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Tempted to let kids stay home tomorrow

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 17:55

Kids finish school at 1.30 tomorrow. I leave home to take them at 7.30am. I get home around 9.30am... I then leave at 2pm to get them then home around 4.15. Tomorrow I would have to leave home at 12 to collect them so I would only have 2.5 hrs till I get them.

I have not been sleeping very well even though I'm tired I'm sleeping around 4 hours a night and keep waking up during that time. Worst night was 2 hrs sleep. And I feel ill but can't explain in what way . Maybe it's linked with tiredness

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Whateverfuckingnext · 19/12/2023 18:41

Stay at home! Have a lovely pj day and stick some Xmas films on.
Oh.. and go and get your iron and vit d levels checked in the new year. Might be one of the reasons you're so tired without necessarily feeling ill.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:42

Rudolphtherednoseddog · 19/12/2023 18:36

Have you seen a GP? Because unless you have disabilities or health issues, “I’m too tired/don’t want to leave the house/don’t want to get up” are ridiculous reasons for your children to miss school, end of term or not.

Did you miss the bit whete I said I felt ill. I have only been sleeping 4 hours a night. Including waking up during that time. The worst night been 2 hours sleep

And well yes I'm tired and don't want to get up or leave the house. That's a normal feeling if you have not very sleeping well

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caringcarer · 19/12/2023 18:43

Accidentallyonporpoise · 19/12/2023 18:04

A 2 hour school run twice a day I'm not surprised you're tired. I would definitely leave it tomorrow if it's the last day and you're feeling tired and unwell. Is there any prospect of the school run getting shorter?

I have a 2 hour college run twice a day for my Foster Son. It's very tiring and occasionally when traffic is bad or there's an accident it can add on another 30-40 mins. OP it's really not worth it just for a half day. Give the kids a lie in and find a Xmas movie for them to watch and print them off a Xmas word search or colouring. They won't be doing much work at school.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:44

Goldwakeme · 19/12/2023 18:26

Why is the school run so long? No wonder you're exhausted.

Because I don't drive. Have to use public transport, traffic etc .

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/12/2023 18:44

UpendedPineapple · 19/12/2023 18:39

Oh bore off!

Stay at home OP and enjoy the rest.

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Why so rude? I agree with the poster who said children shouldn't miss school just because their mother doesn't want to leave the house. The whole situation sounds bad to me.

Piscesmumma1978 · 19/12/2023 18:46

100% keep them home.

Make sure you're feeling better for Christmas day xx

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:46

WithACatLikeTread · 19/12/2023 18:28

Why did you choose such a long commute? Most people choose a closer one. That is your fault really.

How do you know that 🫠

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:51

YourNameGoesHere · 19/12/2023 18:40

How long have they got left at the school? I appreciate it's nice they are settled and the reason you use the school but they surely can't possibly be reaching their full potential with having to leave so early and such a long commute. You've moved too far away for it to be viable and in all honesty unless they are in year 6 it might be kinder to let them move to the local school, they'd settle just as well there I'm sure.

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They are year 3&4 i won't be moving them. They are happy and settled in school. One has autism, ehcp. And it would mess him up to much I'm not going to do that to him.

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Iwishiwasasilentnight · 19/12/2023 18:55

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/12/2023 18:44

Why so rude? I agree with the poster who said children shouldn't miss school just because their mother doesn't want to leave the house. The whole situation sounds bad to me.

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I think it’s a valid point. Surely the kids are going to be off for 2 weeks and you will have plenty of time off from the school run.

But in the long term this is a ridiculous school run. Time to look at other options.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:55

Whateverfuckingnext · 19/12/2023 18:41

Stay at home! Have a lovely pj day and stick some Xmas films on.
Oh.. and go and get your iron and vit d levels checked in the new year. Might be one of the reasons you're so tired without necessarily feeling ill.

I am doing that I had an Appointment and had to council it.

