Do you have the number of children you wanted/planned?

[FridgeJenga]

I wanted 2 or 3.
DH the same.

We have 3.

Wanted three, had three. All within four years. I sometimes think a fourth would've been nice, but it would've broken me. DH sensibly got the snip.

I wanted 3 or 4. I had 3 and one died when he was 13 weeks old so I have 2 remaining children. I'll be sad about him dying forever but I don't think having another one now would be in my current children or my best interest.

I wanted to but "D"H had an affair. I don't regret not having a second as it would have made everything so much harder but there is a slight sadness that comes when I think about the fact he has taken my fertile years and effectively made the decision on how many kids I have himself whilst he will no doubt go on to have more with which ever poor lady succumbs to his charms

I wanted 4, ex wanted 2. We compromised on 3. 3 turned out to be 3 & 4. Then I felt like I wasn't finished and we decided to have no.5. As soon as he was born I knew I was done.

Pre kids DH wanted 3, I wanted 2 or 3.

Have 2 and DH is done - I on the other hand think I could go for a 3rd, so we’ve swapped positions.

My brain says finances, logistics, mental and physical health… I think we’ll stick at 2 but it’s surprised me as I never expected to want another. I really appreciate how lucky we are to have DD and DS though.

Always wanted 3. Once I had 2 (under 2) I felt very worn down and wanted to stick to 2. When the youngest reached 2 it got easier and DH convinced me to have a third. So, so glad I did as she’s absolutely completed our family and really like the dynamic of having 3.

Wanted 2, had 2.
Did go through a very broody phase after dd2, but it passed.

1 and nothing in this world would make me want another.
I got my freedom back.

Wanted 6 and would have 6 but our #4 is disabled. It's made 4 difficult, 6 would be impossible.

Wanted 3-4. Had 1.

Wanted two but met DH late in life. Managed to have one, for which I am extremely thankful.

Wanted 0 and dh wanted 2
Compromised on 1 and from the second he was born could think of nothing but having another one. Literally just loved motherhood and immediately went from wanting 0 to as many as possible. Dh still only wanted 2 but we ended up having 3 in the end. I absolutely love it but do slightly regret all those years I put off having a family because I didn't think it was for me. I think we'd have ended up with more if our first was born earlier.

@ohfook similar I had no idea if I would really want kids. Had one after much intervention - would have loved another - would probably been good up to 4. But I had no idea I would feel like that.

In a way yes. I got pregnant at 17, at that age I hadn't even thought about how many children I wanted. Anyway after he was born I knew I never wanted to do that again! 16 years later I never changed my mind. I love being a mother of one.

I wanted four but that’s because I had pretty much zero experience of kids and therefore no idea how much hard work kids are. Had two. It’s definitely enough for me.

Wanted 4, took 7 years to get the first and decided that was enough just all took too long and felt too old for any more also couldn't face all the intervention a second time. Then 7 months later I started to feel a bit strange, not exactly ill but different somehow. You know what comes next of course, all grown up now with children of his own. The best 'mistake' ever

I wanted 1, then when he was a little older and a little more independent I got fairly broody, so now we have two.

Wanted 1 or 2 at one point, DH wanted 1, had fertility issues and decided that 1 would be a dream come true and couldn’t be happier with our daughter now.

Initially me and DH weren’t fussed about having children.

Then we decided to have one and stick at one.

When our “stick at one” child was 18 months I desperately started wanting another one but DH felt very strongly that one was enough.

After about a year of me asking for a second baby DH agreed and Number 2 came along.

When Number 2 was about twelve months old I started craving a third and when I broached the subject with my husband he went and had a vasectomy 😂

So we went from wanting none, to having and wanting just one and to then finishing up on having two.

I still would have liked a third but I’m quite happy with the two fab children that I have.

I wanted a big family, 3 or 4. We had 3, and made the sensible decision (for us) to not have any more.

Mad teenage me wanted four.
Mid twenties wanted two.
Joined MN, downgraded this to "maybe none".
Started TTC. Sort of hoped for twins so that the question of one or two would be answered.

Have one. Sticking with one!

Wanted 3 - 3rd never arrived tried for almost 10 years.
Now 40 and very happy with just having my lovely two.

Yes, i have 4. 2 boys, 2 girls.

I wanted four originally but health, finances and significant SEN mean two is a more manageable number.

Wanted 3 but due to a number of reasons (secondary infertility being the main one) we are stopping at 2. I feel so immensely grateful for DS2 as we thought we would never get him, and the gratitude I have for having him in the end does cushion the blow a little in not having a 3rd.