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DRY HARD 2: DRY HARDER! Dry January 2024, Thread#2 🧃🧋

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HPLikecraft · 10/01/2024 20:51

Thread#2...

Let's keep going!

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PoachedDregs · 24/01/2024 22:27

Can't believe I've just found this thread now! I'm doing DJ, I've only done it once before 10 years ago. In that time I've had two pregnancies and various other times I've abstained. Never had a problematic relationship with alcohol.

But in the few months before Christmas my drinking had really increased. I was drinking most evenings. Felt like I was losing control of it.

Proud to be at the end of day 24!

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 24/01/2024 23:58

@asleepattheshop

I tried one of my DD's when she decided she didn't want to take them anymore as they made her feel 'weird' .

I know it's not advised but I just wanted to see/ feel a glimpse of what she might be feeling,

Things got really bad for her (no school for 2 years, multiple hospital emissions and a lot more) . I can't comment on too much but a dose of meds (my daughter is autistic) can go either way.

asleepattheshop · 25/01/2024 07:31

@lemonsaretheonlyfruit that is a lot to go through. I hope things have improved for your dd. Ds has autism as well but things have got easier as he's got older, he is more in control of his environment now - I could weep if I thought too long about his school experience. He says the ADHD meds quieten his mind but they heighten his autism so it's a juggling act but as long as it's him making the decisions he can cope with the downsides. How's your dd now, is she still at school?

SideshowAuntSallyx · 25/01/2024 08:35

I'm not a big drinker maybe 4 gins or bottles of beer on a Friday and Saturday night and not every weekend maybe 2 or 3 a month. My downfalls are work events where the bar's usually free and people, like my boss, like a drink.

However, I've noticed that since doing this I'm sleeping so much better in general. I actually woke up before 6am this morning, and was up and dressed by 7.15.

Someone said I looked really well the other day and like I'd lost weight. The scales say otherwise
but maybe as I'm in the gym more and putting the effort in now I don't have a hangover it's toning me up and shaping me more.

FlyingPandas · 25/01/2024 10:27

Checking in for day 25. Feeling good overall, skin is definitely clearer and I feel a bit trimmer too (which is something of a miracle with all the junk food I've been eating in lieu of wine!). Haven't been sleeping as well these last few days but that's down to feeling a bit under the weather with a cold, I think.

Main positive is that I've reached a point now where it doesn't even occur to me to think about wine during the week. Negative is that I'm still not really looking forward to weekends. They just feel like an extension of the week and a bit joyless.

I really want to get to a point where I just have a couple of glasses Friday/Saturday and then stay AF the rest of the time. Whether I have the longterm willpower remains to be seen!

Well done to everyone, keep on going, only a few days now!!

asleepattheshop · 25/01/2024 10:35

My skin hasn't improved, my rosacea is worse than ever. I guess at least I know alcohol isn't a trigger for my skin conditions or my headaches, because that's the usual advice I get - cut down on alcohol and it will solve a multitude. Sleep is better though.

Yestodessertplease · 25/01/2024 10:40

I'm still here. I went to book club last night which was nice,I didn't miss alcohol at all although I slept really badly. I'm wondering if sugary drinks late at night are bad for sleep too as the body is trying to process it? I will be back on my sleep tea tonight.

I did however love driving myself home at the end of the evening and going to bed sober 💪🏼

Neptunium93 · 25/01/2024 10:46

Morning all. Another damp day, but not too rainy so hoping to get out for a walk later, which definitely helps set me up for an AF evening.

Thought I would summarise the results of my experiments with the various alternatives, which may be of interest to some, and also to help me determine which of them, if any, might become a regular fixture in my new drinking regime once this period of abstinence comes to an end.

Spirits

I've tried Seedlip 'gin' in the past with tonic and loved it, so during the month I had a mocktail over lunch with friends, which was lovely and just like the real thing. I'm likely to choose the AF version over a standard cocktail going forward. The worst thing about real cocktails is that they are too intoxicating and I can't have more than one, or drink wine afterwards, so this is an easy decision.

Beer

I tried Budweiser 0%, Guinness 0%, and ON Beer, which contains various herbs that supposedly have an uplifting effect. The Budweiser was thirst-quenching, but not great - I'd have preferred a glass of sparkling water. The Guinness was pretty much indistinguishable from the real thing, so a definite winner. My favourite was the ON Beer, which has great complexity and flavour, and (possibly) a relaxing effect. As with the spirits, I'd probably choose an AF beer over the real thing in future on the few occasions that I drink it, since I tend to want it for the taste and refreshment, and the alcohol is neither here nor there.

