Do you view registry office weddings as equal?

[Inyourwildestdreams]

Just wondering what people’s thoughts are on this tbh. If you’re invited to a registry office wedding (reg office then a meal out fully paid for) do you view it as equal to being invited to a “big” wedding in a church/wedding venue etc?

Do you put the same effort in to attending/outfits/a gift?

I think you just need a thick skin -

‘Oh don’t come then - I can invite Jane instead’

The only person that matters is your DP turning up -

Keep the rest simple. I think more people will follow suit!

I think registry office weddings are equal to church weddings (we got married in a RO 34 years ago ☺️) but then, I'm not religious. Maybe religious people feel differently? Anyway, have a lovely wedding OP!

If we listened to my DH's family then we're not married at all because we chose to nick off to a hotel with just our young children and get married with absolutely no guests at all. Best day of my life!!

A register office wedding is a perfectly good one. I had one 20+ years ago, no regrets. So did my db, 10+ years ago, no regrets.

Your family's responses are weird. Crack on regardless.

The person who said they wouldn't wear a suit just because it's a register office is a weirdo. Just tell them that it is actually a smart occasion.

The person who said they wouldn't get a decent present, again is a weirdo. Not much you can do about that. Pretty nasty attitude.

The person who said they wouldn't come into town for a register office - that person doesn't give a shit about you/your spouse to be. Sorry to be blunt, but that's the truth. Who would not bother to attend the wedding of a loved one if they didn't like the venue?! A twat that doesn't care about you.

@Milkand2sugarsplease Go you! Well according to my mother I can't possibly go by Miss My Last Name because I'm married!!!! Disgraceful behaviour! 😆
Oh and I do, BTW, both privately and professionally.

@LorlieS we just couldn't be bothered with all the politics - should we invite x? If we invite x then we really should invite Y. If Y comes then Z won't come. If Z brings their young children, does that mean we have to invite A,B and C's adult children - and all of a sudden our small wedding would have been a right royal affair, no thank you very much. So, we chose no one over everyone and enjoyed every second of it.

How dare you not become Mrs Husband??? Don't you know you belong to him now.... 😜