What's one of your biggest regrets and why?

[Guessimnottheonlyone]

What is your one of your biggest regret(s), and why?

I'll start.

Joe Elliot from Def Leppard once offered me a lift home.
Quite flirty, asked me more than once.
I declined.

I'm an idiot as I have always loved their music, and I love men with longer hair, and who have that rock star look going on.

Plus, Elliot suits my first name much better than my married name 🤣

Hubby had long hair and a six pack when I met him.
Fast forward two decades, he now has no hair and a beer belly (and he's not even a drinker!).

I don't have stalker issues BTW. As I have a feeling that may be mentioned 🙈
This is just for fun 😉

Go!!...

Loads but one springs to mind.

I had a male friend in my late teens. We got on so well, I had my own place he used to stay over all the time but nothing happened, we were just mates.
Then one night we kissed but I stopped anything going further as "I didn't want to ruin our friendship"
Things then got weird between us and we drifted apart.
But of course I then realised I was desperately in love with him, pined after him for months and regretted immensely that I hadn't shagged him but lost him anyway.

(He was totally wrong for me, we would have lasted 5 minutes and it was all for the best ultimately. But he was so pretty and I was heartbroken at the time)

Not having a 3rd child. I'm 41 and my 2 pregnancies were troubled, I didn't keep well, wish I'd went for it but now age has crept in my body wouldn't cope and for me the age gap would be too much at 18yrs.

Ha, I'm an 18 now but holding it well, dropped from a 26 and happy with it. I had a bypass last year. I want to drop another few stones. I also regret not keeping all my 'skinny' clothes although I have a serious amount of trousers! I've spent a fortune on new stuff and given a wardrobe full to charity, sold a fair bit. Just seems a huge waste of money and time.

Selling my sergeant pepper LP at a garage sale.

Thinking I was grossly fat when I was a size 14.

Now thinking I’d bloody love to be a size 14.

Being so grossly overweight for 25 years. I’m not overweight now, but it’s impact on my mental health and my resultant behaviour has had such a negative impact on my children’s upbringings and although I'm trying hard to repair it, I think so much of it is irreparable

Travelled more in my younger days when I had no responsibilities

studied for a degree that had more career potential/ study abroad for a year maybe

stayed away from my first love. The outcome of that relationship still affects me to this day.

Wow! I'd loved to have met the whole band!

Inviting my brother and his wife to my wedding. She was horrible to me all day and shouted at me on two occasions. I hadn't done anything to cause her to do that. I'm a quiet and respectful person, but she was full of it. I haven't seen either of them since. It was over 20 years ago now. He was my only extended family member as well.

Definitely some of the guys who fancied me or asked me out when I was younger and I brushed off. Two famous comedians/ writers. My life could have been more exciting/interesting (or I could have felt very over shadowed!).

But mainly the ones who were good guys who I brushed aside because I was way too focussed on looks.

Marrying my XH - but then I wouldn't have the kids blah blah blah.

Falling out with my best friend from school so we missed eachother’s weddings.

Effort I put into trying to help a guy I cared about with depression during my uni years who went on to kill himself anyway.

My ex.

I am having to seek therapy because of everything he has, and continues to do do.

Not going to Uni.
I didn't realise you didn't necessarily have to stick with what you studied and a degree by itself would help in any job.I thought I would only be able work in that area. It would have been cheaper back in my day too.

Close friends started their own company and invited me to join them as a partner. I thought about it but declined. They sold the business seven years later and walked away with £5m each. The crazy thing is I worked for the NHS so I could have gone back to that if it hadn't have worked out.

Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone.

Wasting my early 20s on my narcissistic ex.

Not taking more money during my divorce, in the name of being 'amicable'. Morally it was the right thing to do but I'd be far better off now if I had been ruthless instead of trying to keep things sweet.

Marrying DH. I have DS and I wouldn't change that, but I have an extraordinarily difficult MIL who is an alcoholic and who has put a horrendous strain on my marriage. DH can't really put up proper boundaries. There is no real peace in my home and I feel like I walked into a trap.

Letting the useless men I dated in my 20s dictate my self esteem!!!

Spending a long time, too long, with my ex and missing other possibilities and options (not necessarily other relationships. I mean travel and work)

I often think - I could have been a WAG! I went out with an Everton player for a time but ended it because of the distance and someone else more locally, who turned out to be a dud. Seriously I wouldn't want to be a WAG at all, I would hate the lifestyle. But this guy wasn't about that so it could have been OK.

bought a flat in SE London in 1996 for 55K. Sold it two years later for 75K. Was thrilled.

flat would now be worth approximate 500K.

Even with the hassle of tenants and CG tax that would really be a pension for me.

my family had never kept a house and rented out or owned more than one home, in fact both parents grew up in council housing. Wish someone gave me better advice back then.

Some really great replies.
But sad to read of so many regrets too...wish we had a time machine so we could go back and redo/change/relive a few things!

Waiting too long (by being fussy) to lose my virginity

Did you kiss him though? Those beautiful lips!

Not buying a flat in N London in the late 90s, when I was in my 20s. I'd inherited some money which would have allowed me to buy it mortgage-free.

I ended up being a FTB in my late 40s having missed the boat entirely. I calculated I'd spent around £250k or more on rent in the meantime...

Not being more assertive in the face of medical opinion when I felt that something was very wrong with my son. I could have saved him a lot of suffering but I was just an anxious first time mum.I feel guilty every day.