Would you leave your partner/husband to work abroad for 6 months?

[lenavia]

Have the option of going abroad for 6 months. Have always dreamt of doing this. But dh can’t come. No kids. Recently married. Would you?

Yes. If you had kids then possibly not, but you don't so if it's something you've always wanted to do then why would you not take this opportunity.

Loads of people work away for days / weeks / months at a time.

What are the reasons not to go?

Well that's healthy...

One important thing ia to make regular weekly virtual date and keep to it. Might be hard with that big time difference but the regularity helped us

Personally in your situation I wouldn’t have a problem. When we first met DH was in the Forces and over the first 10 years of our relationship did 2 months in Norway, 4 months in Iraq and 7 months in the Falklands, as well as being posted elsewhere in the country which meant we only saw each other at weekends. He was also deployed for 6 months in Afghanistan when our DD was 10 weeks old which was without doubt the toughest time in my life for multiple reasons.

My main advice would be do it but keep communicating as often as you can and don’t expect everything to slot back together easily when you do return - you’ll both have adjusted to your own space and routine so it will take time to adjust back again.

I already do it and have done so more than once.

We were apart for a year previously and currently have been apart for 18 months with no end in sight.

I don't struggle with it, personally, and financially it's a no brainer. I'm currently eyeing up relocating again, from the Middle East to USA, but not sure how feasible it is.

I've successfully managed not to shag my way through the neighbourhood, as has he, as far as I can tell That's not to say it doesn't happen of course, but plenty of people living full time with their partners cheat. Location is irrelevant if that's something you want to do.

Six months will fly by. Do it.

I did, for a year, pre-children. The phone bill was spectacular, but there was no Zoom then, which now makes it far easier and cheaper.
Do it.
Agree dates/times/places for short holidays (maybe the East Coast: it's vaguely half-way) so you meet up as well as Zoom. I have scheduled Zooms with DC who are overseas; which takes account of the time differences and just about works for us both, with emails for anything in between.

No. 6m is a long time. I hate being away from dh and visa versa.

Yes.

We had a period of 4 years where DH spent 2 weeks half the globe away and 2 weeks here, working FT in both locations, on a rotation. I stayed here with early primary school dc.

I left 3 months ago for an almost 4 year posting much closer but still a short flight away. I'm coming back about once a month, but he's staying here with final school year dc. We'll re-evaluate in the summer.

Absolutely.

No I doubt the marriage would be there when I came back. Half a year is a long time at the beginning

Seriously !!!

Yes, I would go

You don't know how long they've been together prior to marriage. I doubt they met and got married a week later.

Six months apart is no time at all.

Yes

Considering the distance, and with no possibility of visits, I don't think I could do it. I've just done 4 months away at my mums 100miles away and it's been very very hard, that was with coming home every 2-3 weeks.

100 miles away and only visiting every 2-3 weeks yikes people commute that to work every day

@CharliesAngels81 ok that's great for them. What's your point. I was caring for a dying parent and was away from my own family and husband for several months. And now my mother's dead and I'm back home so no more 'commuting' for me.

You are projecting your own insecurities here.

Do it OP.

No I wouldn't

Before kids, absolutely.

My husband was in the military so did this frequently, both before and after children. He was allowed one half hour phone call a week and we wrote letters (blueys).
Now he's in a career that takes him away more, but for shorter durations, and I'm training in a career that will also involve travel. Once I'm qualified, we may swap and I'll do the travelling while he's at home. We've been together 21 years. It's doable, especially as a one-off. You just have to make sure to put the effort in with each other.

Yes. And yes again to spend 6 months in LA!

No, probably not.

We did this early in our relationship. Worked really well and close enough (Europe) that we could see each other most weekends.

Yes, as long as I didn't have to live in LA 😉

No, in my previous relationship my then partners work involved lots of travelling, made harder that he was often only in one place for 3-4 days. I hated it, so I quit my job to travel with him, it was either that, he comes home and quits his work, or we split up. I would never be in a relationship with someone again who did a lot of work travel.