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Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 06:31

I could really do with some guidance, if that’s OK.

Basically I have been bullied at work by a very senior member of staff. The Board are now involved. It is clear that me and the member of staff can no longer work together so I have offered to leave.

I have been told that I will receive a ‘generous payout’. The thing is, I don’t know what I should be expecting. Given the time of year, I may be out of work for some time.

So what does a ‘generous payout’ look like, in relation to monthly salary? Any ideas please?

Thanks.

OP posts:
user701 · 19/11/2023 08:35

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 07:09

Thanks @MurielThrockmorton. I am going to take your advice and go for 6 months. It could take me that long to get a job.

Unless they think you have a discrimination claim they would be idiots to offer that much.

ludicrouslycapaciousbags · 19/11/2023 08:37

I'm struggling to see bullying here by what you have said. Possible clash of personalities?

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:37

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 07:22

@soupmaker I work for the boss day to day and also support this other person, let’s call them ‘The Bully’. Boss lady has never raised any concerns with me (trust me, she would if there were any).

The Bully loves me when I am prioritising her work, which I do most of the time. She always gushes about how wonderful I am, such a superstar, etc. completely over the top. If I need to prioritise the boss’s work (rarely), she doesn’t like it, does things like demands to see my To List then goes through it saying none of it is more important than her work. For the record, I have never missed a deadline.

She also felt I was rude to one of her team. It was a misunderstanding, I apologised immediately, but she is still ranting about it.

I caught Covid and was very sick (had not had it before). She immediately sent me a long list of things she wanted me to do ‘When you are back’. I felt pressured to return to (virtual) work after 2 days, in spite of being actually quite sick.

This doesn’t sound like you have a discrimination complaint. You cannot bring a constructive dismissal complaint. I’d be prepared for them not to offer much over and above your notice pay and a little bit on top to get your agreement to a settlement agreement. Six months pay would be extremely unusual

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user701 · 19/11/2023 08:38

ludicrouslycapaciousbags · 19/11/2023 08:37

I'm struggling to see bullying here by what you have said. Possible clash of personalities?

This

CantFindTheBeat · 19/11/2023 08:39

OP,

Make sure you have copies of any emails/messages etc that you want to use to support any claims or issues,

Sounds like you've been through a tough time. I hope you get it sorted soon.

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:40

CantFindTheBeat · 19/11/2023 08:39

OP,

Make sure you have copies of any emails/messages etc that you want to use to support any claims or issues,

Sounds like you've been through a tough time. I hope you get it sorted soon.

There is no claim unless she is suddenly going to assert that this is due to a protected characteristic

CantFindTheBeat · 19/11/2023 08:43

@user701

Yep - I didn't mean formal claim - I mean claim as in 'assertions' in that conversations she's having to negotiate her exit.

CinnabarRed · 19/11/2023 08:43

I’m also struggling to see bullying here. Maybe it’s in how she does things? But, on paper, I can’t see anything that would concern me if I were the boss.

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:43

It’s the fact that I’m being forced to leave.

OP posts:
CinnabarRed · 19/11/2023 08:45

But you offered to leave? At least that’s what it says in the OP.

What’s forcing you to leave?

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:45

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:43

It’s the fact that I’m being forced to leave.

If they wanted to they could just sack you

CantFindTheBeat · 19/11/2023 08:46

OP - there is Work section, and a Legal Matters section.

You might be better to ask @MNHQ to move this thread and/or start another, as you're going to get a mix of opinions in here from non-qualified people and could probably benefit from some structured advice.

Good luck with your situation x

Mazuslongtoenail · 19/11/2023 08:47

Sorry to be blunt - but trying to be realistic. It doesn’t sound like you have bullied on any discriminatory grounds and you’ve been there under two years so have very few rights.

It reads that the bullying was inappropriate work expectation rather than anything personal which is a lot easier to justify to the board / explain as different expectations.

So I don’t think you’ll be offered that much.

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:47

I’m afraid if they were my client I would advise them to dismiss you immediately in which case you would receive salary to the date of termination plus payment in lieu of your notice period.

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:47

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:45

If they wanted to they could just sack you

Can they? Even though I’ve done nothing wrong?

OP posts:
user701 · 19/11/2023 08:48

CantFindTheBeat · 19/11/2023 08:46

OP - there is Work section, and a Legal Matters section.

You might be better to ask @MNHQ to move this thread and/or start another, as you're going to get a mix of opinions in here from non-qualified people and could probably benefit from some structured advice.

Good luck with your situation x

It makes no difference. Non lawyers post on the legal threads too.

mynameiscalypso · 19/11/2023 08:49

It sounds like they're getting ready to sack you. The only time I've had HR involved in performance-related emails, it was so that they could ensure that there was no ambiguity in the email (ie by me being too nice) and that the performance-related issues were clearly understood and there was an evidence trail of how they'd been communicated.

ThreeRingCircus · 19/11/2023 08:49

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:37

This doesn’t sound like you have a discrimination complaint. You cannot bring a constructive dismissal complaint. I’d be prepared for them not to offer much over and above your notice pay and a little bit on top to get your agreement to a settlement agreement. Six months pay would be extremely unusual

I would agree with this. As you have worked there for less than two years then you cannot bring a claim for unfair or constructive dismissal. You could claim if you felt you had been discriminated against due to a protected characteristic outlined in the Equality Act but that does not sound the case here from what you've said.

Normally, we would pay notice pay, holiday accrued and then look at a figure over and above that. The amount you would receive if you were to be made redundant is often a starting point for gauging how much to offer (used as a maximum amount we'd offer to pay) but as you haven't been there very long I certainly wouldn't expect it to be six months of your salary.

Remember to get them to agree a reference with you if you decide to take their offer and that your payment will be tax free if under £30k.

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:50

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:47

Can they? Even though I’ve done nothing wrong?

Yes absolutely. They can sack you at any time for any reason (unless it’s discriminatory). You can do nothing about it because you haven’t been there for two years. They will I’m afraid see you as a problem employee. Hence my advice not to overplay your hand asking for excessive sums like six months’ pay.

HermioneWeasley · 19/11/2023 08:50

It’s always dangerous to ask for specialist advice on chat or AIBU

the legal position is that with less than 2 years service they can dismiss you for any reason as long as it’s not for a protected characteristic (eg: sex, race. Etc). So their starting point is that they can simply dismiss you with notice and they don’t have to do anything more. I don’t think you’ve said what your notice period is. I would offer to go quickly quietly and gratefully in exchange for 12 weeks, and agreed notice and £500 for thr legal costs of doing a settlement agreement. They probably have more like 4 weeks in mind. Remember your only leverage here is being nice and making them feel bad so just really emphasise that you weren’t expecting to leave, it could take some time to find another job, probably won’t be anything advertised now this side of Xmas and process will take a while after that etc.

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:51

Can they just sack people who have done nothing wrong?

OP posts:
user701 · 19/11/2023 08:51

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:51

Can they just sack people who have done nothing wrong?

Yes

ThreeRingCircus · 19/11/2023 08:52

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:51

Can they just sack people who have done nothing wrong?

Yes, if they've worked there less than two years and they're not sacking them due to a protected characteristic such as age, race, disability, sex etc.

IWFH · 19/11/2023 08:53

Marie2023 · 19/11/2023 08:51

Can they just sack people who have done nothing wrong?

Having under two years service, yes they can.

user701 · 19/11/2023 08:53

I’m an employment solicitor (25 years pqe). Hermioneweasley is also an employment lawyer I believe.