How to deal with rude woman

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Looking for advice on how to deal with this situation. I go to a fitness class where all participants are lovely except one woman. We went out as a group last night & I sat next to her. She told me my hair looks awful, dry & badly cut. I told her to stop being rude but she continued. She said she isn't being rude just truthful.
Previously she said my face is nice even though it's fat.
There were no other seats available!
I will see her twice a week so wondering how to deal with this. She's very 'in your face.'

Tell her to fuck off.

“Fuck off you rude, obnoxious twat.”

”I wasn’t being rude, it’s factual: you are a rude, obnoxious twat,”

Yep! This.

What a rude woman. I suppose she looks like a super model.
Refuse to engage with her, ignore ignore ignore.

Just say what ? And if she persists say I don't know what you mean ? Put her in the back foot

To paraphrase Churchill;

“I can change my hairstyle, I can use a deep conditioner to make my shine, I can even lose weight so my face is thinner, but you’ll always be a rude, judgemental, nasty cow bag.”

And then run.

Thank you for your replies. I have been very upset about this.

Lord, definitely tell her to fuck off!

She can't even argue she's one of those "telling it like it is" people. She's clearly just a cunt.

Pointedly give her a wide berth. Wherever she is in the class, be at the opposite end of the room. If on another meal out, take a seat as far away as possible. Ask someone to swap, if absolutely necessary.

But do not give this woman the time of day again!

"Sandra are you always this much of a cunt or is it just a seasonal thing? Don't fucking talk to me like that again"

I’m not surprised you’ve found this upsetting. Don’t let her win, stand up for yourself and don’t let her stop you from enjoying your hobby.

Is she like this with any of the other group members?

She played the 'only telling it like it is card'.
The ironic thing is that our teacher tells us she is proud of the positive & supportive group we have created.
Should I mention this to the teacher or is that too childish?

Tell her that you are glad she values total honesty because you know she will be happy to hear your honesty. Which is that she's a gigantic twat and you don't want her to speak to you again.

Heavens ... don't be upset by here! She is not a normal person...

Her not here ...

I think next time she approached me I’d bluntly say ‘I don’t particularly care for you, or your opinions, so let’s not waste either of our time’ and then blank her/walk away/turn to speak to someone else.

You should tell the teacher. Just giving you a heads up, x is rude as fuck and if she says one more rude thing to you, you'll be telling her her fortune.

Because I know this type and the telling it how it is only ever goes one way. You say anything back and oh my god the drama. So it's best to get in there first so she can't play the victim.

Ask her how long ago she actually looked jn a mirror

She was rude to another group member on the night out. She bellowed 'I want another drink!' at her.
I notice that she is most friendly with a lady who is rather meek.

Did you mean to be so rude?

Im, not rude its factual

You're rude. Please do fuck off. Your opinion is not wanted

I usually go with a slow look up and down and a... "I don't think you can really comment about how anyone looks"

Not that it happens often, thankfully!

When she next makes a nasty comment, I would say. 'Perhaps you could learn a little tact and diplomacy Linda, I'm not sure if you are aware, but your comments come off as offensive and extremely rude. I would appreciate if you kept your thoughts to yourself going forward'. Turn/ walk away.

These types know EXACTLY what they're doing and thrive on upsetting other people. You need to be as blunt as them in your response.

“Don’t talk to me, I’m not interested in hearing anything you have to say, and want you to go away and leave me alone.” Followed up by “fuck off!” if she still persists.

"would you like to share what you just said with the rest of the group, or will i?"
"You are rude. Stop it"
Stand up - "will someone swap with me, i don't want to sit next to Janet, she's being rude again"

Ad infinitum.

And i would mention it to the teacher/group leader only if he mentions what a supportive group you are. Sort of "yes, except for Babs. She needs to work on that. A lot"

I said what ChoccieEgg49 suggests except not walking away. Although I left the night out very early after making an excuse about having an early start.
She just kept saying 'I'm not rude I say what's on my mind '.