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Should a reoffending child sex offender see their child supervised?

110 replies

Coffeeeclair · 04/03/2024 21:50

What would you do if you were the mum and this was the father of your children? Would you allow supervised contact (in a contact centre or supervised by a friend/family member)? If so, how often and for how long? Or would you stop contact altogether? What do you think would be better for your children?

Man got in trouble with the police once but reoffended a year and a half later. He's on the sex registry after possession of indecent images of children. Children featured in the pictures are 1 to 17 years old. So the whole range of childhood.
Your kids are toddlers.
He blames porn addiction and says he'd never harm a child in real life.

What would you do?
And why?

Thank you

OP posts:
orangeandpinks · 05/03/2024 17:00

SgtJuneAckland · 04/03/2024 22:00

There is a lack of knowledge on this thread, whilst personally I would fight it at every step. There are lots of registered sex offenders who do have court awarded access to their children, supervised either in a contact centre or by family members. Contact sex offenders as well as images/incitement/online offences.

Yes, I was thinking the same. Sadly the court will likely grant contact rights.

orangeandpinks · 05/03/2024 17:02

Family courts: Children forced into contact with fathers accused of abuse www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66531409

fabulous01 · 05/03/2024 17:39

Insanity … can I message you.

your post is really interesting … and helpful.

GreenYoshi12 · 05/03/2024 18:10

Yes if always supervised.

TruckerMother · 05/03/2024 18:12

No absolutely not untill that child is grown up enough to understand and make own choices

Mrsbeauxjingles · 05/03/2024 18:15

Absolutely gobsmacked at the posters saying he should be able to see the children.

TheFireflies · 05/03/2024 18:42

I’ve worked in the family courts for 7 years and I’ve not yet seen a convicted child sex offender successfully get a court order for supervised contact. At least in my local court the only time such an order would be made is if the child was old enough to know and understand what had happened, and also actively wanted to see their father despite that. The chances of both of those things being true I would say are vanishingly unlikely.

Mrsbeauxjingles · 05/03/2024 19:12

TheFireflies · 05/03/2024 18:42

I’ve worked in the family courts for 7 years and I’ve not yet seen a convicted child sex offender successfully get a court order for supervised contact. At least in my local court the only time such an order would be made is if the child was old enough to know and understand what had happened, and also actively wanted to see their father despite that. The chances of both of those things being true I would say are vanishingly unlikely.

This is reassuring! Because some of the replies here certainly aren't

RosieTheChi · 05/03/2024 19:31

fabulous01 · 04/03/2024 22:45

I work in this field

it is very complex and I highly recommend getting legal advice

scary facts…. The majority of women stay in relationships, many also send pictures of their children into prisons … for sex offenders.

ensure you have the full facts,

and good luck! Family court is awful. They prioritise the father more. Don’t want to scare you but I see it daily. If only mumsnet could be the decision makers

I don't want to derail the thread but I also have experience in this field and courts definitely do not favour the fathers. Far from it.

Lighteningstrikes · 05/03/2024 22:47

No never.
It has to be the end of all contact.

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