Would you leave your partner/husband to work abroad for 6 months?

[lenavia]

Have the option of going abroad for 6 months. Have always dreamt of doing this. But dh can’t come. No kids. Recently married. Would you?

I would. It's only 6 months, not forever.

No but it's not a dream of mine. If it was something I massively wanted to do then yes.

Yes.
Not much different than being in the army and posted abroad?

Yes, I did before we had kids.

How little faith you must have in your relationship

I’d have said that at the start of my marriage (even though we had a period of LDR at the start).

25 years on, that’s a hell no. Not forgetting yourself in the marriage, and remembering that you are still yourself not just X’s partner, is essential imo.

For half a year from 60

I wouldn't know. Mine are 11 and 13 and the longest I've been apart from them is 1 week when they went abroad.

However my husband is often away for 3-6 months without any visits and no one says anything to him.

Yes.

That's quite upsetting for military wives to hear.

How long have you been together?

Can you afford for DH to come out at two months? Will there be leave for you to come back at four months?

What difference will it make to your life?

But generally I'd say yes, go. If your marriage can't survive this, then I'd be questioning the marriage

Within a year of our marriage I worked abroad for a couple of months then went on to work abroad for several months each year for five years. I loved it. DH didn't seem to mind. But I was never away more than 6 weeks at a time, usually only 3-4 weeks. And after 5 years I got desperately homesick each time. If you can organise for him to visit you a couple of times and you to come home for a brief holiday, it should be fine.

I know I'm wrong and I'm having stern words with myself but I can't help thinking what sort of long term relationship must people have if it can't cope with a bit of separation. But I've always been impatient with the "two hearts beating as one" concept- and I'm impatient with the "Oh, we can't bear to be apart" stuff.

Do it. You may never get the chance again and you may regret / resent missing the opportunity for a long, long time.

No way.

Yes, he can always come to visit and I know that the hearts desire is the soul speaking so that always means is the right path.