Hands up if you've had a sh*t day 🙋‍♀️

[Comfysock]

My worst Christmas ever!!!

Hand up here!
Started off ok but then fell out with my DH about Christmas presents. Then got the silent treatment off him as I cooked the Christmas Dinner for 7. Then one of my guests didn't come because he was ill. Just to top off my shit day I am now in A and E with my DS who has had an asthma attack.

Yes shit day here too, poorly 3yo and awful in-laws. I dread it every year. I wish I could just opt out of it but every year conclude it's my cross to bear for the children!

Solidarity comfysock it's so hard. I'm not in the UK so no advice on accessing treatment, but I suspect some points apply across borders.

Such as: psychiatry is inherently sexist, so mothers are convenient scapegoats but easily dismissed.

Nobody ever has enough time or resources.

It can be hard even to keep track of how things are going wrong with supposed treatment.

You need a diplomat's sweet talk, cunning and persistence.

Do try to find someone to talk to IRL, simply describing a situation to a sympathetic listener can make it much clearer. DM if you want (but I'll be off Internet for the next few days).

Another one in the D&V club, which is great 2 weeks post Covid. Utterly exhausted, and we had already been at my in laws 2 days when it struck, so trying to be pleasant, when I feel everything but (currently hiding from my toddlers). Hugs to everyone here, I see lots of worse things than pooping oneself, hope you’re all doing a bit better x

My dad died on Christmas Day… colds are not the worst it gets.

Yes its been pretty crap.
Ex husband and his girlfriend were rude, out of order and controlling over the phone. .
Teenagers with attitude who just about managed to open presents about 10am and eat dinner round the table with me. Rest of the time I have been on my own in the lounge or doing dinner or clearing up while they have been in their room on their phones. I offered to play board games with them or watch a movie and got told to f * off.
Had trouble with the meat and had to go to the convenience store to buy chicken breasts just before it shut at 3. Ended up eating just before five instead of 1.

Weather has been driving rain . I would have popped out for a decent walk if it had been dry.

Family dynamic issues meant we could not see them today as we usually do.

I did however have a long soak in the bath to try and cheer myself up but still feeling lonely.

A bit meh. I live on my own and don’t drive so it’s quite isolating with no public transport. Also had a rough time for various health reasons just before Christmas and feeling it a bit. Have promised myself a holiday away next Christmas.

We've had an amazing day. Until I came up to bed just after 10 and found that someone's dog (we have 2 of our own plus had 2 family dogs all day as well) has pissed all through the bed. Including my one true indulgence of a White Company dry clean only bedspread, duvet, even gone through to the mattress protector. I've just had to strip the whole bed off (only went on clean yesterday) and now have about 5 loads of laundry to do first thing plus a wrecked bedspread.

And I am absolutely fecking seething. Mine have never done anything like this and I've got a funny feeling it was my Mum's dog as they didn't put her out for a wee all day "as it's wet, and she won't wee". Won't piss on wet grass but a lovely clean bed is obviously fair game.

D+V club here too!

inconsiderate visitors on Christmas Eve dropping in they had D+V day before.

no Christmas dinner today and doesn’t look likely as someonelse started vomiting now 😡

It’s been on the whole nice but has been quite tense, underwhelming and shit. Roll on better times for those who have had a hard day today ❤️

DCat died suddenly on 23rd. We're all devastated. It's been a bloody ordeal this year.

Mine was ok. Everyone loved their presents, teenagers in great form but for me, it felt, I dunno, very flat. Spent so much money, time and effort and it just feels meh. Maybe I expect too much but I broke my back providing the very best Christmas and dinner I could and I feel it’s too much effort. Maybe I will feel differently tomorrow when I can relax a little. Just feel very burnt out and depleted while everyone else is living their best life..

Yep worst Christmas, worked 12 hours, came home to do Christmas at home, which l would rather have left until tommorow but DP wanted presents, then bloody moaned about the presents l bought, which l really tried hard to get what she wanted, l dont care she wants to exchange 2 off them but at least wait until tommorow to tell me...

