The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

Yes. I think some of the worst were during the height of the pandemic, when some posters said that Covid prevention was unimportant, because most people who died of it had pre-existing conditions (hello, 40% of the population have pre-existing conditions!) Mind you, given that this was the attitude of some of our Great Leaders, it's hardly surprising that some posters would say it too!

Also, people who imply that people with mental illnesses are just being self-indulgent, or don't deserve accommodations, because 'everyone gets stressed/ anxious sometimes'.

Also, slightly related, the contempt that a few posters have for anyone who can't drive.

Same thing happened to my mother. The doctor told her on multiple occasions that her stomach was swollen and she was in pain because she was constipated - and she accepted what he said. It was only after I managed to persuade her to go to A and E that she was diagnosed with terminal ovarian cancer which had spread throughout her abdomen.

Place marking as only on a lunch break

"In an American country I lived in they called them Yankees."

USians is actually what they say in Spanish. It exists in French too, although they may also say American.

Omg I never knew that, so sad 😓

just a tiny fact check here - more women die from cosmetic surgery in the UK than from BDSM related deaths/rough sex defence. The number is a total of about 60 since 1972.

I have no firm views either way but let’s try and at least be proportional.

Oh come on - count the penis beaker posts here and try to loosen up...

@PosyPrettyToes we have no idea of the proportions though. We know most cosmetic surgery is not life threatening.

We don’t really know how many people are choking each other with no ill effects, with delayed ill effects, only the small number serious consequences.

About 15 years ago there was a long-running thread here about a woman whose parents were moving to the town where she lived and she really, really didn't want to them to. Her husband was very supportive. One or both of them were teachers, and her username referenced this, as I recall.

Over the course of the thread it turned out that her dad had abused her long term when she was young. She had suppressed it or not recognised it as abuse, but taken steps as an adult to distance herself from her parents. When they said they were moving closer it activated all her past memories and feelings.

I can't remember what happened, but I was shocked as it was my first foray into social media like this and was really drawn in. No one ever mentions it on threads like this - it was a long time ago and I hope she's doing ok

Do you mean Estadounidenses? Not sure how USians would work in Spanish?

Yes, of course I meant in Spanish.

We used to call them Yankees kind of as an insult/making fun when I was a kid. I recently found out in the USA "Yankees" are what some Americans call other Americans I think it has something to do with north us Vs south us or the civil war.
Anyway I'll stick with "Americans" if I want to talk about some other nationality on the American continent you can catch me saying "Brazilian" "Canadian" etc.
Unitedstatians will always be too much of a mouthful 😂😭

Yes, locally to me a poor woman and her teenage son were murdered by a homeless man they'd housed.

Terribly sad.

That's horrific! Should be illegal.

I have very firm views.

Young girls are being encouraged to normalise strangulation by the porn industry and posters on the internet who minimise the risk.

What a horrible, porn sick, view to put on our young girls.

And if it goes wrong the man can argue she consented to it, she is dead so can't prove otherwise.

And with the increase in violent, dehumanising pornography widely available now, what's happening to those numbers?

I would be interested to know if the law school approach is still to teach it as enthusiastic consent. It sounds extremely abusive!

Maybe being accused of my thread about sexual coercion I was experiencing being fake, because I used some smile emojis because I was appreciating people's replies.

Also, how gullible people are about giving money to substance abusing people in the street (most of which go home after getting their days 'earnings') all of whom those giving them money for stuff are helping to kill, even those who aren't spending the money on substances, because it's enabling people to be on the streets rather than housed after being in a hostel. Being on the streets helps take 20 years off someone's life.

That would surely be unethical, and the vet risk being struck off?

I hear you.

I’m always shocked by people asking should they go to a and e for things that definitely need to be checked out, and posters telling them maybe they should wait and go to their gp, hospitals in Ireland are packed, but it’s still seen as it’s better to go and be told there’s nothing wrong than not!

I’m not sure if these have been mentioned as I’ve not read every page but I think I read one where the OP’s DP/H had unpicked her knitting because he didn’t like her doing it? I thought was awful. And also the absolute hatred for anyone disabled/receiving benefits that comes out sometimes. I can’t believe sometime how much hate and anger some people have towards disabled people and children.

The vast majority of truly shocking threads turn out to be pure invention. Trolls are rife on MN. There was a series of threads a couple of years ago about a woman who claimed to be terribly abused by her husband. They were obviously written by a would be writer of (very bad) fiction. The number of MNers who seemed to believe this nonsense was quite surprising. And that's just one example of many. Things have only got worse with the advent of ChatGPT and the like.

Not seeing any hate on here.

But if by 'basically hate any woman who are not exactly like them' you mean that many mumnetters do not believe that trans women are women because they are male, then I'm not sure what's shocking about that, it's basic biology.