What's one thing you do in your adult home that your parents didnt in your childhood home ?

[BrickPoet]

have shoes in a room rather than the stairs

Apparently I “let the kids have the run of the house” …. not sure if that means we were confined to one room as kids.

I actually show and love my children.
In our house this wasn't a thing and I still remember the day at 13 years old that my mum told me she loved me very sad really.

Yes to fashionable clothing! DM would buy me occasionally fashionable clothing but hated shopping (she had the money to buy me clothes!) with a passion so we rarely shopped for clothes. She also just didn’t seem to realise we needed to fit in. There was one occasion I went to a new friend’s house with DM at 12 and she had nice clothes and DM asked her mum where she got them and was told “catalogues”, but we never used them. I think DM would’ve used catalogues though. And then from the same friend she told me I needed a bra so I was brought by DM to John Lewis for a bra reluctantly, but both her and her DM were flat as pancakes whereas I was much more developed bust wise. DM also had funny ideas about fashion, French dressing was important and black and navy were good colours, preferably long sleeves and legs. But then she’d buy me a matching puffball skirt and hook and eye short top in white with fine black stripes when I was 14 for my holiday, but without asking me if I liked it first! Just a surprise waiting for me.

With DNephew who’s almost 6 I’m constantly buying him clothes, trendy stuff, stuff with Marvel and Pokémon on. He’s an easy child to dress though and also grows quickly and his DM hates shopping too.

I’m referring to my nana’s childhood home, so she allowed her children the run of the larder/pantry.

Hope that’s ok with you and who pissed in your cornflakes this morning?! 🤣

Have food in the cupboards and fridge.

Lots of tv dinners!! We also have joint family meals esp in summer when we sit outside but my mum always made me sit at the table (turn proceeded to argue with my dad)

Have separate towels changed regularly rather than a communal bath towel to last indefinitely .

Unconditional love.

Allowed my children to express themselves without being told they are ‘back chatting’.

We have lie-ins. When I look back at my childhood I don’t think we ever had lie-ins even on a weekend. Saturdays we had to go the shops with my mum and she was out the door by about 9.00am and Sundays we had to go to church.

No church.

Allowed to laze about more. We always had to be doing or seen to be doing or a job would be found for you.
Even as my parents got older or if poorly they would sit worried they hadn't "done much today"
It wasn't a nasty thing and I had a lovely childhood but I do feel I let my teens have that down time to just be or listen to music or do nothing. That's fine.
I also give myself permission to have a lazy morning at the weekend after a busy week. You see it's not even being "lazy" as I work hard but that's the ingrained childhood attitude.

Have at least one bath or shower ever day. Growing up we had 'bath night' one night per week, every other night was a flannel wash with soap and water.

As I got to my teenage years I'd be allowed to wash my hair twice a week. My Dad would go mad if we forgot to switch the immersion switch off (20 mins for hair wash, an hour for a bath).

I left home at 19 and have happily bathed and showered to my heart's content ever since!

Mine's a don't. Or a few don'ts.

Don't smoke, if I had a cleaner then not allow them to smoke in the bedrooms.

Clean.

Put things in the dishwasher before they are mouldy.

Force anyone to walk a particular way home that adds at least a mile on their journey.

Allow other children round. My mum barely ever let it - I run an open house now, the more the merrier

Have the TV on as background noise.
Own and use a microwave.
Own pets.
Use scented candles.
Have lazy days on the sofa.

Not get dressed on the odd weekend day. Also sleep in - even in my late teens going to local uni never remembered my parents ever having a lie in - my mother was up well before 8am every morning.

The question was WHAT DO YOU DO, not did you have central heating, dishwasher, washing machine, tumble dryer, they are all irrelevant,to the question!!

Again. Who pissed on your cornflakes this morning?! 🤣

My parents had big lights in every room. I only have table lamps

For fuck's sake stop being so pedantic and let people enjoy the thread without you trying to impose your super-narrow interpretation on it.

Shoes indoors (I do prefer them off, but I’m not militant about it).
Eating on sofa
Allowing child an opinion

Kindness and love

Not hit my children.

Shower our children (and each other!) with love and affection.

Praise instead of constantly criticise.

Not force foods they don't like on my children.

Play music.

Swear (not aggressively but descriptively, as explained so well by someone else upthread).

Allow my chidren to have ideas and opinions of their own.

You’re fun aren’t you.

Do we have the same mum?😁 When I had kids I remember saying my children can have their friends round whenever they want, because for some odd reason it wasn’t allowed in my house. If my mum came home earlier than expected my friends would have to hide. Totally bloody weird and not a behaviour I wanted to emulate.

A point of honour, indeed. Good for them! If everyone behaved in that way, conserving the world's resources and eschewing the luxury of central heating and long hot baths/showers in favour of the greater good, we might be in a better position today. We live in a world of over-consumption.