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Iwishiwasasilentnight · 19/12/2023 18:56

Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:51

They are year 3&4 i won't be moving them. They are happy and settled in school. One has autism, ehcp. And it would mess him up to much I'm not going to do that to him.

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What happens when it’s time to go to school independently? Perhaps moving house in a better option.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:57

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/12/2023 18:44

Why so rude? I agree with the poster who said children shouldn't miss school just because their mother doesn't want to leave the house. The whole situation sounds bad to me.

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But you and that other poster have chosen to leave of my reasons as to why.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:57

Iwishiwasasilentnight · 19/12/2023 18:56

What happens when it’s time to go to school independently? Perhaps moving house in a better option.

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I can't move house

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YourNameGoesHere · 19/12/2023 18:59

Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 18:51

They are year 3&4 i won't be moving them. They are happy and settled in school. One has autism, ehcp. And it would mess him up to much I'm not going to do that to him.

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At least another 3 years of that commute is near Insanity. I appreciate they are settled and you have good support for your child but that commute is going to mean you can't work for at least another 3 years and your whole day is tied around the school run. If you won't move them then can you at least learn to drive?

Sidebeforeself · 19/12/2023 19:00

It’s entirely up to you. You know your kids better than we do and of course they wont be damaged by missing a half day.But don’t try to dress it up other than what it is - you cant be arsed.

peoplearepeople · 19/12/2023 19:01

From what I remember of your previous threads op you had an extremely good reason you had to move. It wasn't a choice at all that you made.
Stay at home tomorrow and try and finally get some rest. Take care of yourself.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:02

caringcarer · 19/12/2023 18:43

I have a 2 hour college run twice a day for my Foster Son. It's very tiring and occasionally when traffic is bad or there's an accident it can add on another 30-40 mins. OP it's really not worth it just for a half day. Give the kids a lie in and find a Xmas movie for them to watch and print them off a Xmas word search or colouring. They won't be doing much work at school.

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I'm thinking that. But I will decide for sure in the morning. I could feel better in the morning. I might even sleep tonight.

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:04

peoplearepeople · 19/12/2023 19:01

From what I remember of your previous threads op you had an extremely good reason you had to move. It wasn't a choice at all that you made.
Stay at home tomorrow and try and finally get some rest. Take care of yourself.

100% thank you 💐

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3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:04

So you can’t actually work or get a job because your entire life revolves around picking them up and dropping them at a school that’s too far away.
I know you say they are settled but how settled are they spending 4 hours a day on busses? That’s lunacy.

If you are not sick you will get sick if something doesn’t change.

Sugarfish · 19/12/2023 19:05

People shouldn’t be so judgemental. The OPs hasn’t had the easiest time of if but tries her best

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Shithole101 · 19/12/2023 19:06

YourNameGoesHere · 19/12/2023 18:59

At least another 3 years of that commute is near Insanity. I appreciate they are settled and you have good support for your child but that commute is going to mean you can't work for at least another 3 years and your whole day is tied around the school run. If you won't move them then can you at least learn to drive?

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My children come first . I'm not unsettling my special needs child not a hope in hell.

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Hellzbellz25 · 19/12/2023 19:07

My daughter finished at 12.30 today and she said loads were off at her school, if we didn't live up the road she would have been too

Chewbecca · 19/12/2023 19:08

I would take them & sit in a cafe / library and thoroughly enjoy my book and some cake. There’s the rest of the holidays to lie in. I’d also try to get a GP appointment to check if there are any underlying issues making you feel so rough. Hope you are feeling better soon.

Hereinthismoment · 19/12/2023 19:09

Always loads off on the last day before Christmas and summer.

I don’t think the OP has been rude. It’s a lot ruder to tell someone they can’t be arsed.

3luckystars · 19/12/2023 19:10

Doesn’t your child find public transport for 4 hours a day unsettling?

I understand you are tired but you must know that long term this will make you unwell.

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