What's one of your biggest regrets and why?

[Guessimnottheonlyone]

What is your one of your biggest regret(s), and why?

I'll start.

Joe Elliot from Def Leppard once offered me a lift home.
Quite flirty, asked me more than once.
I declined.

I'm an idiot as I have always loved their music, and I love men with longer hair, and who have that rock star look going on.

Plus, Elliot suits my first name much better than my married name 🤣

Hubby had long hair and a six pack when I met him.
Fast forward two decades, he now has no hair and a beer belly (and he's not even a drinker!).

I don't have stalker issues BTW. As I have a feeling that may be mentioned 🙈
This is just for fun 😉

Go!!...

Bought a 1-bed flat at the start of 2019, all I could get within budget as we both needed access to the train station at the time. Cue Covid arriving and meaning I now wfh full-time and DP only goes in twice a week and not even from the station we live near!!

If I could turn back time I'd have waited and bought a 2-bed place as we now have a baby and ideally would like to have another, but can't afford to move if I'm going to be off on maternity leave.

Having children. It definitely wasn’t for me. I was much happier pre DC.

Not going to Queen’s gig at a student’s Union the year before they got a recording contract and became famous.
Not asking my godmother for help to get away from my parents when I was a teen.

I’m sad to read several comments on here about regret over having kids.

I can completely understand it, i’m in the trenches with 2 young kids and my quality of life is certainly worse. But i’m trying not to get into that mindframe of regret as my kids don’t deserve it and i’m trying to change my mindset to embrace parenthood. Bloody difficult though!

Not telling my best friend I loved him. I was too scared of losing his friendship.

Buying our current house. It’s too big a project and it stresses me out.

I would say not TTC earlier but actually we started at the right time for us and our careers and relationship. I’ve since found out I’ve got a condition that will make it tricky at any age let alone my advanced years.

Delaying a date with the hot amazing guy id been getting to know and flirting with in the pub for weeks.

He finally asked me out but I delayed it from Friday to Saturday and he died in a car crash on the Friday night. His mum rang me in tears the next day to tell me, apparently he’d been talking about me non stop for weeks and was scared to ask me out.

Im happily married now but gosh I think about that most weeks and it’s takes the wind out of me!

But what if you'd been with him?!?!

@StellaLaBella his friend was driving them to the pub, last minute plans as I rearranged. He wouldn’t have been in the car had I stuck to the original plan.

I carried the weight of my decision for a very long time and although it’s easier, occasionally it hits hard.

Oh God, me too. Don't know what I was thinking...and it means I'm not really in touch with any of my uni mates as I was sucked into his friendship group so when we split up that was the end of that.

I thought I was doing ok, and all my mistakes were part of my journey to get where I am....but suddenly my life is going to shit, hitting an age where is going to be so hard to turn it round, and I'm regretting so much....

Regret not talking to my grand mother and my father about my dead mother. I didn't want to upset anyone. I only know she smoked and worked in a local restaurant. She died when I was a year old.
Regret both marriages
Regret most decisions I ever made to be honest.

@Guessimnottheonlyone very kind of you to offer. I’ll be ok just having a bit of a rough time at the moment.

Wasted most of my life on two husbands, first one I should never have married as I was not in love more just settling and he was a permanent elderly child and I had to virtually provide him with life support.
Second one I loved with all my heart but he was emotionally and financially abusive, ultimately unfaithful and took every penny from me he could.
I thought I needed a man when in actual fact I am much better off without one.

I regret marrying my exh. Wasted so much time with him. Only good thing was he gave me my daughter. Also previous exes, wonder what on earth I was thinking.

I got married, I stayed with him instead of dumping his lying arse when I found out he had lied about his age after 6 months (that was just the beginning).

I didn't meet the guy from the university rugby team for a drink because I was with my lying narcissist of an ex (the one I married). I often wonder what may have been had I gone for that drink. He was my perfect man, tall, dark hair, athletic with a brain.

My regret isn't really light hearted. I regret spending 4 and a half years with my ex. Looking back,I think it was 3 years too long. I nearly dumped him after 2 and a half years,but he begged and pleaded with me to give him another chance,and stupidly,I did. I so wish that I'd had the courage of my convictions now, because he really was an utter arsehole. We split up nearly 7 years ago,and to this day,I have never got involved with another man,and don't intend to. He put me off romantic relationships for good.

Not being taller. My escape route from home started with joining the WRENS (women's navy ) as it was then. Didn't meet the minimum height requirement. Plan B was less than brilliant.

@Cantfindthewordsddstruggling
I'm so sorry to hear that.
Really hope you're okay x

Biggest regret is coming out as gay at 18 and now realising, at 40, that I'm probably bisexual, but too scared to even attempt to date men!! Alien species!

I wish I'd resigned in 2021 when due to one of the directors I would have had a very simple claim for constructive dismissal that I doubt they'd even have bothered contesting due to the evidence.
Instead I thought it would smooth over if I kept quiet and instead he joined with someone else to bully me for the next 3 years. My mental health is shot and they switched to manipulation which is very difficult to prove.

A huge financial fuck-up - running up debt and then repeatedly re-mortgaging until I finally couldn't afford the payments anymore. I was made bankrupt and the house was repossessed. I rent now and have nothing to leave to my DD. Gutted. House was only £40,000 when I first "bought" it and it would have long since been paid off.

Too many emotional fuck-ups to list.

Leaving my veg in the oven and going on Teams call that’s overrun. Lunch burnt.

That's heartbreaking 😥

I've kept this thread open as I didn't have time to read it and then I forgot about it. I've just read it and I can empathise so much with so many of you...

Making shit decisions when younger, not taking care of myself, sleeping with the wrong men (to my detriment)... and not spending more time with the people I genuinely loved before one day they were gone. :(

We live and learn but oh to have a cheat's handbook of my life ahead so that I could make very many different decisions and take different roads. My life would have been so different.

for all of you... and thanks, OP, for this thread, so thought provoking.

You're very welcome.
As well as some light hearted, there are some very sad regrets on here, I naively didn't account for that when starting the thread.
But sometimes, sharing can help.
I find that anyway x