What's one thing you do in your adult home that your parents didnt in your childhood home ?

[BrickPoet]

have shoes in a room rather than the stairs

central heating
shower

Music
Eating in the sitting room
Caring for my dc
Dancing in the kitchen
Taking my shoes off at the front door

Yes!!

Tell my children I love them, daily. No restricted food, full access to food especially if they have expressed they are hungry. I don’t make a big deal out of a molehill. I actively encourage my 4 year old to come food shopping with me and pick his own yogurts/fruit/after nursery snacks, keeping the option of choice open. I don’t force my children to eat food they don’t like, I had a terrible relationship with food and still do, so I want my kids to enjoy their food.

Watch tv in the daytime , this was /is seen by my parents as very lazy we had to be outside getting fresh air or doing something productive . Having a lie in past 7am also lazy , I’m an early riser but like to drink tea and read in bed at weekends but this is seen as quirky and my teens as lazy if in bed past 8 !

oh yes, day time TV watching, an absolute no no
i rarely do this myself as a result

Surely only if shoes are on..
I find myself saying.."get your feet of my sofa" all the time when they are wearing the trainers they have been out all day wearing!

Talk whilst sharing a meal. Growing up it was all "less talking more eating" so meal times were silent. I hated it.

Acknowledge kids feelings and let them express them
Not rule the house through fear
Celebrate birthdays
Let kids exist in their own rooms as they wish without worrying about a bit of mess.
Let the dog on the sofa

Shoes off indoors
Cuddle
Talk about our feelings
Talk at all
The TV is not just on as standard. We have one. We watch it. But not constantly.
Not got a TV in every room
No screens during meals
We do child centred activities like go to the park every weekend
Adults apologise
No shouting

Eating at the dining table

Having cupboards full of healthy, nutritious food instead of processed garbage

Putting thought into how my home looks

Swearing (non-aggressively)

Not switching off the TV when a sex scene comes on and shouting at whoever ‘picked this filth’ to watch

Living peacefully

Put lamps on instead of sitting constantly in the stadium glare of the big light.

Let the kids watch what they want on tv, rather than have the news channels on all day.
Let them walk in the kitchen barefoot (used to get massively told off for this as a child as it used to track crumbs etc into the other rooms).
Not centering life around religion.
Let my children chill and have a lot of freedom - wear what they like, play loads all day, listen to music they like.

Have a cat.
Heat my bedroom.
Shower every day.
Leave food on my plate if I’m full.

I wonder if your kids will go back the other way, they may look back on your way of eating/meal prep as very odd (ND/sensory issues aside)

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Yes, our only two kittens were dumped over the back fence, and they were spayed as soon as they were old enough. Drowning kittens was never a thing in my family, thank God.

That's another thing that's changed, though much more recently - my cats are indoor-only. They were indoor-outdoor until about ten years ago. (Australia is leaning far more to indoor only, and some local councils have 24/7 curfews, requiring them to be confined to the owner's property.)

Clean the bathrooms and kitchen
Say sorry to each other
Play music and dance with the kids
Eat dinner at the table together

Shoes off indoors
dust (when I grew up everything you picked up was dusty/ covered in cobwebs and I now can’t stand the feeling of dusty or cobwebby fingers so now I make myself dust even though doing it is a pain)

I mostly dish everyone’s dinner straight onto their plate rather than put it in bowls on the table. I think it’s nicer putting it on the table to self serve but dishing it straight up means there’s less washing up and means everyone gets the right amount of food (one of my children has anorexia so wouldn’t serve themselves enough and another has no concept of “this has to serve six people“ so would load their plate up with their favourite part and not leave enough for everyone else)

Cuddle my children and tell them I love them

This reminds me of my nana (mum’s mum) back in 1920s. Her DM had died when she was 14 and her dad remarried about a year later. He’d sent nana to live with her uncle in Liverpool from London when her mum died but she didn’t like it there and returned to London. On her return she met her stepmum. Nana went to the larder/pantry to get some food and her stepmum said “I’m the new Mrs X you have to ask my permission now if you want any food from there”. Nana was furious and spoke to her dad about it and left home 2 years later at 16.

Do people actually read the question? One thing you do that wasn't done in your parents house. For me,it's eating in the living room on the sofa with a tray. Meals were always at the kitchen table.

Stay in pyjamas until after lunchtime
Have dog sleep in the bed
Buy my children fashionable clothing

"I also am happy to make a second meal if my children don't like the first thing. It's no Biggie."

😳 Jesus, no way!! What a waste of food, and time. Yes, don't give them what they hate but you're creating fussiness.

We had a fairly easy going childhood and were allowed to do moreorless what we wanted. Only didn’t have central heating until I was 9 because we couldn’t afford it (we had radiators in our house though), ditto for home phone.

One thing I wouldn’t do and DB doesn’t do is smack children (stepdad did this, apparently my mum never knew) we were all scared of my stepdad from a young age because of this but he has mellowed a lot now. He met my DM in his early to mid 20s and says now he was too young to take on kids.