Autistic women assemble! #3

[Nepmarthiturn]

This is a thread for autistic women to connect, chat, vent, laugh, share and seek advice and solidarity (small talk and word mincing not required). 😊

Any autistic women newly finding the thread are very welcome to join us (even if awaiting diagnosis) but we'd be grateful if others could leave us alone please…

Previous threads:

1

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4777843-autistic-women-assemble

#2
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4865805-autistic-women-assemble-2

So am I! Autisitic and I can multitask lol
I am actually giving a bit of a roastig in that thread too. I am actually enjoying it today.

Many congratulations!

We've eaten our chicken now. It was yummy.

I know look at me not all dumb and shit. I think I need to step back from that thread. Unreal.

Fucks sake, are people really that thick? There’s sobuch wrong with that question, on a public forum that I just can’t get my head around US not understanding boundaries.

“I’ve been a teacher for 34 years ….”

well then you’ll remember that there used to be SPECIAL SCHOOLS you stupid cow!

I’ve been away this weekend on a “Lakeland walk” in aid of a charity close to work. I’ve slept in a tent for 2 nights and walked up a mountain with(out) team mates who left me behind. I’m all out of fucks for neurotypicals.

Oh. My God. It’s the plastics in our furniture.

im going to throw out my carpets and my sofas and the Tupperware that I’ve spent years collecting and my whole family will be cured.

wait! That will make us all just like those wankers 🙄

Ooohhh i didn't know this existed 🙋🏻‍♀️ i am AuDHD

I am not clicking on that thread. I'm just home from a lovely steak dinner with DD. They know us at our local restaurant and give us a special little table for 2 in a quiet corner. It has been delightful.

It is my birthday tomorrow and I'm not letting a bunch of fucked up neurotypicals piss on my chips.

Fuck em.

Welcome 🙂

Had to look at it, didn't I.

sigh

I shall now go away and research the term "spectrum"

... and write a learned paper on "misunderstandings and wilful ignorance related to the concept of the autistic spectrum in the general population, as represented by daily mail readers and others who offer their ill -informed opinions on mumsnet"

(I won't)

Hello, @PartyPartyYeah

Hello from me too @PartyPartyYeah

Hi everyone

Is it ok to join this thread even if undiagnosed?

I've done a screening and it said I have a high chance of being autistic but I have yet to see my GP about it.

I'm struggling with life in general, especially my emotions. I recently reconnected with an old friend after 25 years and we were talking every day. I now barely hear from them and I take it so personally like, what have I done wrong, they must not like me etc. Are these emotions common with autism? I can't seem to understand social rules and interactions. I don't know how to interpret them.

Hi Rosie. Yes you're welcome to join. I think it mentions something in out opening post about awaiting diagnosis. It can be a very difficult time when you've just done that initial screener and you've yet to see the GP. My advice would be to get the appt booked as you've got nothing to lose and a lot to gain by seeking diagnosis (a much better understanding and acceptance of yourself is something we largely agree on here)

Hi also to @PartyPartyYeah

I have been lurking here for a while and finally actually contacted my GP about a referral for an ADHD/Autism assessment.
I did the AQ50 form online and got 33, which is similar to the scores DD and DS got (for behaviour I thought was normal but turns out to be fairly ND).
Despite putting off going on AskMyGP for months because it involves logging on at exactly 8am (time blindness is not helpful for this), they haven't even responded over 2 hours later, so now I'm overthinking it and have to fight the thought that they've decided I'm not even worth referring.
Yesterday I had to get DH to take me home from church because a patch of my hair was hurting which made the people noise unbearable. He's very understanding and didn't even quibble the hair thing even though it sounds absurd.
That was the point I realised that l just can't keep masking and need to get a diagnosis.

Hi @InMySpareTime yes, it definitely sounds like you've reached that point that most of us did.

I don't know anything about AskMyGp but I'm guessing there's a triage system. I'd reckon that anything like infections and kids needing to be seen probably get a reply in a few hours, I think other things are usually given 24 hours.

I don't know if there's any way of popping into the surgery. I know they are all different these days. I was lucky in that I rang up, arranged an appt, got referred.

Best of luck. Don't lose hope!

P.S. @InMySpareTime me and DD had to stop going to church as we couldn't tolerate it any more. We had actually been enjoying it during the Pandemic as it was all socially distanced, but at Christmas 2022 it all became too busy and crowed so Christingle 2022 was the last time we attended. It's a shame as it's a beautiful village church (one people try and lie about where they live in order to get married in) We still enjoy quiet walks around the churchyards now and then though.

DH is often on the sound rota so I can sit with him in the sound desk area at the back, away from the people and the bright lights. It's mostly the refreshments afterwards I can't handle.
I am in charge of the church library, which suits me fine. I can go into church when it's quiet and sit for a while alphabetising books to calm myself. The irony is that I haven't actually read a whole book in over a year as my ME/CFS has destroyed my working memory.
Unfortunately I can't get to the GP unless DH works from home to drive me there as I'm mostly housebound. I'll have to keep waiting for AskMyGP (no response as yet).

Happy Birthday @RainbowZebraWarrior 😁

I can't remember if I've posted on these threads before, apologies if I'm repeating myself (I'm in state of grief, so my memory is a bit cloudy at the moment).

I'm autistic, diagnosed around 10 years ago in my early 50's after years of being fobbed off my numerous medical 'professionals'.

I haven't read the whole thread yet, but I will. It's good to see a space for autistic women to come together.

Thank you so much Clarice! 😁

Your user name rings a bell, so I've either 'seen' you elsewhere, or maybe you've posted here before. I hope you're OK (you mentioned being in a state of grief)

I totally get that. I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndome, and with it comes CFS. I never have many spoons left at the end of the day, so I don't have the energy to read either. I managed to flick through a food magazine yesterday though as I was in bed most of the day. I have one Audiobook which I play over and over (Nigel Slater's Christmas Chronicles) as I find it rather soothing. I had high hopes of maybe finding some more Audiobooks via my library, but I cannot find anything to interest me.

I finally got a response. It was "please fill in this ADHD screening questionnaire".
Hopefully this means the process is actually starting.

Happy Birthday to RainbowZebraWarrior!

Happy birthday @RainbowZebraWarrior !

Aww, love it!! Thanks Shell ❤️

Thank you so much Snowy!