DH died and as is apparently often the case, "our" friendship group completely disappeared. Even let me down over help they'd offered for the funeral (yes I posted at the time).
Since then, I've formed new friendships and quite an active social life and have learned that they've been gossiping about me living it up on DH's money and not behaving like a widow should etc etc.
I haven't heard from them at all in months and months (these are people DH and I socialised with approx once a week, people who assured him they'd look out for me. All couples, which I think is probably relevant). I see them occasionally at social things with a wider circle and do just enough to be polite. They do the same.
Anyway I was having coffee with a group and one of the women happened to be there. We were talking about plans for the weekend. I said "I'm going to see Wicked Little Letters, does anyone want to come?"
This woman's response was "what on your own"
My reply " well when your husband dies and the people you thought were friends disappear, then spread nasty gossip about your attempts to carry on living, you kind of just have to get on with it, but actually, I've found I enjoy going to the pictures alone".
She was very spluttery and embarrassed, then one of the men saved the day by offering to come with me which I'm sure she'd disapprove of and we talked about the film/arrangements.
Anyway, did I go too far?