How to deal with rude woman

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Looking for advice on how to deal with this situation. I go to a fitness class where all participants are lovely except one woman. We went out as a group last night & I sat next to her. She told me my hair looks awful, dry & badly cut. I told her to stop being rude but she continued. She said she isn't being rude just truthful.
Previously she said my face is nice even though it's fat.
There were no other seats available!
I will see her twice a week so wondering how to deal with this. She's very 'in your face.'

She's testing you to see if you're a doormat who'll quietly take her shit.

Me too. What's on my mind is what a nasty twat you are.

IncompleteSenten- brilliant. I was too shocked at the time to think of such a great response.

I've used 'Thanks. The day your opinion matters to me I'll let you know. It's not today, BTW.'

Sometimes being a cow like me is useful.

You know, you could always look at her and whisper "wow. And I really thought everyone was exaggerating when they all warned me about you"

Emphasis on the all.

Our teacher is always talking about the group being a supportive,safe & caring environment. Oh the irony!

Tell her envy green really isn’t her colour

She sounds mental OP.

"You do know Karen, we all have thoughts, you don't HAVE to verbalise them all... Especially if they are negative, rude, tactless and unwanted (lean in a bit) in case you weren't sure, your comments about me and other people are all these things".

Alternatively, I'd cut her her off when she's being outspoken, put your hand up towards her face, look sternly at her and firmly say THAT'S ENOUGH FROM YOU.

I absolutely love this and will be giving it a test run as soon as I'm able to in the real world! 😅

She could be on the spectrum.

I hate how this is rolled out as an excuse for rudeness. I find it very ableist.

I'm autistic. I blurt out things without thinking.
But I would never make those kinds of rude comments.

Next time you see her say it has been on your mind what an awful bitch she appears to be. Ask her if that isn't a correct assumption...

It's no coincidence that the only empty seat was next to her.

In my head I'm replying to her' Thanks for your honesty, seeing as we are sharing I think you're a cunt. In reality, I'd have just made my excuses and left. Going forward, my strategy would just be to stay well away from her and ignore her completely, not even acknowledge her presence.

I'd say that just because she's naturally a cunt rather than making the effort to be, she's not any less of a cunt.

If she is on the spectrum wouldn't she have stopped once I pointed out that she shouldn't say such rude things?

Or she is an absolutely without a shadow of a doubt downright rude person.

They can be mutually exclusive you know.

Just because someone may be on the spectrum doesn't give them any more right to be rude than any one else.

It really doesn't matter whether she is or she isn't.
My sons are both autistic.
I am autistic.

(I am also a cow but not because I am autistic)

NT people seem to have no clue how hard we (generally speaking) try to follow social rules that make fuck all sense and how much anxiety it gives us fearing we're getting it wrong.

I hope you are joking. If you are - it's not funny. If you are not - you are incredibly ignorant.

Autism is a complex neurodevelopment condition characterised by differences in social communication, sensory processing and behaviour. It is NOT defined by rudeness.

Rudeness is a behavioural trait which can be associated with ANYONE (autistic or not). Rudeness can be attributed to upbringing, personality, cultural differences, stress etc. Being rude is not exclusive to a particular group of people.

Some people with autism can struggle with social cues, unwritten rules, communication etc. However this not does predispose them to being rude.

Associating rudeness with autism perpetuates a harmful stereotype which adds to the stigma surrounding neurodiversity. It unfairly labels people with autism as being inherently impolite or socially inept which can lead to misunderstanding, discrimination and exclusion.

Please just STOP. I say this as someone who is autistic and has autistic children. Enough with rudeness = autistic!

Oh, I fucking hate that sort of person. it’s just an excuse to be a cunt.

Tell it to her like it is, she’s a rude cow and if she carries on, no one will like her.

Who does this

"Did I ask for your Opinion "

Springs to mind

Yanbu OP

I’d ask her why is she always such an arsehole and if she questions you just tell her you’re just saying it as it is!

Here you are for next time.

Love it!
Thank you everyone.

Some random made an unpleasant comment about my appearance.

I said ‘Shall we do a critique of your appearance next? Where would we start?’ in a tone that implied I was spoilt for choice.
It shut him up nicely.

Something I’ve kept in my back pocket just in case it happens again.

Might be just what your rude woman deserves too.