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Tempted to let kids stay home tomorrow

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 17:55

Kids finish school at 1.30 tomorrow. I leave home to take them at 7.30am. I get home around 9.30am... I then leave at 2pm to get them then home around 4.15. Tomorrow I would have to leave home at 12 to collect them so I would only have 2.5 hrs till I get them.

I have not been sleeping very well even though I'm tired I'm sleeping around 4 hours a night and keep waking up during that time. Worst night was 2 hrs sleep. And I feel ill but can't explain in what way . Maybe it's linked with tiredness

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/12/2023 19:11

Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:57

But you and that other poster have chosen to leave of my reasons as to why.

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To a child growing up in a home with a parent who would rather stay home than bring them out into the world to go to school and mix with their friends and do stuff, the reasons may not make that much difference.

Like I say, it sounds like a negative situation and I would be trying to stick to external routines and social contacts.

TeaKitten · 19/12/2023 19:11

3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:10

Doesn’t your child find public transport for 4 hours a day unsettling?

I understand you are tired but you must know that long term this will make you unwell.

Lots of people travel 4 hours a day for work, and work all day too, and don’t become unwell because of it. Why is everyone so convinced she needs to move her kids school? Her illness might be totally unrelated to the commute.

3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:14

Lots of people travel 4 hours a day for work? I don’t know any.

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Myyearmytime · 19/12/2023 19:14

As you have a extra needs kid you can get transport for them .
Ring your local council.

Wendysfriend · 19/12/2023 19:15

Keep them off, it's only a few hours.

They had their party, it'll probably be a movie or playing on the last day.

You've come so far in your life, you are doing really well and a few hours off school won't make a huge difference to them.

It is very important that you look after your own health and getting a bit of extra sleep tomorrow would really benefit you.

Soubriquet · 19/12/2023 19:15

Ah sod it. Keep them home. Feels stupid for a couple of hours.

I was considering it for my kids too even though they have a full school day, but they both have class parties and dd is going carolling in a care home so they are going in

3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:15

(I’m not saying you are wrong, I just don’t know any and it sounds like an awful waste)

TeaKitten · 19/12/2023 19:16

3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:14

Lots of people travel 4 hours a day for work? I don’t know any.

Good for you?

TeaKitten · 19/12/2023 19:18

3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:15

(I’m not saying you are wrong, I just don’t know any and it sounds like an awful waste)

Very much sounded like you were saying I was wrong. But whatever. Point still stands, sitting on a bus for 4 hours a day isn’t necessarily going to destroy the OP, she just happens to be unwell right now. She’s just on about keeping them off for the last half day of term, I don’t think it necessarily means she has to move her kids school or be ill for the foreseeable.

FortunataTagnips · 19/12/2023 19:18

If they’re not bothered about missing the last day, then definitely keep them at home.

I don’t know the back story but on the face of it it seems completely crazy to be doing four hours a day on public transport for the school run, with no plan to change.

Torganer · 19/12/2023 19:20

I think it would be better if you could take them in and use your free time to rest. It’s hard to rest when they are that age without watching tv all day. Use the time to recover so you’re on better from for Christmas.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:21

Myyearmytime · 19/12/2023 19:14

As you have a extra needs kid you can get transport for them .
Ring your local council.

Its not that simple . You have to live so many miles from the school. I'm not even sure if it applies to mainstream. But either way I still need to get my year 3 child to the same school.

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FortunataTagnips · 19/12/2023 19:23

I don’t really understand why you can’t move them to a school closer to home. Is there nowhere that would be right for your child with SEN?

TeaKitten · 19/12/2023 19:23

Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:21

Its not that simple . You have to live so many miles from the school. I'm not even sure if it applies to mainstream. But either way I still need to get my year 3 child to the same school.

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In my area it’s either 2 or 5 miles and it’s for all pupils not just SEN, could be worth looking into just incase there’s help you aren’t aware of.

IcedupTulip · 19/12/2023 19:26

I wouldn’t move my non - sen children as wouldn’t want to unsettle them so I can totally see why you don’t want to move them.

