What's one of your biggest regrets and why?

[Guessimnottheonlyone]

What is your one of your biggest regret(s), and why?

I'll start.

Joe Elliot from Def Leppard once offered me a lift home.
Quite flirty, asked me more than once.
I declined.

I'm an idiot as I have always loved their music, and I love men with longer hair, and who have that rock star look going on.

Plus, Elliot suits my first name much better than my married name 🤣

Hubby had long hair and a six pack when I met him.
Fast forward two decades, he now has no hair and a beer belly (and he's not even a drinker!).

I don't have stalker issues BTW. As I have a feeling that may be mentioned 🙈
This is just for fun 😉

Go!!...

Not checking whether my sixth form teacher had actually sent off my application to go on Blockbusters (he 'forgot')

Not asking my parents for more family gossip/stories before they died.

I also have a Def Leppard one! Rick Savage was in my sixth form class when they brought out their first album. They were selling signed copies in the sixth form common room. I decided to borrow the copy my friend bought and tape it instead - I need the face palm emoji here - can't find it. They also did their first gig in our school hall - I didn't go.

Not sticking up for myself and letting myself be almost bullied by my inlaws

Not visiting my grandparents enough whilst they were alive, especially the ones abroad (was too busy trying to keep the peace with inlaws)

Sometimes everything.

Sometimes my husband:

Sometimes I accept it all.

Being lazy, is one of my biggest regrets.

I could have achieved more in my life.

But it's not too late.

Taken my ex for granted. I drove him away because of my actions and as a result he met someone else.
That was 17 years ago and I still think about him/love him.

A few things.
Sleeping with non suitable man for losing virginity. Not previously sleeping with 2 others.
Not finishing my accountancy qualification once I failed a paper and couldn't find another ICAEW firm anywhere locally.
Not realising primary school had ulterior motives. Failing ds1 on one incident that had big repercussions.

I almost had a job at my local Bbc radio station. I'd been working for nothing to get my way in. I was on the cups of being offered a job. I was 23. They really liked me and wanted to move to a more popular show for a while . I I wasn't a fan of the presenter so i left..
and the presenter is long retired..and i don't work in radio...

Not pursuing a psychology degree

Not going away to uni, i stayed at home

Not taking the opportunity of a job in drama when it was offered to me due to a lack of confidence.

Having said all that I was very happy at Uni, very happy at home and if I had gone away might not have met my lovely husband and had our beautiful son. Everything for a reason.

I was rigidly convinced I was going to be child free and arranged my life around that- married my husband on the basis we’d have no kids, bought a nice flat because why would we need a garden? Did a professional qualification a bit later than usual because it didn’t matter if I started my career a bit later etc. Something happened at 33, years after being positive I didn’t want children, something changed. Fortunately, my husband felt similar to me, 3 weeks later I’m holding a positive pregnancy test! Anyway I had my son and it’s just the best thing ever!!!!!

i regret that I was so closed to the idea of children for so long, having him has just been wonderful and life changing in the most amazing way. I feel like I’m probably a bit old to have more children and my regret is not having them younger so I could have one or two more! (But as much as I wish I had more kids and started younger, I don’t properly regret it, otherwise I wouldn’t have my son now, he’s the best. Also realise he’s a toddler so I may change my tune by the time he’s a teenager!!!!)

Not ditching my bf at Uni and approaching the gorgeous man who kept looking at me meaningfully across the common room .
Not focusing on a career and putting having children before everything else.
Not having more fun before I married.
Not working harder at school

Letting my ex convince me to make some terrible financial decisions that saw me go from a home owner to penniless.
I beat myself up everyday for my total bloody stupidity😫
(In my defense he is a financial consultant so I thought he knew best!)

Could have slept with Val Kilmer. Didn’t.

At the time it felt like a good decision as I didn’t really fancy him, but when I think of the complete bozos I did sleep with, I can’t imagine what I was thinking of. Val Kilmer!

Getting divorced

Being a lazy cunt.
Being convinced I was too ugly to be allowed out when actually I was gorgeous.

Not having another child. By the time dd was born she was my third pg to reach the third trimester, there were two late losses in the 2nd trimester and all the early ones. I have two children. I didn't have the courage to face losing another. I've regretted it ever since. Too late 20 years ago.

Letting the weight creep back on after working so fucking hard to lose it. An idiot is what I am.

@Oblomov24
Not realising primary school had ulterior motives

This is intriguing. What ulterior motives do primary schools have?

I regret not taking school a bit more seriously, and also not thinking more about what I really wanted to do with my life. Instead I drifted into office work and stayed with that for 45 or more years, and was bored rigid for most of that time. Oh well, too late now .....

Not dealing with childhood trauma caused by a narcissistic parent. I should have started therapy the minute I left home. I have been living in a constant state of stress and it has taken a huge toll on my health. I didn’t realize how chronically stressed I was because I assumed everyone was the same.

If I had dealt with this 20 years ago my life would have been drastically different, I would have had energy to devote to planning my life without always being on crisis mode……Although I am happy and grateful for what I have now, so I would probably just have traded one set of drama for another!

Top 3:

Not working/living outside the UK at any point
Regaining the 6 stone I lost a few years back
Not being more financially astute in my 20s/30s

And the grey area regret - wish I hadn’t married my exDH for so many reasons but I have two lovely DC so can’t totally regret it.

Hurting two friends who didn't deserve it.

Not spending time with my MIL before she died.

Wish I hadn't gone from one relationship to another and enjoyed being single as well as gaining the confidence to be independent

Same. I'm a size 18. I went form a 24 to a 10. And now it's all piled on again and I feel disgusting.

I wish I'd asked my mum and dad more questions about their childhoods and time as young adults.

I didn't realise that time would run out.

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