What age would you consider young to be a first time dad?

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Just that really!

I didn't say own - I said have his own home, could be either rented or bought.

But if you are planning on starting a family you shouldn't imo be doing it from your bedroom in your mums house.

Yes, sadly you never know. My family member was early 40s too, but at least his children were adults by that point, not children.

It's not always about age. It's really the maturity of the person.

Depends on the man, my df was 20 when I was born, my dh 23 when our dd was born, my son in law 24 when dgs was born. All of them mature, career driven, kind and loving and have always taken care of their families .

I know some men that if they live to be 100 they would always have been (or are) feckless unfeeling immature twats that should never have been given access to a vagina.

When they are immature and still want to go out on all night benders.

The number of threads I read on here where a father hasn't come home by the morning from a lads night out is depressing.

In terms of years, I would say 25 and under is young these days for nothe men and women.

My DP was 28, I think it was a good age.

I’d consider under 25 young, but of course some 18yo’s would make much better fathers than some 30/40yo’s, very dependent on the person.

I don't know, under 23 I suppose.

My husband is 25, I have three children from a previous relationship and I'm due anyday with our fourth (my husband's first bio child).

He's a management accountant, we have a mortgage, he coaches kids football, he pays all our bills etc. he's a 25 year old man not a 17 year old boy so I am surprised at all the comments saying 25 and under.

That’s because young adulthood extends a bit longer now with a lot of people finishing uni at 21, further study, wanting to travel, building a career and then just wanting to enjoy adulthood and centring themselves.

Your DH obviously wanted to settle down with you and your kids- lovely.

but now people have so many options and there is little social pressure to be pushing a pram down the street by 25 less people think you are a spinster.

I had my first at 29 which was perfect for me. I had about a decade of living in a big city, travelling the world and building my career.

Once you have kids you need to negotiate and check with the other parent whether if it’s ok you go for an extra long bath- let alone going on a solo trip. People on mumsnet will be looking it from that angle which is why ‘under 25’ seems to be young. Most people at 25 are fancy free. Being a stepfather to 3 and one on the way at that age is rare.

Under 20 for sure. In certain social circles, under 25.

24 and under for mum or dad. I was 22 and consider myself to be a young parent. I managed and I was fortunate to get a good job after having DS as I was a single parent with a very unhelpful ex. My family were absolutely miles away and my ex had alienated me from all of my friends. DS is 16 now and seems to be turning out okay but it wasn't how I had planned my life!

Under 30.

under 20 is young….not 25 …that’s pretty average where I live for first baby

Under 20. I am tired of this babifying of adults.

That's very young where I live for a first baby.

I was much younger that my father was when I had my first, so as a 38 year sold first time dad, I was a deadbeat beginner. My father was 46 when I was born - his first

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At the children’s centre I had to go for weigh-ins I was often the oldest first time mum in the room in the room (at 29). The woman who I could tell who were older than me spoke of just doing the school run and having other kids.

However, at the chi chi soft play cafe plays and certain toddler groups- everyone assumes I am the nanny 🫠

I was 18 with my first in 1985. 21 with my 2nd and 25 with my 3rd with a ' shotgun' wedding that lasted 16 yrs.Now at 57 and im on my 2nd marriage and so happy. My dc all have their own houses, jobs,kids of their own,cars of their own etc. My eldest will be 40 next yr! I can honestly say 3 kids were quite easy as i was so young, fit & full of energy.couldnt have done that in my 40's.. .now at 57 i have a great life. Full time job. Grandchildren. Holidays. Oh and my 86 yr old mum too!

Under 30. Utterly bonkers to tie yourself down in your twenties imo.

Sean Stewart was called "Britain's youngest father", he was 11 years old in 1998 when he impregnated his 15-year-old next-door neighbour. He was given the day off school when his son Ben Louis was born a month after his 12th birthday. That's what I call young. The NDN reportedly said "He said he was 12, I'd never have gone out with him if I'd known he was 11". You couldn't make it up, could you? She later married someone else and went to live in 'a £200,000 home' according to the Daily Mirror.

There isn't a lot of low cost housing in my village. This probably accounts for older parents (university educated, higher up the career ladder before settling down)

I would say someone is “too young” if they under about the age of 20 but it depends also on circumstances (what kind of support they have etc), and on how mature they are. Not many people would plan to have a baby as a teenager so I’m mainly thinking of unplanned pregnancies. A planned pregnancy before mid twenties, depending on the person, I might say they’re not ready for a baby or they’re not set up for one, but I wouldn’t say they were “too young”.

And here I am at 34 with 2 dc who are pretty much independent and loving life.

Maybe for you, but not for me! I don't want to be doing school runs in my 40s!

Nowadays I’d consider anyone under 35 as a young parent.

I hardly know any first time dads under 40.