Would you leave your partner/husband to work abroad for 6 months?

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Have the option of going abroad for 6 months. Have always dreamt of doing this. But dh can’t come. No kids. Recently married. Would you?

Yes

If it was an amazing opportunity career wise or wage wise yes.

DH did it even though we have kids. It was a life changing opportunity in terms of what we could/did do with the money so short term pain for long term gain

Definitely not. I would never have wanted to be away from my husband for that length of time - no job/money is worth a long separation.

No. But given the kinds of jobs we did and our lifestyle, that kind of thing would never have been on my radar. The nearest we got to that was DH going away on a training course for two weeks !

Definitely. And I have done in the past. 5 months in Australia - and he came out for 2 weeks in the middle.

Absolutely not. Even when DH has just been at the office, he gets home and we kiss and cuddle as though he’s just returned from war. 😅

@11NigelTufnel
No, I would assume you would cheat while out there. Or he would cheat while you are gone. Or you would both cheat. It's not likely to improve your relationship either way."

Blimey. You do know that people can cheat even if they see each other every day?

Wild horses couldn't have dragged me away from dh when we were newly married, half a day apart was enough <wistful sigh>.

Now I'd put up with a few days or a week here and there 😉, but no longer.

That said, this is about what you want. If you want to and you are both happy with the arrangement, then do it.

Fuck no!!!!

I love my dp more than any trip abroad for 6 months - what relationship would you have when you returned?

If dp did this to me that would tell me everything I needed to know about our relationship.

Definitely. Sounds like a great opportunity. 6 months would whizz by. Not the same but my dh got an amazing opportunity to do some work in Singapore, though it was 3 weeks there and 3 weeks at home. This lasted 9 months and we had 1dc at home. It's was fantastic for him and we all survived without him.

There's some insecure people on this thread.

Did it. He visited, as did every one of my family and friends. It was exhausting

Depends on the job and the money. And the destination.

Not to mention how I felt about him 😁

No chance. What's the point in being married if you're going to be apart?

Let me give this some thought ........... HELL YES!

Because marriage doesn't mean an end to being your own person with wants and needs such as career progression which may include travel in some cases.

I'm surprised so many people find the notion of being apart so difficult.

We tend to make decisions that benefit the household as a whole. That doesn't always mean being in the same place at the same time.

Maybe because we met when we were both living and working away from our respective home countries, we're more relaxed about being apart 🤷‍♀️

I was just thinking if our independence has something to do with being immigrants. We spent couple of weeks there and there visiting our countries without each other, something together. Did month there and there apart when things needed sorting there etc. 6 months last stint.

I think it also depends on the opportunity.

If you’d asked me if I’d be happy for DH to work away for 6 months when we had 4 kids I’d have said no chance. However, when the actual opportunity came up and we realised exactly what we could do with the money and the long term impact on our lives it was a no brainer.

I had to leave my husband for a week a few years ago to go to my brother's funeral in Australia with my Mum - it was right in the middle of my daughter's GCSEs so he had to stay at home with her. Aside from the grief aspect, it was the longest week of my life and I hated being away from him. I can't think of any career or money that would be worth doing thst again.

No, I love his company, I’d miss him too much, same with him.

@Cakencookieobsessed it’s only 6 months? What do you think happens with people in the army?

I would, and did. Went to Asia for 6 months back before we had kids. He came out for a week in the middle so I could show him around.

It was the best thing I ever did, we'd been together so long by that point I had started to lose my sense of "self" and it was really nice to make some friends who just knew me for me and not as one half of a couple.

@Sauerkrautsandwich you might be onto something with the 'immigrant' bit. You get used to making your own way without much of a comfort zone when you live in a different country to your family and system you grew up in. We've also had several shorter stints apart when we've each had to spend time in our home country separately too, due to family illnesses or events, but you just get on with it. I actually quite like it when he's gone, and I enjoy travelling alone too!

Yes, I did this (before children). Made a lot of money and our relationship was fine.

LA is not around the corner - about 12 hr flight- but if no children, several visits could be planned during that time. Depends on your relationship- but I say YES - go.