Things that (irrationally) annoy you when staying at other people’s homes

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Currently staying at my MIL’s house for a couple of days and three things have irritated me and I need to get over it:

1. bed - actually applies to both my SIL and MIL. Both of their spare rooms are huge, ridiculously so. Yet they only have double/kingsize beds when there is easily enough room for a super king. This is probably my issue though as we have a super king at home so I’m used to the space, rather than having to squeeze in with my 6’5”, rugby built husband.
2. Drinks - not once have they offered anything. I’ve offered to make tea if I’ve made myself one. Also, they’ll only offer alcoholic drinks if DH is in the room (DH was getting toddler down for bed, he came in to top up the milk bottle and FIL offered him a drink, despite me being sat there without one. It’s like women can only be offered a drink once the men have!).
3. lunch - literally nothing in the fridge for lunch today. They knew they had guests but obviously didn’t think to get food in to make sandwiches or anything. I’m breastfeeding our baby and bloody hungry. I was offered a very nutritious breakfast of Rice Krispies and thats all I’ve been offered today. DH and I are going to the supermarket later. Going to stock up on snacks.

I guess some of it is my issue but it’s just really annoyed me. I just want to be back home!

This is why I would never stay in an Air BnB. Can't trust people to change sheets.

I know this question wasn't directed to me, but I always need a glass of water next to me at night as I take meds that cause a dry mouth. Wouldn't surprise me if that applied to quite a lot of people.

I'd always provide towels

again not aimed At me but I have sinus issues so end up sleeping breathing via my mouth when sick or just a bit bunged up at all such as hayfever and as such get though a ton of water so I don’t get a dry throat.

I have never quite understood the water at night thing - do you wake up frequently and drink a bit at a time or do you wake up once and down a glass or something else?

No lock on the bathroom door. I won't stay somewhere if I know there's no lock beforehand.

Go and stay in Hotels- you don't sound like pleasant guests to have around!

Bit of both tbh it depends how bad it’s drying my throat out and how I feel Generally.

So if I’ve woken with a proper sore dry throat ill likely not fall back to a deep sleep and every up every so often and take sips.

Other times I can wake up drink the whole glass and then have a lovely few more hours of full sleep. This one is more of it because il
hot rather than waking up due to a sore throat though.

I also have Ibs though so frequently wake up in the night as apparently that’s when my
bowel comes to life so again I’m awake and I’ll have some water.

I always have water on my bedside

Water wouldn't do any harm if it was spilt anyway

I always have a large glass of water on the bedside table. Some nights I'll drink a lot of it before going to sleep, sometimes sip during the night (especially if I've got a cough or cold). Sometimes most of it is still there when I wake in the morning but I'd be very thirsty by then so drink all of it!

most of my family and friends are within day trip distance. Further afield I’d stay in a premier inn

I wouldn’t expect someone’s house to have a king or supersize king bed. But I won’t sleep in less than a king hence I wouldn’t stay. We are not small built and a double is not comfortable

I tend to travel with bed socks and a wheat bag. If I’m cold I wear more of my clothes!! I can’t do with being cold

You are the odd one out here.

Good manners is to provide your guests with sufficient decent towels. It’s plain odd to travel with your own and to expect your guests to bring them.

A wheat bag needs a microwave though.

prob not ideal but I’ve left wheatbags on top of radiators to warm them up for later on.

At the in-laws we have a double which is fine, but what gets me is that they have a huge bedroom yet still only have a double bed. They aren't tiny people or anything. We have a kingsize in our tiny bedroom at home but if we had a bedroom the size of theirs I'd definitely have a super king! I guess someone did mention about people finding it hard changing sheets. But my parents have always had two single duvets on theirs which seems a good compromise. Oh well, not my problem, of course!

Small beds with cheap mattresses 😩

U sound really unkind and a moany sort of person OP. I'd hate to have you as a DIL. Bit controlling, bit faux oh my goodness it's fine, Jesus Christ.

even the term boob monster, god, I'd have to wonder what I did wrong with my son. 😅

No, I'm not being sarcastic. My place is not a 5 star hotel (and even 5 star hotels don't have cafetieres in the rooms anyway).

I want my guests to be comfortable too. I always give let them control their own heating, for example, but there are certain things that are just not going to be the same as at home and having to buy new appliances because someone who visits infrequently is a coffee snob is a bit too much.

Not knowing when everyone gets up in the morning, and not having any specific instructions about what to do in the morning. My ideal host would say "we're usually up about 9.00 on a Sunday, but if you wake up earlier, have a shower as it won't wake us, and do make a coffee - I'll show you where everything is". I'm an early riser and have spent a lot of time twitching with impatience in spare rooms...

A damp floor around the loo in the shared bathroom. Or a damp bathmat/rug which could be something to do with the shower or the loo. Both are usually a feature of a house with teenage boys in it, in my experience.

The sort of dog which barks every time you come into the room/leave your bedroom/try and walk down the stairs.

I want my guests to be comfortable too. I always give let them control their own heating, for example, but there are certain things that are just not going to be the same as at home and having to buy new appliances because someone who visits infrequently is a coffee snob is a bit too much.

It's not about being a snob. 😂It's just instant doesn't TASTE like coffee. And it's not coffee. 🤷‍♀️

I'd go mad and buy the coffee bags ( you know, instead of " a new appliance ".

Talk about exaggeration.

But like I said, they're your guests.... @Gwenhwyfar