Do you have the number of children you wanted/planned?

[FridgeJenga]

I wanted 2 or 3.
DH the same.

We have 3.

Wanted 0, got 2.

Wanted 2. Got 3 as second was twins!

I wanted 3, DH wanted 2, we've got 4 🤣

Had vaguely assumed I’d have two, then had one and never got the urge for any more. Very happy with one.

Initially I wanted none.

I have two.

My husband wanted three or four!

I always just 'assumed' I'd have 2. My DH died in an accident around the time we started trying to conceive sadly. I was 35 by the time I went on to meet my now DH who had 2 teens already from his previous marriage and had already had the snip. Reversals are possible but by that point it all felt too late and by then I wasn't 💯 sure it was what I even really wanted anymore.
Some days I'm sad I don't have any DC, but it was the hand I was dealt. I'm greatful I have a lovely DH, home and life though.

It’s really not “totally uncontrollable”!

Would have liked an even number of 4, DH was happy with 2. Failed contraceptives led to a surprise pregnancy that ended in miscarriage-was devastated, so after recovering tried for number 3. But that took so long I decided I’d aged out (was 40 when he was born) and didn’t want to chance either another miscarriage or their or my health to push my luck to 4.

Multiple births happen and infertility and age happen. But most women of child bearing age do have some autonomy and control over their size of their family.

Same 🤣

Wanted one, but could not have children, so none.

It’s not ‘totally uncontrollable’ for the majority of women. I have 3 planned children, spaced exactly as desired, no unplanned pregnancies. My sisters and friends the same. I am of course aware that not everyone is as fortunate and some women have to deal with infertility and losses. My daughter is currently undergoing IVF treatment.

Maybe the fact that some people believe it’s mad to plan this would somewhat account for the vast number of threads on here from women who are dealing with unplanned pregnancy and chaotic circumstances.

Always thought I'd have 3, but have 1 after fertility issues. Honestly I'm so glad how things worked out. 1 is under rated. Get to be a parent but also quickly get your 'life' back. No big hit to career or finances and we have a fantastic life.

Wanted 4, got 5.

Wanted none but DH wanted children so had 3

Yes, I think so. I didn't have a fixed number of children in my mind. We just stopped when we felt we were done at 2. Felt right, most of our family have 2 children.

Initially said two, then felt open to considering a third. Have three and it's perfect 💖

Wanted 0. Got to mid-30s, thought we'd try for one and see how it goes. Stopped at 1. Delighted with the 1 we have.

I wanted one and had one, best decision I ever made. I'm nearly 50 now and found it completely controllable.

Unless you have fertility issues I struggle to see how it is uncontrollable??
I have 2 and planned to have 2

I just wanted ‘some’, and had 3, which was great.

Multiple births too, someone might plan two children and have three (dh was worried about this!) but otherwise I agree!

So that's means you shouldn't plan? Bit of an odd way to look at things. How many do you have?

I / we planned 3 but twins so have 4.

Have the amount I wanted originally but I now want one more!
I won't though as I'm nearing 40 and dh not on board plus we really really can't afford another sadly.