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The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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PricklyPear1234 · 19/12/2023 00:00

Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

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Tarsandcase · 19/12/2023 11:07

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 19/12/2023 01:38

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I've just read through all of her comments in that thread and cried my eyes out. I then looked at her final thread and cried even more.

NotFastButFurious · 19/12/2023 11:09

ShortMotherfuckerWithTheIvoryHair · 19/12/2023 00:51

I can't remember her name, but the lovely poster who fostered a child who was born from a drug addicted mother. It was heartbreaking and so wonderful at the same time. So much love born out of such sad circumstances. I think she died also. I wonder how the child is doing now.

oh that thread had me in tears!

Todaysproblem · 19/12/2023 11:09

jays · 19/12/2023 10:50

The fact that every third post on this is about cheese!

And bloody choking during sex.

Didsomeonesaydogs · 19/12/2023 11:10

Bookworm1111 · 19/12/2023 09:46

My favourite was the SAHM who had had a vague conversation in the playground with a school dad about whether she might look after their DC on the first day of the summer holidays. Then she found out he and his wife had been been telling everyone else at school she was doing their childcare EVERY DAY of the six-weeks holiday from 6.30am. They couldn't take time off as they were saving to go to Disney at half term! OP rightly told them where to go, then there was a doorstop confrontation with furious CFers demanding she 'honour' their agreement. I think it ended when OP's DS, who was ill, threw up over CF Mum's shoes.

Gosh yes - I remember this one in the countdown to the school summer break a few years ago. The audacity of the CF couple was staggering.

orangegato · 19/12/2023 11:12

Todaysproblem · 19/12/2023 11:04

Wasn’t it that he was messing around with the neighbour’s 18 year old niece and when caught he told the wife that the niece was obsessed with him and won’t stop texting or something?

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That’s the one! It was absolutely gripping, I wonder if she ever found out exactly what was going on. I’d not let that lie. The rat.

CoffeeCantata · 19/12/2023 11:14

Many things! I learn so much about modern life from MN.

I think - the person who said they didn't care about the planet and were going to keep on flying as much as they wanted. When pushed by other pps, they just reiterated their selfish attitude. They didn't care about anyone else as long as their thoughtless whim to fly around the world multiple times a year was satisfied.

SnapdragonToadflax · 19/12/2023 11:14

I'm always surprised by how very traditional most women still are. They want to get married and change their name, be a SAHM, have multiple babies, run a household, and want their husband to do a big/masculine job, be 'ambitious' and earn enough to support them all. I just find it so odd, and so outside of my lived experience.

housethatbuiltme · 19/12/2023 11:14

CatSpam3 · 19/12/2023 07:32

The genuine vitriol by some posters to those on benefits and all the "I know a person who claims UC and has five foreign holidays a year, a Bentley and a five bed house in a nice area of london" posts.

In the same vein...some of the posts on the recent SEN provision thread and the general attitude to the disabled and vulnerable.

I didn't realise there were so many resentful, hateful people out there until I started reading mumsnet and now need to regularly take a break for my MH.

Not long ago on a thread where I mentioned only on mumsnet is 100k considered 'low/average income' someone asked my income I told them our household income was 24k a year (that includes benefits).

They then corrected me that 'AcKtUwElLy' I must have an income of 45k a year (which they said is basically equivalent to a 100k income after tax) because if we 'only' make 24k then we would get... '20k' in benefits (and then posted some utterly bizarre made up benefits amounts to 'prove' this).

Peak mumsnet batshittery.

horseyhorsey17 · 19/12/2023 11:16

marquislafayette · 19/12/2023 10:51

Lots of the posters on a recent thread saying they never use the word ‘toilet’, cringe when other people say it, their kids aren’t allowed to say it only the words loo or lav are permitted. I honestly never realised this was a thing until reading that thread!

They're the sort of people who won't let their kids eat McDonalds and bring their own 'healthy' food to kids' parties.

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 19/12/2023 11:16

The one who claimed her husband Jerry had been killed after a Hgv hit his car causing it to burst into flames and that thy had a 10 month old little boy, and the one where a woman claimed her partner had stolen her morphine given to her for her miscarriage. Both turned out to be trolls. Although the morphine one I had my doubts anyway. Especially given that during my 4th miscarriage even whist riving in agony in hospital the most they gave me was IV paracetamol. Then told to just take more paracetamol once back home.

Minglemangle007 · 19/12/2023 11:17

There was one during covid with a woman complaining that Tesco didn't deliver in bags anymore and how was she supposed to get her shopping to the kitchen as they wouldn't wait an hour while she indivually put one item away at a time.

Every poster came on and said unpack in the hall and put away at leisure or just give them carrier bags at the door to pack the stuff up.

Every suggestion was no good and went on about having no storage space for a couple of carrier bags. Couldn't work out if it was a troll or someone with severe issues brought on by lockdown.

PricklePop · 19/12/2023 11:23

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 19/12/2023 10:51

If a consenting couple want to practice strangling/choking as part of their sex life then I'm sure they've weighed up the pros and cons.

You could say exactly the same thing about drug addicts, though: "they're consenting adults who will have surely weighed up the pros and cons before finding a vein and injecting the heroin - so the nanny government has no right in making it illegal".

I get that there are lots of kinks out there, but death-play is really not a wise one, however consenting or not you think you are. As well as the elephant-in-the-room fact that it's the perfect excuse for any rapist/murderer who can claim that "she got off on it and she asked me to choke her".

Well no because that's not a legal defence. The fact that idiot murderers have tried means nothing. Murderers have tried all kinds of stupid excuses.

