Hands up if you've had a sh*t day 🙋‍♀️

[Comfysock]

My worst Christmas ever!!!

Blimey are you ok??

Yes, a very difficult day. A family member has unexpectedly had a recurrence of their illness. Feel worried and upset and couldn’t relax at all.
Tried to put on a cheerful front, but so glad it’s over.

Teen was on a raging angry snippy mood just wanting arguments from Xmas eve onwards.

i get the lack of friends is rough. I can’t make people like DC and trying to explain without being blunt that personality can put people off so you just have to try the splatter approach and join many groups to meet new people isn’t going well.

not having any family except each other is rough. Bit it’s better than the alternative; alcoholics and toxicity.

But I can’t fix either of them.

these are the cards we’ve been dealt and we have to work with them the best we can. On day DC will figure out the family and friends eventually chosen are worth the current quiet xmases.

Christmas is so overrated it’s untrue.

1. you end up spending a fortune
2. somebody will get ill
3. you’ll end up regretting that third round of puddings
4. somebody will wind you up
5. the presents will be a lucky dip, unless you’ve specified a list
6. Somebody will get annoyed with you
7. weather most likely to be drizzly depressing grey cloud
8. if you have small kids you will be up at stupid o’clock. If you have teenagers they’ll spend tbe day glued to their phones and ocasionadme grunt at you
9. telly will be the same old rubbish
10. next day you’ll realise it’s all actually a massive marketing joke, there’s no ‘magic’, and the next pay day is a million days away

So sorry for your loss x

Is he with his own Parents or his own family.
Sounds married sorry

I've had a shit Christmas as my partner and I split up on the 23rd. It's totally fucked the whole festive season. There'll be other years. But I was so looking forward to some quality time together and now it's just all gone. I have to return all the lovely pressies I'd got for his Xmas and birthday in early jan and just feel so sad. Breakups are horrible but at Christmas is just pants.

The last few years, my husband and I have agreed not to buy for adults, only the children. I'm crap at buying gifts anyway! We had a lovely day, with a stunning dinner, cooked by my husband. My dd8 has been ill with a high temperature, aching all over and we ran out of calpol! Thank god for the shop near us!! Merry Christmas all and tomorrow is another day 🥰

Yep, shit over here too.

We live in the family home, so it's where every one comes back to on Christmas however for the past 4 years we've had DS, who is quite high needs autistic.

Now DS loves Christmas he's always loved it, and now he's 4 he can finally understand the season of it and we spent all yesterday hyping him up for Santa coming, to our own detriment as he wouldn't sleep!

He's a terrible sleeper as it is, but that meant we were playing little elves till early hours or the morning, and as soon as DS woke up visitors arrived and he could not get any of his morning routine out of the way before guests just starting piling in and getting in his face or showing off.

Boundaries kept getting crossed and me and DS kept having to take timeouts upstairs which just really felt like fun jail for him and every one else's inability to read the room just had me spiralling.

Then he was too overwhelmed to enjoy the rest of the day. It's been a nightmare.

I had a lovely day until 5pm when my DC's father came to pick them up, he'll have them now until NYD.

I remember having a sob last year when it was the same arrangements but was able to bounce back quickly despite it being the first year. I've not been able to this year for some reason and have spent much of the evening in tears on my own.

Tomorrow I'm seeing my lovely DP and we'll have the week together which I'm so looking forward so I feel very lucky in that regard - but tonight I can't seem to shake the sadness...or the anger towards my total knob of a soon to be ex husband.

I was worried it would be awful as it’s the first year without my beloved gran. She was my world, and really was the definition of Christmas for us. Mum (one of 4) and I took on all the burden of her care (rest of the family did nothing) and she died at home at Easter.
Wind on to Christmas. Yesterday I was so sad and anxious but kept going for my mum.
This morning we went to morning church. Long story but my grandad was vicar of that church in the 70s and it was where mum and uncles grew up. I always feel grans presence there. And my dear friend (who knew and ‘loved my gran) is now vicar there! Poor thing was exhausted and had hardly any voice and a terrible cough after taking over 12 services this week including 3 funerals, not finding time to eat and not getting any rest. Mum asked jokingly if she had someone making her lunch, and she got a bit upset saying her husband had decided to go up north to his family ‘because my schedule would mean he wouldn’t see me much anyway’ and son hadn’t come home. Broke my heart. She is such a kind lady who would do so much for anyone. We insisted she come home with us and we had lunch at my Mum’s and took care of her all afternoon and we were all smiling and sharing stories about gran, who I hope is proud of us all. She would never have seen anyone lonely, sad and poorly on Christmas Day.
So I expected far worse. It was sad, but we made good of it. I hope everyone else on here has a better time of it soon.

I offered to play board games with them or watch a movie and got told to f off*.

RoseMartha Bloody hell. Are they usually this rude? Next year I’d going by yourself to a nice hotel somewhere or an air bnb in a beautiful place and let them organise their own Christmas.