Not the worst Christmas I've had - at least I slept 7 hours last night unlike previous years - but DCs father hasn't contacted us for four weeks and there was no communication yesterday or today. I thought he might at least have brought them gifts or phoned them. If nothing else, it's firmly underlined in red pen what a complete and utter J. Hunt he is - but sad for them.

It’s my eleventh Christmas bedridden with severe ME and I have been on my own since midday, but nice morning with my mum.

Get yourself down the shops in the New Year and bloody treat yourself.

Wishing you all a happier 2024. Hope it brings everything you desire.

Yes pretty shite here too. It’s just that feeling of loss of self-worth. The expectation that Christmas is about satisfying everyone else’s needs and mine count for nothing. Never felt so low at Christmas but think it’s the Instagram effect. No family other than DH and DC 8, 10 and 12. No presents for me of course. DH ultra high earner but doesn’t believe in spreading any joy so haven’t got a present in years.

So sorry. Agree treat yourself v soon xx

That's absolutely appalling @FlyingCherub. Perfectly justified in seething - I'd be punching a wall if I discovered that when just about to fall into bed on Christmas Day. Your mother should pay to replace that valuable quilt and something towards the laundry costs - what an idiot.

Ex before today or just the last few hours ?

DH has has a horrid flu bug and has had several asthma attacks over the last few days. I am very worried about him. I also have ME and this has had me teetering on an episode. I am struggling to stay afloat.
Despite this PILs expected to be waited on hand and foot.

ok so far xmas dinner.went round to neighbours buffet and drinks in the evening,you could not make it up their dog had a bad tummy all in their bedroom their little stood in it wiped it everywhere she did not notice, she sat next to me on the sofa i asked what was that on her leg, liquid dog pooh,they cleaned it up.what a day you could not make it up

Me :-( I've got a 20 year old son with bipolar 1 who's always teetering on the verge of hypomania. He has psychosis and he's currently going through withdrawal from prescribed benzos. He's also got chronic myeloid leukamia, which was diagnosed in january this year. My other son is 18, autistic and severely depressed. My 24 year old daughter is morbidly obese and has poor physical health. Today it's really hit me - I feel so overwhelmed with their problems. My 20 year old struggles to eat, and didn't sit down with us at Christmas dinner. He's floated around the house twitching, smoking and drinking energy drinks all day. The 18 year old is in his bedroom playing Metallica riffs on his guitar and being sad. My beautiful husband got up at 7pm to start the Christmas dinner, and slaved over it all day. By the time we sat down to eat the mood in the house was so, so low. I ended up sending my husband and daughter to SIL's house where they're all laughing, playing games and getting pissed. I spent most of the evening in the bath drinking tea and eating Lindors. I'm now on the sofa with my mother in law's stinking, blind, deaf, bitey highland terrier, which I think has moved in permanently. It's got barnacles on its face by it's too snappy to groom. Just me and a stinky little dog. Feeling sad. Want Christmas over. Don't want to feel pressured to be happy when I haven't got it in me...

Christmas is way better since we agreed no presents amongst the adults. Just gifts for the kids. Removes all the stress & expectations/disappointment. Freeing.

I had a lovely Christmas. Hosted 12 and one of the neighbours did all my washing up. He's such a sweetheart. The food turned out great and the drink was flowing as all my guests brought a bottle (s) as I have a no gift policy. The game of charades was a hoot with lots of drunken falling around, and people forgetting who they were. It was a scream.

Merry Christmas everyone.

I'll see myself out.

Just finished my second very large brandy and now it doesn't seem quite so bad. Think I'm going to need one more before I settle, just to wipe out the horror of what felt like 17 (really only 6) small children all fecking day. I haven't sat down once and I'm knackered. I used to love a busy Christmas but once you hit 70, the appeal seems to wane