Would you leave your partner/husband to work abroad for 6 months?

[lenavia]

Have the option of going abroad for 6 months. Have always dreamt of doing this. But dh can’t come. No kids. Recently married. Would you?

Yes.

Yes

It is hypothetical for me now (two small kids, no escape from the domestic day to day!) but I would have definitely considered it. How far away? Opportunities to come back at weekend fairly frequently and/or for a holiday or two in that time? If my DH was supportive and it wasn’t a case of being apart for the whole 6 months without seeing each other then I’d probably do it. Life is short and once you have kids these things become impossible pipe dreams.

I worked away for 18 months Monday-Thursday leaving DH and the dog. We owned our own home. Not quite the same but much more separate lives. Possibly the best time in our relationship if I’m honest. Missing him and being reunited was lovely!

Without kids yes

Yes.

And I did. I actually worked overseas for half of every year for ten years. When we had DS I switched jobs.

No I don’t think so. Not unless there would be some visits!

Yes! I studied abroad and always wanted to move abroad. DC now so no, not unless part of the deal was international school

Edit: you can meet at home/your work city or somewhere in the middle for weekends so definitely do-able subject to other commitments. Perfect timing if you don't have a dog already.

With visits? Yes.

Yes. 6 months fly by. We did it and it was absolute fine

Absolutely yes

No children, yes.

with children, absolutely not. We have both turned down jobs that just had heavy travel elements because it would mean time away from our child.

Where is it?

To buck the trend, no. I hate long distance.

In your circumstances, yes

No, I've done long distance twice before and didn't like it. A month or two maybe.

I might consider it if it was a big European city so getting home for the odd weekend was an option. In reality, the only opportunity I’ve had like this was billed as Amsterdam but turned out to be a commuter town an hour away.

No, I’d be in Los Angeles

No, I would assume you would cheat while out there. Or he would cheat while you are gone. Or you would both cheat. It's not likely to improve your relationship either way.

Fucks sake.

Go op. It could be incredible.

Yes. My husband did. It was fine.

Yes, absolutely. I'm guessing your DH could visit if he wants to? Even if not, I'd still do it.

Oh, and it was Australia so no visits and before the era of mobile phones, Facetime etc. Loads of people have done it - people have gone away for wars, for goodness sake, so a safe 6 months for a job will fly by.

Is consider it in your circumstances. He could come and visit you. Is it likely to benefit your career in a way that you would find useful? Or is it ‘just a job’? Either way it’s still an opportunity I’d be looking into.

Is it definitely only for 6 months? If there's a likelihood that it could be extended /made permanent I think I'd want to be having a conversation around that before I went initially. If you go and absolutely love it and it could be made permanent would he consider moving?

If it was an experience career wise that I couldn't get by staying home then absolutely. If the only experience is that it is somewhere else, then no because I would miss him so so much.