Things that (irrationally) annoy you when staying at other people’s homes

[NameName2023]

Currently staying at my MIL’s house for a couple of days and three things have irritated me and I need to get over it:

1. bed - actually applies to both my SIL and MIL. Both of their spare rooms are huge, ridiculously so. Yet they only have double/kingsize beds when there is easily enough room for a super king. This is probably my issue though as we have a super king at home so I’m used to the space, rather than having to squeeze in with my 6’5”, rugby built husband.
2. Drinks - not once have they offered anything. I’ve offered to make tea if I’ve made myself one. Also, they’ll only offer alcoholic drinks if DH is in the room (DH was getting toddler down for bed, he came in to top up the milk bottle and FIL offered him a drink, despite me being sat there without one. It’s like women can only be offered a drink once the men have!).
3. lunch - literally nothing in the fridge for lunch today. They knew they had guests but obviously didn’t think to get food in to make sandwiches or anything. I’m breastfeeding our baby and bloody hungry. I was offered a very nutritious breakfast of Rice Krispies and thats all I’ve been offered today. DH and I are going to the supermarket later. Going to stock up on snacks.

I guess some of it is my issue but it’s just really annoyed me. I just want to be back home!

A small cafetiere or aeropress doesn't even take up any more space than a box of coffee bags so it just feels like trying to make a point

Now I can’t stand coffee or tea. But you can certainly smell the difference between instant and proper brewed coffee. My dh has all sorts of coffee from the pods and I stand at camping to some cat poo stupid money coffee stuff and you can tell the difference form smell alone.

Just how? Who are all these people you’re staying with that you don’t know this?

personally I only stay with friends and family, people are posting on here like they don’t know their hosts or guests.

its the oddest thing.

Have only had family stay in the last 20 years. Always leave towels on their beds. Have had family on air beds in the lounge when DC were little . Always get up before they do and cook a big breakfast for everyone to help themselves to.

My family amd my friends always hang them up, one puts them on the rads, I don’t get that, at all. It stops the heat going in the room and I’m going to wash the towel so why dry it on the rad before you leave.

ive another, a now single bloke, he does the weirdest thing, he partially strips the bed, so he strips the pillow case he used and the sheet, and leaves the duvet and his other pillows intact.

ive another who leaves the window open. It really pisses me off, the house is three stories and I have to go all the way up there to close it . 😂

Yeah and they're not Royalty.

Until a few years ago, most coffee drinkers were happy with Nescafe.

"My family amd my friends always hang them up, one puts them on the rads, I don’t get that, at all. It stops the heat going in the room and I’m going to wash the towel so why dry it on the rad before you leave."

They don't know when your next wash day is and they probably don't want to leave it in a damp heap to get smelly. They're trying to help, as is the window opener probably.

We're coffee snobs but I've just taken to bringing our own cafetiere and coffee wherever we go, or coffee bags if short of space as most hotel coffee is also pretty grim.

I wouldn't expect hosts to provide it.

rookiemere
I take spare coffee and tea bags with me to hotels, but not to people's houses.

I like my coffee but just like it doesn't kill me to have a coffee at playgroup, I'd feel very awkward bringing my own coffee to someone's house when I'm staying.

Nobody I stay with has awful coffee though, even if it's not 100% my preference.

Saggy beds. Also used to a king size and find a double a tad small.
Had a relation who was the soul of generosity but when he offered a drink, that's exactly what he meant. A drink. Never two.

Double beds are the worst. I don’t even know why they exist 😆

@LolaSmiles if there is proper coffee of any description I won't get the cafetiere out, although my heart does sink when it's one of those pod buoyos. Never had a decent cup from one of those in my life.

rookiemere
The pods have never made me a nice cup of coffee. I don't understand the attraction.

Whilst I prefer proper coffee, I'll drink most things as long as it's not awful cheap instant.

This is 100% a me issue because I have no problem saying I've brought my own nighttime herbal teas/camomile tea. I'd feel rude bringing my own coffee along but herbals I don't because I wouldn't expect everyone to have herbal teas but they might feel offended if I essentially say "your coffee is crap".

Small bedrooms? Awkward stairs for large mattresses etc.

DH and I are fine in our double. When we stay in a place with a superking we tend to sleep in the same edge space as normal anyhow... he just feels so far away.

*Yeah and they're not Royalty.
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You don't have to be " Royalty " to like a decent cup of coffee. 🤣🤣🥲

Until a few years ago, most coffee drinkers were happy with Nescafe.

I haven't drunk instant for about 30 years and I'm pretty ordinary but hey .

You're really digging in on this coffee thing aren't you. Hilarious.

Only 'royalty and snobs ' need real coffee chez you. Snort.

@Gwenhwyfar

You're so die hard about a cup of coffee it makes me wonder about what you're like about a drink of water, a towel or heaven help it, an extra pillow?

@Gwenhwyfar

Nonsense. Some of us have been using a cafetière for 35 years.

You may drink instant coffee but not everyone does.

Instant coffee is not proper coffee. It’s a different drink altogether and massively inferior.

Good coffee just makes life better.

My DM had a cafetière in the 80s , we’re working class of Irish descent.

I provide towels because it would be difficult for guests to carry them. It's only today that I've really realised that having one pillow is a problem for people and I've already mentioned I might buy more. People visiting me can help themselves to water whenever they want and I don't have the no water upstairs rule that someone on here mentioned.
However, I have been criticised for not providing ice (small one shelf freezer) or shop bought bottled water. I suppose there are water snobs like there are coffee snobs.

I don't drink coffee at all.

However, when I was growing up, nobody had coffee machines, etc. I don't think it's that usual to have been using a caftiere in the UK since 35 years ago.

Good tea also makes life better, but I don't complain if I go to someone's house and they have Lipton rather than PG Tips. I just bring my own if I really want it.

So what? I was talking about the norm, not some people.

No toilet brush

I don't drink coffee at all.

Really? I couldn't tell.

I don't think you're the one who should be lecturing on what's " the norm " around drinking coffee tbh.

And just for the record ,instant and real coffee is not like the difference between Lipton's and PG Tips. But clearly you're not aware of that.

@Gwenhwyfar