AF Wine

I've never found an AF wine that I liked in the past, so the only one I tried was a small glass of my TT friend's Nosecco. Unfortunately it was a bit too sweet and uninteresting for my taste, but then I don't enjoy real Prosecco, so perhaps I was expecting too much. I think for anyone like me who likes their white wines bone dry, AF wine is a non-starter. (I didn't try any reds this time round.)

CBD Drinks

I've drunk a fair amount of the Goodrays over the past few weeks and have now tried all of the flavours. My favourite is the Passionfruit and Pomelo, which is not too sweet, and has a pleasant aftertaste. They definitely have a relaxing effect, which I didn't like on the first occasion, but came to appreciate. I don't always fancy a sparkling fruit-based drink, but I will definitely be incorporating these into my new regime on AF nights.

Sentia

Ah... the Sentia! I had the Black version, which has a strong peppery kick and contains less sugar than the Red. It goes well with tonic, or even just plain water as a (sort of) red wine substitute. This definitely has an effect similar to alcohol - in fact I felt like I had cheated on the nights that I drank it! I'll definitely be buying it again and having it as a once a week treat (as it's quite expensive).

Conclusion

So, all in all, there are some brilliant options out there, which I believe will help me with moderating my intake going forward, but still nothing to compare with actual wine, sadly!

disappearingfish · 25/01/2024 16:51

@SideshowAuntSallyx snap - I'm not that great at regulating at a free bar! There was one at an event yesterday but I was driving so that made the decision for me.

This has been the easiest DJ I've ever done, however I think it's a function of age as I really can't handle the hangovers anymore. The final dry weekend will be pretty easy as I'm away with DD as she's competing in a sports event. I'd like to keep going into February and like a lot of people on this thread, really keep alcohol to a minimum in the future.

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 25/01/2024 18:49

Another 'advert for not drinking' post...

I have had a few social occasions in jan and have not drunk. All fine.

I was in two minds ahead of a work lunch yesterday. I took the decision to drink yesterday. Not that it needs justifying but as it turns out I don't regret it.

It was lunch in a Michelin starred restaurant with me and 3 others - it was a 'big' work anniversary. I felt extremely lucky and it's not something that happens (if ever)

We had the tasting menu in which each course was paired with wine. I absolutely could have done it with no booze but It was such a special afternoon that I went for it. Then we went to the pub afterwards.

It was so much fun.. but my goodness have I felt like shit all day. I still don't regret it, and my own experience would have been less fun without it.. and in a way it's a good thing as maybe I needed a reminder of just how awful hangovers are!

I have sat at work feeling slightly sick all day and ate a load of haribos after an unhealthy lunch. I'm going straight to bed after traitors!

Glad to be back on the wagon today!

vinoandbrie · 25/01/2024 19:44

Still here, AF, I’m hanging in and doing ok, I’ll be glad to get tomorrow over with work wise, roll on the (AF) weekend.

Giveandtaketime · 25/01/2024 19:55

Wilkolampshade · 24/01/2024 18:04

Oh goodness I'm sooooo sorry, and sooooo proud of myself and all of you but blimey, would I love a delicious glass of a fat, round, complex burgundy now.... Or frankly, even a bad one from the corner shop.

BUT, deep breaths, not gonna have one. No way. Not today. Nopeitty nope nope.

🤣🤣🤣
Stick with it

Papyrophile · 25/01/2024 20:02

Still AF. And very jealous... DH has lost 6kg somewhere, and I have only lost 1kg. Only a few more days folks!

Decent AF wine would be the Holy Grail. But it's all too sweet and thin. I am taken with the suggestion to try mocktails, and may give that a go.

wellitywellness · 25/01/2024 21:08

Excellent post @Neptunium93 ! I wonder how soon drinks like Sentia will advance, diversify and come to disrupt the alcohol market - like vapes to cigarettes. What a world it would be if we could all get harmlessly shit-faced, with none of the consequences...

As for now though, my take on Adrian Chiles' excellent 'Drinkers Like Me' book and documentary - which are highly recommended!

https://wellitywellness.com/2024/01/25/dry-january-25-drinkers-like-me/

Dry January #25: Drinkers Like Me

‘I always want to be able to take a quiet early evening pint or two with a friend, share a bottle of wine with dinner somewhere, and yes occasionally drink too much at a wedding […]. This is the gr…

https://wellitywellness.com/2024/01/25/dry-january-25-drinkers-like-me

DJ24 · 25/01/2024 21:30

Checking in. Still AF. Still getting pangs when I smell food cooking.

So I’m trying to find different drinks to go with different foods. I tried the fever tree Mexican lime this week. It was ok, I quite liked it when I got used to it. Seemed like it could work as a substitute for food where I’d have a cider.

