How many children do you have?

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My friend and I were talking about how many children we would like to have. I currently have 3 year old twins and while it's been tough I'd love to have a big family of possible 5 kids. My friend thought I was bonkers and that that's far too many and she's content with her 3 mth old son.

How many do you have?

2 but should have stuck at 1. The cost is crippling…I don’t know how people financially support 5 teens/young adults

3 - love it! But we are fortunate to have quite a lot of help.

I am one of 5 and there was never enough of anything when we were growing up. Always poor & excluded. I wanted a better childhood for my child.

I have 2, a 2 year old and a 4 year old and it feels pretty perfect to me. There are 21 months between them so they are very close in age. They are both girls and get on really well.

I have 2, aged 24 and 20. I didn't want any more and I'm glad we stopped at 2. Children are expensive. 50% more would have been a stretch

I was effectively an only. I have much younger half siblings but didn't live with them. I was very happy that way. I never wanted to live with a sibling. DH and his brother hated eachother. Better my way!

I have 2…. Didn’t want eldest to be an only child… that was a mistake! 😆

We have 5. I am one of five myself and we all get on great. Husband only has a sister and they can't stand each other.

It's tiring but worth it. They do get all of my attention though so I rarely do anything for myself. Going to work is the nice break I get 😆

I have four. I thought I was finished at three but new DH, new baby! He had none when we met. They've always got on well and I've never regretted any of them!

I have 3. I wanted 2, DH wanted 4. Given that I was the one being pregnant, giving birth and most of the childcare he was happy to stop at 2 but after DS2 was born I couldn’t get it out of my mind that someone was missing from our family. It was absolutely DD she has completed us and I know we are done.

One. Have an embryo on ice which we will transfer this spring. If that doesn’t work I’m not sure if I will try again. Life with one is amazing. I worry about the future though as we both come from messed up families so our little unit is all DS really has.

I have one. He came to be through lots of IVF! We could have continued with IVF after he was born for siblings but I felt that I wanted to pack every bit of energy into him. I want to show him the world, I want him to have lovely things and experience all there is to offer and this costs money!

So, we made the decision that instead of pumping more money into treatment we pump it into our family of three instead and I'm so very glad we did!

I have 2. I wanted 3 but never got round to trying. They are 12 and 14 both girls and physically fight and argue constantly!!! I have 2 siblings who I get on with great.

Same! Except I have a 4yo and 9m old.

It's the house (we only have 3 bedrooms), but it's also other things.. selfishly I don't want to go through another pregnancy. I don't want to give birth again. I feel like we can do a lot with the 2 we have. DH wants to stop at 2. I think a 3rd would only take away from what the 4 of us already have. We don't have family help. And we have a boy and a girl so I think it's safe to quit while we're ahead!

Two. Was going to be one, but the second happened - and she has been the best thing that could have done. I am an only child and I constantly marvel at their bond and relationship; watching how they are together has definitely been one of the highlights of motherhood. I feel sorry never to have had that experience myself. Don’t know if, having realised how great two was, if I’d have wanted a third if I’d been a bit younger - probably not.

My friend is 40 she has a 14 12 and 9 year old and is pregnant. She didn't want another but the kids were so excited she's keeping it. She really doesn't want to. She's crazy!!!

1, it's the right number for me.

I have 2 daughters. They are 7 and 4. I am really happy we have more than one child but we won't be having any more as:

They're now both at school and we're out of the baby stage so I don't want to go back to nappies and extortionate nursery fees!

I'm now in my late 30s and although I know I'm not technically too old to have another, I feel it. I said I wanted to complete my family by age 35 after growing up with an older parent myself and I've done that.

I grew up as one of four children and I never had one on one time with my parents who were always busy and stressed. I didn't want that for my children so two felt the natural place to stop.

Wanted 3. Have 2.

I would have loved 4 or 6, but only have 2 due to meeting EXDP later in life, then splitting.

A friend with 3 DC has recently had a surprise fourth...which turned out to be 4 and 5 as the bump was twins

If you want more I would go for it!

Two. Only ever wanted two. 2.5 year age gap.
Now 21 and 18. It’s been perfect.

We have 4. Absolutely wonderful!

1 - we always said we'd want 2. Completely on the fence about it though as I can't imagine not spending all of our time on/with her, and money wise it would be nigh impossible really so I think we are done (but something in me still can't definitively say that's it!)

I have three. They're great kids but three teens is harder than I was expecting! I think stopping at two would have been better really.

Three. I don't think five is bonkers if you have the time and resources.

Two with a 3 year age gap. I always thought 2 was probably be right, DH wanted more until we had DC2, then he agreed they were enough and we couldn’t afford more.