What's one of your biggest regrets and why?

[Guessimnottheonlyone]

What is your one of your biggest regret(s), and why?

I'll start.

Joe Elliot from Def Leppard once offered me a lift home.
Quite flirty, asked me more than once.
I declined.

I'm an idiot as I have always loved their music, and I love men with longer hair, and who have that rock star look going on.

Plus, Elliot suits my first name much better than my married name 🤣

Hubby had long hair and a six pack when I met him.
Fast forward two decades, he now has no hair and a beer belly (and he's not even a drinker!).

I don't have stalker issues BTW. As I have a feeling that may be mentioned 🙈
This is just for fun 😉

Go!!...

I spent all 3 years of my degree with one bloke, who ditched me when we left university. I wish I had played the field and done all the crazy things you are supposed to do as a student. The relationship certainly wasn't worth it - we would have broken up anyway and I should have had the guts to do it myself much sooner.

This is going to sound awful but, I regret not shagging my ex-boyfriend's best mate.

He was hot as hell. Like absolutely smoking hot.

And he fancied me. Lots.

My boyfriend was a total cunt, and cheated on me repeatedly.

I wish I'd binned him off and then fucked his hot mate.

Starting smoking.
Costs loads and a pig to quit.

Exactly the same as mine! Had a high school boyfriend, went to Universities in neighbouring cities and then he dumped me right at the end of our third year. He was an idiot anyway and I stayed with him because he was all I'd known but I really wish I'd ended it sooner.

I enjoyed Uni but think I missed the experience of being free and single when I was there.

A hell of a lot - where do I even start.
Meeting boyfriends T, K & J, all of whom were long term and C**TS.
Sleeping with B.
All the shags in my 20's - around 20 of them
Putting weight on
99% of the financial decision's made in the past
Being too open to others and the info potentially being 'out there' and being used against me one day

Can you do it now?
I had a few years in my 20s getting back the time I'd wasted on the wrong man in my late teens / early 20s x

You're going to hate me, but that's exactly what I did!
Though after I'd split up with the BF of course 🤣

Gotta agree with that one!

@tigerscurtains Are you actually me??!!

Had a chance one year into my English Language degree to move over to a speech and language therapy degree. It would've involved repeating a couple of modules and my lazy arse decided against it. Always regretted that decision.

My biggest regret is not spending more time with my grandad before he passed. He passed suddenly due to medical error I was 15 and had a boyfriend and didn't want to travel to the country side with my mam and spend the weekend on a farm away from my boyfriend. That's a regret and guilt that will never go away I'm 36 now and it still eats at me.

A lightheated one. Choosing a teen bf before I'd met his mates. He was an ok bf but I know his friend would have been a better match. Our chemistry was off the charts, we were drawn to each other like catnip.

Giving up piano lessons aged 14.

Turning down a job offer from Ridley Scott.

To some extent, moving to my current house. It was too much work to do up and the garden is too big, and I've always felt it really.

Obviously starting smoking!

Should have started TTC a couple of years earlier too.

Selling a flat at a small loss when if I'd just let my tenants stay there for a couple more years I'd have made a good profit.

Choosing a fixed rate mortgage just before interest rates nose-dived (that cost me over £20,000).

I’m sure your grandad would not want you to feel guilty 20 years on @LizzeyBenett You were 15! Just a kid. Your grandad knew you loved him. Give yourself a break 💐

Mine is marrying horrible exH.

Staying in my university town when I finished my degree. I lacked confidence and direction so just stayed - regret it totally and my life is set here now so moving isn’t an option.

Getting back into contact with my mother after going NC for 9 years…

Oooo loads

not taking health and nutrition seriously when I was younger. I am now 44 and fat AF.

Not being financially wise. Could have been mortgage free by now if I hadn’t had so much debt from younger years.

Not shagging Daniel B***… turned him down coz I was seeing someone- who cheated on me loads 😩 (I did shag others behind boyfs back eventually, but always regretted turning down that beautiful man)

Not travelling enough and especially not travelling in uni. My ex didn’t want me to leave him to go on field trips!

Getting married and moving in with my husband. He is a very decent man, but I am a happy loner with OCD and Asperger's. Took me to become 44yo to realise.(Child free). 😁

Prioritising "love" and being in relationships to the detriment of my higher education, career and finances.

Now in my 40s, much less well off than I could've been, and none of those people are in my life anymore.

Leaving my teens.
Best years of my life.
Drinking, dancing. Not a care in the world.

Every single fucking second spent on thinking about or engaging with men romantically/sexually. Absolutely none of them improved my life, all left me financially, emotionally, physically and mentally worse off. Glad to have my DC but me and men are not compatible!

Wish I'd stuck with what I really liked at school - Art & Design - than go down the safe, but boring and morale sapping career in Banking. Every day a piece of me dies when I commute into work.

Smoking

not having more fun when I was younger

caring too much about what other people thought

not being more assertive

Not being on top of stress management at work for years

Some really great answers, some very sad ones too, and I'm so sorry for your regrets that still cut deep.

I have many regrets, hence why I started this thread.

Another is not cutting off my narcissistic, selfish, thieving, lying sister before now.
And still it's all my fault 🙄🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Moving away from home village

Leaving TTC on the later side