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What do you look like in your head?

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VampireWeekday · 26/01/2024 19:42

I was talking with friends about body dysphoria today - not the gender kind, but where a person just doesn't feel like their body looks like "the real them" at all, perhaps they perceive their body as very ugly. And it turned out that we (all women) had a whole range of mental images of ourselves in our heads.

Two of my friends think of themselves as really ugly, in a way they admit is disproportionate to what they actually look like, both nice looking women. One friend said she has an almost 2D cartoon like picture of herself in her mind, another that she pictures herself as looking different to what she actually looks like. A few of us think of ourselves as more beautiful than we really are. I'm like this. It's hard to explain: I know what I look like, obviously, and think I look plain and average (can point to features I like and features I don't) but in my head (or my "minds eye" or whatever you call it) I am beautiful, and look a bit like Emma Stone. Hilarious, to say out loud. It's not that I think this when I'm actually trying to seriously picture myself, it's more of a "vibe" or general background feeling. Some people had no idea what we were talking about and either don't picture themselves at all, or picture themselves as lookin exactly like they look like.

So anyway it got me wondering how other people picture themselves when they're not really thinking about it. How do you picture yourself in your own head?

OP posts:
Bobbybobbins · 26/01/2024 19:44

I think I look younger in my head than I actually do. I always looked 'young' for my age but now when I catch a glimpse of myself I know I now look exactly my age!!

Stormbornform · 26/01/2024 19:45

A sexier version of reality 😂

Notmetoo · 26/01/2024 19:46

I look better in my head than I do in real life, slimmer, younger and nicer looking

arethereanyleftatall · 26/01/2024 19:47

I think I permanently look like my absolute best photos.

Windymcwindyson · 26/01/2024 19:48

Still the size 8 I was 20 years ago..
<mahoosive sigh >

WinterLobelia · 26/01/2024 19:49

I think I ought to look like Helena Ravenclaw in Harry Potter. That's how i feel inside anyway.

I actually am 50, top heavy and 3 stone overweight and my silhouette makes me look like a mushroom. I a usually shocked at how ugly i am when I see myself in photos or on a zoom call.

wutheringkites · 26/01/2024 19:50

I think I look better and younger than reality.

I don't think that's a bad thing though - it probably has a positive impact on how I carry myself.

Knackeredhamster · 26/01/2024 19:50

I think I look like me when looking head on in a mirror, like there's no other angle or view.
I only think this must be true because of the sheer shock when I see myself in a changing room mirror and see my side profile.

Just a ball head really, with a larger ball underneath.

colouringindoors · 26/01/2024 19:50

Less fat 😅
Less harassed-looking...

WolfFoxHare · 26/01/2024 19:51

Like I did when I was 18. I looked at myself in the mirror today though and realised I have turned into my mum at my age!

Darkenergy · 26/01/2024 19:51

I'm another one who imagines myself younger and thinner. Always a shock when I see photos.

ChanelNo19EDT · 26/01/2024 19:52

I look like Drew Barrymore.
If I'm right I've outed myself. Or self-deception protects me.

HashBrownandBeans · 26/01/2024 19:53

My mum

Ihaveoflate · 26/01/2024 19:53

I still see myself as how I looked in my 20s. In reality I looked far more tired, wrinklier and altogether flabbier.

Rockandgrohl · 26/01/2024 19:53

In my head I look like I did in my late 20s when I was thin and looked young for my age. In reality I look the ten years older that I actually am and have the eye bags, wrinkles, grey hairs and extra two stone that my two delightful children have given me 🙄

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 26/01/2024 19:56

Hard to say.

I think I have two images of myself, that are interlinked.

One is what I am aiming to see in a mirror when I try on clothes or put on makeup - so what I want to see is me looking like I did 25 years ago - 2 sizes smaller, flat stomach, no muffin top, no wrinkles and a tight jaw line. Hair not a bird's nest.

When I look in the mirror I think I see myself as bigger, older, frizzier and more wrinkly than I am in real life because of the disparity between the image I want to see and what I actually see.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/01/2024 19:57

Thinner
I look at my pants and think they'll never fit me, but they do. I've taken to looking for women who are probably my size and reminding myself I look like them. Hoping it'll help me stick to my diet.

SiobhanSharpe · 26/01/2024 19:59

Thinner and younger than I actually am. And not at all like my Mum and her sister, definitely not.

Minniemouse85 · 26/01/2024 20:00

I went to the hairdressers today and my god that was a reality check of how unattractive I have become.
i scrub up ok with a full face of freshly applied makeup and hair just done.
An hour in, I look a mess.
makeup free I think I’m ugly.
I’ve always been slim tho 🤷🏼‍♀️

fancyfrogs · 26/01/2024 20:12

In my head I look awful the majority of the time. Fat and tired and definitely not pretty. It's not nice Sad

I'm 30, 5ft9 and a size 10-12. So logically, I know I'm not 'fat' and hope I don't actually look like how I see myself.

LittleGreenDuck · 26/01/2024 20:17

I frequently look in the mirror and see my mother looking back at me.

ArcticBells · 26/01/2024 20:17

I still look 31 (30 years ago)!

SwedishEdith · 26/01/2024 20:18

I've got the opposite of body dysmorphia when I'm walking around. I think think I'm sophisticated and stylish. It is horrific when I catch sight of my reflection by surprise.

thistimelastweek · 26/01/2024 20:19

In my head, fucking fabulous.
In the mirror, not so much.

TitusMoan · 26/01/2024 20:20

I’ve had this my whole life. I don’t think I care any more - but I’ve constantly been surprised at my reflection and photographs. I just don’t look how I feel.

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