any followers - though this breaks Tattle’s own rules (you can’t be targeted if you have less than 10k followers) they won’t take the posts down.

There are bits of Tattle that are really horrible. And there are quite often horrible threads on MN. I thinking painting this as a one side good, the other bad argument is just wrong. I’ve read things on both sites that I’ve thought really unpleasant.
On MN it is more often directed straight at another poster; really vulnerable people getting picked apart. Total empathy fails. Tattle reserves its worst for influencers and celebrities although some of the stuff on there is vile. I stay away from the worst parts of both sites as much as possible.

Some of them are probably the same people who unknowingly tell on themselves when, on threads here about SM, they criticise people on FB who vaguebook or post photos of their food or talk constantly about their perfect life when the poster knows for a fact the marriage is in trouble or whatever...not remembering that those people only show up on a FB feed if you've befriended them, and so what they've just done is out themselves as a bitchy hypocrite slagging off someone they call a 'friend'.

Ah, we're not talking about the same page! Mine refers to Tights.

Ah, we're not talking about the same page! Mine refers to Tights.
Ah, the one that begin with S!
I'm sure you can guess who I am.on about, colourful and quirky with a few blokes lurking!

If you don’t want to take the chance of being ridiculed in public, then don’t post things to public forums.

You can’t do that and then get upset that someone didn’t like what you said or takes the piss.

It really is that simple.

Well yeah, of course, everyone needs to learn about not oversharing on social media, I’m just taking issue with the idea that Tattle has a noble aim of taking on influencers who lie and manipulate their followers - there are threads on Tattle that go way, way beyond that. There are horrible people on Mumsnet too who tear people apart who are vulnerable. It’s not a case of Tattle = bad, Mumsnet = good or vice versa. There is a human tendency to be bitchy about others, but the distance that the internet gives encourages people to say things they would never say to someone’s face - as you point out yourself, people bitch about others in ‘real life’ but behind their backs. Now that bitching is in public, hidden behind a pseudonym. I don’t think we’ve yet learned how to use social media in a healthy way, if that’s even possible.

But, you know, people have killed themselves over stuff that’s been said about them on social media - particularly children and teens when that bullying has been done by other children and teenagers. As adults we should probably all be trying to set an example.

There was a poster on Mumsnet who wrote of the problem she had with her estranged daughter and a horrible son in law.
Posters on Tattle have said it was all made up.
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Do you believe everything that’s written here?

No. But who are we to say.

The unpleasant posters/trolls probably bounce all over here and Tattle plus every site they can find.

"Sky TV reporter 'devastated' by suicide of McCann Twitter troll Brenda Leyland" https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3004290/amp/Sky-TV-reporter-devastated-suicide-McCann-Twitter-troll-days-exposed-inquest-hears.html

So again, don’t post things in public.

And if you do, don’t read anything you might not like. Who is forcing people to read about themselves? No one.

My children do not have access to social media. My eldest is 21 now and still doesn’t use it, mainly now due to his job. You have to be honest with children that bullying occurs and why and teach them how to deal with it. It’s constant communication.

There is a huge issue in my ten year olds class at the moment with girls bullying each other over tik tok and whatsapp. The idiot parents are letting them have free rein on the internet and messaging and then wondering why issues occur.

My ten year old is not allowed any of that. She knows why. What had happened in her class has cemented it to her that it’s a bad idea to be in constant contact with friends outside school and that it’s easy to misconstrue the tone of a text message.

She also has a great grasp on what bollocks it all is and that it all stems from jealousy and insecurity. Or mainly, because people can just be arseholes.

Who is anyone to comment on anything in that case. A lot of people need a bit more critical thinking in life.

Or just ask mods to have a look at the poster.

@Springtime2024 - Do I believe everything that's written here ?"( on Mumsnet ).

No but I would say a lot of it is genuine.

Honestly, I think what most people write on forums is bullshit.

People make up threads, spend the day getting comments and replying. A lot of people are lonely. The internet has given them an outlet to “talk” to other people. you also get a massive dopamine hit when you get comments, replies, likes etc. That’s addictive.

I saw it in the clients I worked with. Before the internet, they would have been the ones at the drs surgery everyday, or calling competition lines, calling chat lines. Posting endless shit on the internet has replaced that.

Sometimes you see that worrying behaviour in influencers. The ones who post every mundane thing. the ones who, when their child is in danger or ill will list every detail in real time - when what most people would do would be focus on the child, panic in your own head, be too absorbed in the situation to think about anything else. but they have l become addicted to the high and put that (and the engagement), first.

So it’s the same as making up a bullshit post on mumsnet about your MIL. People do it as the attention feels good.

ETA - all the typos. I’ve got a puppy that I have to keep one eye on constantly.

I’d suggest you have a rethink.

Well, they would know since they sit on the Tattle Mumsnet thread trying to cook up trolling posts for Mumsnet the better to make fun of Mumsnet users who they seem to think is just one person who hates vegans, Americans, people who are overweight, wears uniqlo bag and Stan Smiths, is passive aggressive, racist, classist, hates Northerners, agoraphobic, naively thinks their own kid doesn't drink, smoke or have sex, is "so stupid", etc..