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Don't have present for friend

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:28

I have a friend who wants to come round tomorrow. To exchange presents I have not bought her anything because I have had other stuff on my mind. I'm not going out Xmas eve. I have loads of stuff I need to do in the house as well. I really can't be bothered . But I know I'm being horrible.

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WhichIsItWendy · 23/12/2023 18:30

You're going to have to either go out and get stuff or put off meeting up. Or, you could be brutally honest, that you'd love to see her but have to admit you had forgotten to get a gift. Why do you swap gifts?

Grimmz · 23/12/2023 18:34

Do you not have a spare bottle of wine lying about?

shivawn · 23/12/2023 18:36

I'd probably just buy a voucher online and print it off.

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PossumintheHouse · 23/12/2023 18:39

Not ideal, but do you not have anything unopened that you can give her? Toiletries/beauty products?

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:44

Grimmz · 23/12/2023 18:34

Do you not have a spare bottle of wine lying about?

No I don't drink , it's mot just the gift though it feels to much having someone over

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:45

PossumintheHouse · 23/12/2023 18:39

Not ideal, but do you not have anything unopened that you can give her? Toiletries/beauty products?

No don't have anything at all

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TwentyThreeFifteen · 23/12/2023 18:48

Do you normally get her a gift?

If she is a good friend either a)message a.m and say you aren’t up to it b) allow her to come and apologise you haven’t got hers yet but will drop it off in the new year or c) hide behind the sofa.

Andthereyougo · 23/12/2023 18:48

Print off a voucher.
Or make your own —- afternoon tea, nails, Prosecco somewhere nice, gallery visit, cinema, Something you’d both like to do and it’s on you after the NY.

Sceptre86 · 23/12/2023 18:53

Just tell her you can't accommodate a visit and will arrange a date with her after Christmas. You don't sound in the best place.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:54

Andthereyougo · 23/12/2023 18:48

Print off a voucher.
Or make your own —- afternoon tea, nails, Prosecco somewhere nice, gallery visit, cinema, Something you’d both like to do and it’s on you after the NY.

I don't have a printer I don't know what voucher I would get anyway. The other suggestion that's a definite no ot works not work

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waltzingparrot · 23/12/2023 18:55

A new book that you've not got round to reading on your bookshelves that you could wrap?

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:55

Sceptre86 · 23/12/2023 18:53

Just tell her you can't accommodate a visit and will arrange a date with her after Christmas. You don't sound in the best place.

I may have to . Feel guilty though

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:55

waltzingparrot · 23/12/2023 18:55

A new book that you've not got round to reading on your bookshelves that you could wrap?

I don't own a single book

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Candycurrantbun · 23/12/2023 18:58

Can't you nip to the local shop for a box of chocolates?

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:59

Candycurrantbun · 23/12/2023 18:58

Can't you nip to the local shop for a box of chocolates?

Possibly feels very tight though

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:59

Its not just about the gift

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verrymerryberry · 23/12/2023 19:01

Cancelling is fine if done in good time. Test tonight or tomorrow 8amish.

Unless she is very lonely I'm sure she won't mind.

Just say you are unwell and will catch up soon and swap presents. Does she drink- get bottle of Prosecco and be done with it!

"I'm sorry friend I'll have to cancel our catch up tomorrow. I'm poorly and not up to it 😞. Can we catch up in between or after new year?"

If she is a

purser25 · 23/12/2023 19:01

Gosh can’t imagine not owning a single book.

Cornettoninja · 23/12/2023 19:03

Ideally call her but if not message and just be honest. You’ve had a lot on your plate and just haven’t been organised enough to get a gift together and you still have a lot to do meaning meeting tomorrow isn’t really viable for you. Do this sooner rather than later so she’s got time to make other plans.

agree a date to meet either in between Christmas and new year or actually in the new year but make sure you actually agree to a specific date and don’t leave it hanging in the air without a firm plan.

HashtagShitShop · 23/12/2023 19:03

Send it directly to her house via amazon and tell her it's in the post and you'll see t her after Xmas as tomorrow is a no go? If she still turns up, still tell her amazon are due to deliver

CyberCritical · 23/12/2023 19:04

Hi @Shithole101 have seen a few of your posts and know that you do suffer with depression sometimes, is this more about not feeling up to a visit than the present?

ShillyShallySherbet · 23/12/2023 19:04

Assuming this hasn’t been arranged for ages it’s fine to say you’re too busy tomorrow to see her, it’s Christmas Eve! So don’t feel at all guilty. Even if it’s been arranged for a while it’s fine to apologise and say you can’t meet up.

Undineimmor · 23/12/2023 19:05

Gift card from Tesco's?

MarleyandMarleyWoooo · 23/12/2023 19:08

You’re not obliged to say yes to a visit jusy because your friend fancies coming over. Say you’re snowed under and suggest another time for a visit instead. Totally reasonable to be too busy for a social call arranged last minute on Christmas Eve.

Rocksonabeach · 23/12/2023 19:10

I gave my friend a card inside it says
2024 mission

  1. one photo taken as a selfie or by me of you and your daughter together having an ice cream I have paid for on a beach
  2. is same as one but a piece of cake and a cup of tea
  3. is same as one but at the top of a hill we’ve climbed
  4. is same as one but sitting in garden having an iced tea brought by me

And some photo frames ( easy to get hold of)
and some photos - she’s a single parent and was saying the other day how hard it is to get pictures of them together ….

she loved hers

if she is a real friend she will also understand you saying your OP and saying you feel awful- I would ! Xx

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