Husband has never seen me totally naked?

[Lemonmiracle]

So it is exactly what it is. Been with DH 12 years and married half that time (we met very young) and I've always had body image issues. I was very slim when we met, 5'5 and 8.5 stone and am now 13.5 LOL (I just had a baby). But it's just hit me he has never ever seen me naked. I've always had a vest top on, or some lingerie that covers my belly or did the deed in the dark. He is AMAZING and showers me with love and compliments and affe tion daily, the spark is very much there. I just cannot bare to be naked infront of him (or anyone haha). I've never changed clothes infront of my sisters, mum, best friend etc. Anyone else relate or am I the only weirdo

You are not a weirdo. Stop putting yourself down.

You literally made a person and are now sustaining them.

Your dh wouldn't have married you if it was an issue. So stop self sabotaging and trying to make it one.

So you’ve never had a shower together?
or he’s never stood in the bathroom whilst you were in the bath or shower? I would find that odd yes.

Has your DH ever said anything about it?

It is unusual, I grant you.

Have you seen him naked? Do you enjoy it?

Watching dp undress is one of my favourite things to do. I do love a male body. I can be attracted to women too, but men are just gorgeous.

@BirthdayRainbow honestly I don't want to make it an issue and haven't mentioned it to him or made a thing of it. But a conversation with a friend led me here, she said she felt bad for DH as we were eachothers firsts and that means 'he's never seen a truly naked woman' ... kind of got to me

@Brainded nope, I have a chat with him in the bathroom etc whilst he showers quite often but not the other way round

Really? DH and I have never had a shower together. It sounds horrendous. And our shower has very frosted glass, so if one of us wandered into the bathroom while the other was showing, they wouldn't see anything anyway. I don't think that's weird at all.

Your friend doesn't need to be concerned for your dh. He obviously can cope with having never seen a fully naked woman. Talk to him about it if you want reassurance, can cope with him saying he does wish you could be naked, but honestly, stop second guessing.

@Runnerinthenight he has but not in an unkind way. E.g. he has said a few times to take off whatever clothing it was because I look great and he wants to see all of me but I just can't. I would just change the subject or say I can't and he'd leave it alone but never make me feel bad about it. I don't know, I guess I have severe body image issues

@PermanentTemporary of course!!! All the time!!! I do love it also

@MamaAndTheSofa he has his showers so hot I'd likely faint if we shared one. Chatting to him in the bathroom is usually like a steam room/spa experience for me 😂

We’re both unusual then, I’m in the same boat with my husband. 🙂 Nearly 2 decades of relationship. The only people to have ever seen me naked as an adult were my kids up to around 2 yo. It’s not about the size/ shape. I am in better shape than I was in high school, but not comfortable being naked around anyone. Funnily enough DH is the same and he is also in really great shape, works out regularly.

I can relate op. I have deep rooted body issues.

I actually met with a plastic surgeon, and it’s a big part of my ‘if I won the lottery…’ musings, that I would get a significant surgery. Right now I feel uncomfortable spending £20k on myself, but it would massively improve my life.

I think it’s hard to be open about. For me, it goes beyond wobbly bits/stretch marks, I actually believe I’m physically deformed. I don’t feel comfortable being so totally vulnerable with someone who I want to be liked and respected by, so I hide it. Never taken my bra off etc

Do you think you’ll ever be comfortable physically? If money was no object etc.

@Todaysproblem same! My daughter is 1 and sees me naked and sometimes i just bathe with her on rushed evenings haha. It's amazing that you're in great shape! I'm 28 and in the worst shape I've ever been so I do think it's that and would loved to be able to love myself enough to be naked :(

@BranchGold I think... I think this is exactly how I feel. If I had a great body I would most definitely be happy to be naked. I struggle so much. Before I gained weight and was slim I struggled with excessive body hair from pcos. My belly/buttocks became incredibly hairy and that stopped me being naked. Now I've gained weight it's both those things because how often can a girl shave and wax with a toddler.

@MamaAndTheSofa i just presume most couples will have had shower sex at some point…my bad…😂😂

Just remind yourself that feet are far more disgusting and unsightly than anyone's stomach, and lots of people have them flip flopping in public each summer!
Maybe try a nice bra set initially to get comfortable with your midriff being visible, then progress from there in dim lighting - if it continues to bother you.
If you're happy not being able to fully undress then there's nothing wrong with carrying on as you are either.

@SplitFountainPen this sounds great thank you. I'm not happy because I have a strong desire to be comfortable naked around the man who would give me the world. Thank you for the tips I shall try both

I’ve had sex in many places, but never tempted by either showers, baths, or hot tubs etc. Tried it in the sea once, meh. Water just doesn’t do it for me, although practically makes for an easy clean up!

I think water, oddly enough, makes everything too dry for comfort! Sort of washes away the lubrication.

If there are some parts of your body you are happy with (boobs or legs for example) maybe you could reveal more of them? If you want to. Doesn't seem your DH is unhappy at all.

Tbh if you’re both happy who says what’s wrong and right?

If you wanted to you could be naked but under the covers or dim lights so he can see - he loves and wants to see all of you

I'm a size 16/18 with a belly, no issues with nudity and I've never had a guy run away screaming yet

I didn’t think people like this existed! If l had a pound for everyone who has seen me naked l would be a very rich woman.

@NC03 I could do, I've been naked before but in pitch black haha. I should try dim lighting it might feel flattering. You're very beautiful I bet! Thank you