Have you got anyone who could drive them in sometimes (I’m guessing not) but if I was near you and driving I would take yours sometimes to give you a break!

Would it even be quicker to drive?

Rudolphtherednoseddog · 19/12/2023 19:26

Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:42

Did you miss the bit whete I said I felt ill. I have only been sleeping 4 hours a night. Including waking up during that time. The worst night been 2 hours sleep

And well yes I'm tired and don't want to get up or leave the house. That's a normal feeling if you have not very sleeping well

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I’m ill, I’m on antibiotics and I feel exhausted and awful. My children were still at school today, despite the fact I’d really rather not have gone out in the pouring rain. It’s normal as an adult and a parent to carry on even when you don’t feel well and you don’t want to - on the face of it being too tired because you haven’t slept well is not a good reason for your children to miss school.

It sounds like there is a whole unmentioned back story here in which case your position might be entirely reasonable though, I don’t advance search every poster before I post! If that’s the case then by all means keep them off.

FortunataTagnips · 19/12/2023 19:27

Kids in mainstream can only get school transport if the school is their nearest suitable school and they live more than a certain distance from it.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:27

Wendysfriend · 19/12/2023 19:15

Keep them off, it's only a few hours.

They had their party, it'll probably be a movie or playing on the last day.

You've come so far in your life, you are doing really well and a few hours off school won't make a huge difference to them.

It is very important that you look after your own health and getting a bit of extra sleep tomorrow would really benefit you.

Thank you. Yes really it's 3 hours. And they won't be doing much. And yes things are really starting to change.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:32

IcedupTulip · 19/12/2023 19:26

I wouldn’t move my non - sen children as wouldn’t want to unsettle them so I can totally see why you don’t want to move them.

Have you got anyone who could drive them in sometimes (I’m guessing not) but if I was near you and driving I would take yours sometimes to give you a break!

Would it even be quicker to drive?

It litterly the 15 muns to drive. I don't have anyone who can help out. And that really kind 😇

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jadey1991 · 19/12/2023 19:33

I feel the same as you, op. My daughter finishes on Thursday at 2 pm. I leave home at 745 and get public transport. Depending on traffic, I get to the school by 0850 on a good day and on a bad day after 9ish. Then it will be about an hour back home.

On Thursday I'll leave home at 745, get to school hopefully by 0850. Get home by 0950/10 and then leave again by 1pm.

On top of that, I have 2 children under 3 to get ready. Then sort my 9 year old out. Luckily, my eldest, who is 15, doesn't need my help.

It's just long, isn't it. But I would be tempted to stay home.

YoBeaches · 19/12/2023 19:33

I remember you also OP, and I agree duvet day for everyone tomorrow.

But please please do prioritise your health with the GP. The insomnia is hideous, you need sleep to function. Can you call them tomorrow for a chat and see where things are at with your appointments and meds.

EarringsandLipstick · 19/12/2023 19:34

OP, regardless of your decision about tomorrow, and even accounting for your DC's SEN, this is a crazy situation that you are unwilling to change.

I see from another poster that you had no choice about moving - that's hard.

But that level of travelling for you all is too much and needs to change. You talk about not unsettling them - but an hour each way commute for them, and 4 hours for you, is massively unsettling and exhausting. It must impact on any activities or sports they do too?

Not every solution will work, but moving, learning to drive or changing school all can be considered, even if you think they are all challenging.

Hereinthismoment · 19/12/2023 19:36

learning to drive 🤣🤣

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:40

YoBeaches · 19/12/2023 19:33

I remember you also OP, and I agree duvet day for everyone tomorrow.

But please please do prioritise your health with the GP. The insomnia is hideous, you need sleep to function. Can you call them tomorrow for a chat and see where things are at with your appointments and meds.

I don't have insomnia. I think I'm just going through a bad sleep phase . I normally get drained /tired/breathless due to problems with iron. Maybe I have been running on empty /addrenlin... I feel like I don't know what I'm taking about 😅

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