Tomorrow might be a test. First night out this month. Last time I went to this event I had a pint and a half of cider. But I think I’ll be ok.

gingercat02 · 25/01/2024 23:05

Day 23 is done, or 17&6 if I'm truly honest. Still 23 AF days must be doing me some good. It would usually have been about 9 so far in January.
Well done, everyone 👏

HPLikecraft · 25/01/2024 23:57

A quick pop in from me to say we're

80.6%

through at the end of today.
Tomorrow sees the beginning of the last weekend of Dry January. However, we are not unduly bothered about weekends any more, are we?

That's the (AF)spirit! 💪💪👊

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ShufflingAlong · 26/01/2024 04:33

Completed 4 weeks AF for me. Still another 2 weeks to go for my goal.

Sonolanona · 26/01/2024 07:47

Still dry here...and honestly haven't even thought about it on weekdays. Weekends however drag (which is daft as I had a large wine every night)
On 31st Jan we are flying to Australia, taking our 3 adult kids, son in law and toddler grandson (!!) to spend a couple of glorious weeks with our eldest son who lives there. We also have a birthday that day and a massive achievement to celebrate . I'm going to hang on til it's feb 1st in Australia ... but then yes. I will be having a nice merlot! I think it may help 20+ hours on a plane with a 2 yr old!!!!

I am planning on having a nice holiday with alcohol, but then doing weekends only once back home. I am very happy to have got this far!

pollyannaperspective · 26/01/2024 07:48

Life continues as DJ continues - mostly average days, work OK, life OK, nothing exceptional. But that is good enough for now, for me. It means I can focus on my DH's health better, can be a shoulder to cry on for a friend and progress some domestic projects that, for drinking me, just occupied headspace and were part of the reason for 'drowning out' the 'noise'.
Out this evening with friends - some drinking, some not - and I am driving so AF for me. But I know we will all have a great evening.
To fellow DJs - have a good Friday and last weekend of January and remember there are more AF weekends behind you this month than there are still to go. We've got this.

december2020 · 26/01/2024 07:49

Checking in - still AF!

I hade a work lunch yesterday that usually always includes a glass of wine or a beer or something.
But surprised myself in asking for a mocktail.
The mocktail wasn't great and the food was delicious but so filling - I couldn't finish a single course!!

I skipped dinner and this morning I'm still feeling a little full.
Hoping to do a run today after work.

Can't believe it's under a week now! Anyone else feeling a bit weird going into February now after doing DJ? For me it's that I've set my moderation for February (50% AF minimum) but knowing I'm letting myself drink the other 50% feels oddly strange as DJ comes to an end.

pangolinfan · 26/01/2024 08:05

I had a planned night off for my 60th birthday yesterday. Enjoyed some delicious red wine, slept badly and am now back on it. Thinking ahead to Feb now with optimism that I will be able to moderate to 1 or 2 drinking days a week (and half a bottle max - hopefully less, since that is definitely enough to disrupt sleep). Have definitely resolved to avoid those habitual (and habitually terrible) drinks - the awful glass of wine at the pub that only has 2 options/local arts centre/ school event which really isn't worth it, and just drink nice stuff!

Wilkolampshade · 26/01/2024 09:22

👋 Still here. Still AF.
Some good news, for us anyway, DD1 found out she had been successful in a job application (yay!!!) which means a promotion out of Graduate level and more £££ ..v necessary as her rent in Bedbug Mansions, was HALF her salary. This will make a huge difference to her, and has helped her rapidly dwindling self belief no end. Really really really wanted a drink to celebrate but hey ho.
DH not helping by going away for work this Sunday and not coming back until Wednesday pm. He'll stay AF very easily with the distraction of work and also being surrounded by non drinkers but I will be sorely tempted in those last days.... He's always worked away a lot and it's very much how I got into the habit of drinking too much what with the boredom and loneliness of an evening.

So, I'll prepare for success by making a point of having new books to read, clean sheets on the bed and a smelly candle or two for the evenings.

Neptunium93 · 26/01/2024 10:10

Morning all - 80%!!! How amazing 😃Time seems to have flown looking back. Looking forwards from 1st January it seemed like an eternity...

I watched the Adrian Chiles documentary in bed last night (see link in @wellitywellness 's post). I think he has had more of an impact on me than any of the 'Quit Litters'. Partly because he isn't preachy, and wants to moderate, not quit. But mostly because of his frankness about the amount he (and others like him) are / were putting away (upwards of 60 units, often into 3 digits). Of course I'd read all about the heavy drinking middle classes and the risks to their health, but mostly no numbers are put on it, other than to say that they are breaching the recommended limits. In some ways it's a relief, as I don't drink anywhere near that amount (28 units was typical last year, occasionally up to 35), but mostly it's a wake-up call to cut down while I still have control.

So February approaches... I still haven't pinned down exactly when I will end my abstinence, but it will be sometime in the next 2-3 weeks. I might get a nice bottle of Chablis to savour over a few days when the time comes 😊