Yeah… not the best tbh. To top it off I lost my cool with my DS and feeling really rubbish about it.

I think Christmas should only be every other year to give people some respite from the utter relentlessness of the shopping, planning, cooking, cleaning, wrapping presents, making arrangements, extra socialising, and the bloody expense. I wish I could only have edited highlights rather than the grinding slog to get everything done on time. Personally I had a reasonable day, my presents were lovely, all were so thoughtful and made me feel loved but I have this core of sadness about some of the stuff that is happening in my family. I have a couple of friends whose teenagers have all but ruined the day for them, another friend has Covid for the 4th time and is not at all well. Even though January is a bastard month with at least 5 weeks in it, I do welcome it and the pressure to live the impossible dream disappears again until mid November

Another member of the D&V gang here. Not sure if it's Norovirus or the effects of two types of antibiotics I've never had before. Doesn't matter, I suppose, when the effects are the same!

Was supposed to be at partner's mother's today. He 'hosts' on her behalf as she's too old/infirm to do so herself. He's a brilliant cook and thrives on the chaos of cooking for 18 people - reduced to 17 in my absence.

The only real bright spots in my day were when I received loads of videos/pictures of my great nieces and nephews enjoying the results of Santa's visit to them. And, when I received thanks from those to whom I'd given gifts - they all seemed genuinely pleased.

Feeling utterly wiped out but I've had worse Christmases when I've had proper 'flu i.e. bedridden and being carried to the toilet.

I hope all of us who've had a miserable time this year are first in the queue for a fabulous time next year!

Just me and DH, and he gave me some beautiful and thoughtful presents. We had the day together, as usual, my favourite thing. I know this is petty, but I would have loved to have had a card or some acknowledgement from my kids for a change. This year, as always, I have given/spent so much on them, getting them out of financial difficulty, house deposit etc. - to the tune of $80K. I have cancelled plans for travel and something nice I had planned to buy. This happened last year too, and the one before, but I thought that they might do something this time as I'm getting old now and with health issues, every Christmas could be my last. I also had a serious fall 10 days ago, requiring stitches and resulting in painful bruising. Apparently mother is immortal and dispensable. Bitter and twisted? Moi?

Christmas should be officially moved to the 29th February imo.

Yep shit day here too. I'm very seriously unwell, with no available treatment or cure. My mum is only just out of hospital with having sepsis and my dad is in the last stages of heart failure. My DH and kids have been wonderful though, doing everything and giving me the most thoughtful presents, so I know I can't complain as much as most. Hugs to all who need them 💕

Not really shit but definitely pretty meh. I want to enjoy it but what with juggling my ex coming over in the morning for the sake of my DS (and thinking he and his GF are having a lovely romantic Christmas together), dealing with odd less than relaxing family dynamic with my family for the day and finding myself watching TV on my own (again) later in eve, it always leaves me with a sense of disappointment and kind of emptiness. Christmas somehow seems to always highlight what's wrong in my life. Which is odd as I'm usually pretty optimistic. I treat it as something to get through if I'm being really honest- although that's not how I want to be and it makes me feel terrible for my DS, although I think I hide it pretty well. I find it really draining and prefer Boxing Day when it's usually just me and DS.

THIS a thousand times this.

DH had a call from his brother whilst in the car picking kids up on Christmas Eve . “ Happy Christmas ! “ they say . “ Not really , Mum’s been found dead “ says the brother .

Went downhill from there , really .

The morning was good, had some lovely presents and lots of chat and laughs with my husband and our adult sons.

My sister isn’t aware that every Christmas I play what I call ‘Christmas Chicken’ with her, basically I don’t offer to host my parents until as late as I can (now just my Dad, Mom died last year) in the hope that my sister might get in first. She’s a lot older than me and has never offered to host in 47 years of living away from home. 2020 aside, I’ve hosted my parents every year since 1998.

It’s always been a chore, my parents aren’t/weren’t fun chatty people. My Dad’s been here today and we’ve had to find something for him to watch on TV, he settled on reruns of a dull 70s sitcom. I don’t think I’ve ever been so bored in my entire life. I honestly couldn’t think of anything to say. Numb best describes how I’ve felt, and resentful that yet again my sister is in her house having the Christmas she wants.

you know i wouldnt mind so much if Christmas was like when I was a kid. Shops basically shut for seven days save the newsagents and corner shop, so you got a sense of a break and change of routine.

But no, Boxing day sales tomorrow and everything back to normal day after with the Easter Eggs starting to display....

i think your sister has beat you at Christmas chicken 47 times in a row now :-)

It wasn’t shite but I feel like I ruined everyone else’s. I was ok first thing in the morning to watch the kids open presents but then was so ill I had to take myself to bed followed by a trip to hospital. My husband was landed with the responsibility of all the cooking ( something he done really well) I need a do over.