As someone who once partook but stopped because my husband wasn't keen- the sim is not to crush your partners throat. The thrill of it is more being dominated than any physical feeling.

That's not to say there aren't risks but death play? 😂Anal or any kind of non-excretory touching of one's bum is called buggery on here too.

Pollypocket81 · 19/12/2023 11:24

Wasn't the DH having an affair with the daughter of the neighbour?

weegiemum · 19/12/2023 11:25

FrenchandSaunders · 19/12/2023 09:01

I still remember Expatinscotland and her young DD who passed away with cancer. Her posts were so raw and moving. There's a song that comes on the radio now and then that reminds me of that time. I don't think she's on here anymore, or has a different name. I often wonder how her family are.

I'm a friend of expat. She's doing ok, and her other children are growing up and bringing her joy. She'll never get over losing her eldest daughter but life goes on.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 19/12/2023 11:26

The one that shocked me was a poster who was at a railway station with her small baby, hiding from her in laws. They told her they were coming for the baby, she was to have the baby and her belongings ready by a certain time. When asked why they said the baby was their sons baby and nothing to do with her. Her H was ok with this!
She did get away but she stopped posting. I’ve often wondered how she is and hope she’s and her child are safe.

Outliers · 19/12/2023 11:26

I see something everyday. Just shows how different people are across the world.

I think mumsnet is a bit of an echo chamber though. A lot of things people seem to have consensus on here, are very debatable in real world.

Xiaoxiong · 19/12/2023 11:37

@housethatbuiltme that is batshit about the women getting the scraps.

However...I used to be shocked and outraged about "penis portion" threads, usually around Christmas - when women would post on here that their MIL would serve up half-size portions to the women and full portions to the men. Completely sexist and horrible, I thought... Now after 15+ years married and dishing up meals evenly between us, 6'3" DH has maintained a healthy weight and at 5'6" I am carrying an extra stone with high cholesterol even though I do more exercise than he does. I unfortunately find myself serving DH and the DSs double what I then serve myself (I do always save the nicest bits for me!!) or eating fish and chips with salad and giving my chips to DS/DH. Anyone watching me might think I'm some kind of patriarchal handmaiden but it's really more about my health. I'd never impose it on anyone else though!!

housethatbuiltme · 19/12/2023 11:38

MrsTwatInAHat · 19/12/2023 07:45

Yes the wardrobe pissers! What the hell is that about? The first time I read about it I couldn’t believe it, but I’ve seen it loads of times now. “Amy DH came home drunk and pissed in the wardrobe all over my shoes” Xmas Shock

I know there is more serious and abusive behaviour from a lot of men but I was aware of that already IYSWIM. I just don’t get how you can mistake the wardrobe for a toilet - I’ve been pretty drunk when younger and never done that! Or is it that they just don’t care? I couldn’t ever fancy a man who did that again. And them some posters say meh it’s not that bad! Im not a clean freak but just uurrrgghh.

I have worked in care and I will say far more women than men do this in my experience. Usually when asleep, men tend to wake up a bit more probably due to prostate discomfort.

Its most common in med confusion, dementia or recently relocated. You often find people are subconsciously retracing the path to the bathroom in their childhood home or the home they lived in longest. The interesting places woman managed to pee seemingly defied physics sometimes.

Alcohol is essentially a poison/drug that gives the same 'confusion' and 'sleepiness' effect especially in chronic drinkers.

Username83 · 19/12/2023 11:41

Not sure if it's more sad than shocking but here we go...
Someone's SIL has a stillborn baby (second time in a row) and wanted to light some candles for her babies during family Xmas meal at parents in laet but this mumsnetter was complaining how inconsiderate it is and was going to ask her not do it as otherwise it would upset her children.
I still remember it sometimes and think it's shocking how cold hearted some people are.

MILTOBE · 19/12/2023 11:43

Kittythecutest · 19/12/2023 09:44

If you’re talking about Pamela, she was real and did die. Her death announcement was on the internet, separate to mumsnet, I saw it.

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No, I don't think that's the thread I'm talking about.

hangingonfordearlife1 · 19/12/2023 11:47

BluebellsForest · 19/12/2023 09:24

Meant to tag @Starrystarryshite, @MRSMTO.

If you're going to post in support of choking @Sexlivesofthepotatomen, at least also post the details of the risk of injury?

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Dont think anyone "supports" choking lol but its absolutely none of your business what people prefer sexually as long as it doesnt involve animals or kids!!

ImNotReallySpartacus · 19/12/2023 11:52

People whose answer to any kind of neighbour issue or anti-social behaviour is 'just move', as if moving were a practical, cost-neutral and straightforward option for virtually everyone.

horseyhorsey17 · 19/12/2023 11:52

SnapdragonToadflax · 19/12/2023 11:14

I'm always surprised by how very traditional most women still are. They want to get married and change their name, be a SAHM, have multiple babies, run a household, and want their husband to do a big/masculine job, be 'ambitious' and earn enough to support them all. I just find it so odd, and so outside of my lived experience.

This is where I wonder if MN isn't just a bit of an echo chamber.

I find the ones baffling where people have absolutely tons of disposable income and can all afford private school and have messy but massive million pound houses with adorable children with posh names who don't cut their hair and wear Laura Ashley clothes. I have no disposable income and two wannabe roadmen for kids - they do go to grammar school though! I guess it depends what circles you move in but I do wonder how much of it is real and how much is famtasy/projection.

ChickenJeffrey · 19/12/2023 11:57

One of the first posts I read on here was from an OP who had inherited a property which had been rented out for many years. A poster said the property should be given to the tenants.

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