Men who wont date women their own age- ref flag or harmless preference?

[letherightonein]

Curious what people think about this. I was messaged by a man on OLD who is 63. I am 49. He seems friendly and fairly attractive but I notice in his profile that his preferences are set to women aged 40-60. Would it bother you that he clearly doesnt want to date a woman his own age- is that a huge red flag or just a harmless preference in your opinion? (sorry thats red flag in the title obvs)

Fuck me. Amazed at the ageism on here!

Im mid 40s and my DH is late 50s. According to this thread I should get rid as I’ll be polishing his dentures and wiping his arse in a few years!

DP has just turned 50 and I'm 59 this year. men my own age just seem so old and dull compared to him.

lol I was about to say red flag until I realised my DH is 12 years older than me! Been together for over 30 years!

did he deliberately seek out a younger woman or was it happenstance? Age gaps aren't the red flag by themselves.

I think people often seen old and boring until you know them. Your dh probably appears dull and boring to other 50 something women

@0sm0nthus
"It seems not to occur to them that these younger women would not touch them with a barge pole 🤣
They can choose whatever preferences they wish but they seem to forget that hot young women will be interested in hot young men, not fat bald wrinkly grandads!"

Exactly, well said. The amount of men in their 50s and 60s I get creeping on me, fat balding ugly creeps who think they have a chance. The ego on men!

I don’t want to date a man my age (63) Last boyfriend was 54. Would rather have no-one than an an old codger.

I wonder if men who state they will only go out with younger women actually find anyone?
I know a man in his mid seventies who has specified women under 45 only in online dating.
He says it is because he is fit so therefore not like other seventy something year olds. He has money and property so I think he thinks that this adds to his charms.
His ex wife was indeed much younger than him and never seen without glam clothes and a full face of slap but she buggered off with a man of her own age. This doesn’t seem to have made him reflect and he is still on his own after years of looking.

I would have thought that for every man seeking a younger woman there is one seeking someone older. At the end of the day, the choice is yours as to whether you opt to communicate with them or more.

Yes. We must be grateful that this fine specimen is not a nonce. Such high standards we have.

Yes. We must be grateful that this fine specimen is not a nonce. Such high standards we have.

Very weird of you to have such a strong opinion on two adults dating. As I say, if his net was 18-30, yeah, of course. Why do you care, and why do you think it's low standards?

They bought into the delusion that men age like fine wine!

More like sour milk

😂

Depends on the options 40 to 60 then does it jump 60 to 80
at 63 probably still working doesn’t want a retired 76 year old
people are slagging him off saying he wants someone to look after him

perhaps he doesn’t want to date someone older incase he ends up having to look after them

I used to prefer older men. Why? Thought they were more together, less immature. At one point was dating someone 13 years older. but I was much younger. However even then the age gap was a bit much ( different life goals/ outlook etc)

now I’m approaching 50, I’d maybe go to 55 max. I actually find older men more set in their ways and grumpy than women the same age.

I also don’t want to fall into the trap of being someone’s carer. Im just coming out of fog if young kids and no way do I want a guy nearing retirement!

Yes, it's a vile entrenched trend as a result of the belief that women of an equivalent age are beneath them.

The long term effect of this is what is seen on the constant posts here where for women once they're past 35 it's basically too late as men just minus 5 and will be looking for the ladies who are thirty and under. There is a total imbalance as to when it's too late to find a long term relationship. After 35 as a female you're on the scrap heap. Yes there are occasional exceptions but they are not the norm. But for a man they have an extra 5 or 10 years to find a relationship. One of the many many many disadvantages of being born female.

@grinandslothit 😂
I call them potatoes with eyes. Too much watching porn with teens and seeing stuff on tv with age gaps. I roll my eyes everytime I see it yet again in a new film
I see FAR more attractive older women and I'm straight!
But thankfully not all men like this. Just enough to create a huge imbalance in the dating world.
Thankfully I don't know hardly anyone in my life who has an age gap. Most people are with people their age

@ouch321 depressing but true it’s how so many people think.

I had an uncle who messed about his whole life then when he was about 60 he settled down with a lovely woman who was in her late 30s and started a family - had two kids with her and adopted her child from her first husband (who died ) . And no, he’s not rich although he is very well
educated and witty etc and he is a great father to the kid the woman already had so he does have his good points.

I also suspect he has kids he doesn’t know about that he fathered during his wild days.. He has a lovely family now when he finally decided to settled down at the age of 60 or whatever but makes you think Biology is definitely very kind to men.

I’m much the same. In my 20s I dated a couple of men in their 40s. However, now I’m in my early 40s, I have zero interest in men in their 60s. I’d much rather be single, thanks.

Would the age range in the dating profile bother me? Yes, it would put me off a bit. It’s not as bad as some of the profiles I used to see (35-year-old men wanting to meet women aged 18-35), but I wouldn’t be impressed by the fact that this man won’t even consider dating a woman his own age.

Hmm I would think twice.

I suspect another reason for wanting younger women is a feeling that women their own age won't stand for any shit from them and wouldn't look up to them.

Red flag - he doesn’t value women his own age and is delusional if he thinks his 63year old ass has anything to offer a woman of 40.

Other than possibly money.

I’m not sure, l think younger women today would take less crap than many older women have. But note l said l think, l accept l may have it wrong.

Well he may have his search to 40-60 but I don’t think many women of 40ish would have their search above 60! I was doing OLD last year at 41..my search range was 35-50. Any younger and blokes generally still want kids (and I can’t have more). Any older and they are looking towards retirement when I’ve got another 20+ years to go.
So yes, he may be searching for women 40+ but I suspect most 40 something ladies won’t be searching for 60+.

Why would a 40year old woman admire a man of 63? Assuming he matched with a 40 year old, and not a woman in her 50s and 60s?

40 years old isn't an infant, or some adolescent. Do any of you really look up to random 60 year olds you see on tinder?