At what age do you stop giving presents?

[DustyLee123]

My DH has a brother with adult kids, they are about 23 and 25 and both employed. DH still sends Xmas presents to them, and his DB sends vouchers to ours who are similar ages.
AIBU to think that there should be a cut off age when it stops? I’ve spoken to DH about it but he wants to carry on, and it’s none of my business really. I just think it’s ridiculous.

I (40-something) will get a present from my Uncle this Christmas, as he will be at my parents house, along with us. He will also get a gift for my kids.
He will get a preset from us in return.

Years we aren't in the same place, there are no gifts exchanged.

I think it all depends on the size of your family and how many neices and nephews you have. What their lifestyle and income is like compared to yours. It doesn't seem to make sense buying for your 25 year old neice if she's in a top city law firm earning 4 times your salary and you're struggling as a single parent, and she doesn't buy for you.

DH and I don't have many neices and nephews. We are financially comfortable with mortgage paid off whereas our neices and nephews are just starting out in their life. Some are university students. I can't imagine not giving a skint student something on their birthday, they'd be delighted to get anything, I'm sure!

I do think buying at Christmas for all wider family is a bit silly. People end up with far too many presents at Christmas that they don't really need. It misses the point of the day. However birthdays are a nice little special occasion all of your own so I think if you were going to pick just one occasion to buy for for neices and nephews, pick their birthday.

It stopped giving my nephews and nieces presents at 18.

Will you continue and buy for their partner…and then their children….and then their grandchildren?…..or just your neices?

😂😂😂 there's always someone who has to take it too far

Since they're both young free & single I haven't given that any real thought. But I'll probably do what I did with my brother & SIL - they'll get a smaller present & their children will get more spent on them. I didn't stop buying for my brother & SIL when my nieces were born.

We stopped giving presents to nieces and nephews (and to children of friends) when they reached 18. I have 11 nieces and nephews so it was nice to be able to stop!

I have absolutely no intention of stopping buying my nephews Christmas presents, why would I?

Stopping buying presents at 21 for nieces and nephews.

I'm 40 and still get Christmas presents from my auntie and great aunt as do my teenage children. DH is 49 and still gets presents from his aunt.
My cousins and their children still get presents from my mum and dad.
My nieces and nephews are still under 10 but I imagine I will always buy for them. As time goes on you have more people you love to buy for surely?

It was a valid question ….I have 15 nephews and nieces and 15 great nephews and nieces ….I’m 58…..my oldest great niece is 15….so may well be greeting my great great nephews and nieces in time
much prefer to spend my money on my own 3 GDs

No you streamline and buy for those you love most…..I would be buying for around 70 family members if I did it your way

I’ve got the only kids in our family and they are both adult and both still get presents but equally once they were old enough they bought presents for their uncles / aunts etc . If the gifting isn’t reciprocated I think it’s reasonable to stop .

All families are different I suppose, we all just keep buying more presents year on year for whoever has been born, in the last 5 years my family has had 5 babies born but lost 3 members of the older generation.
I can't imagine streamlining and somebody not making the cut. We are a close family though all living within 15 minutes walk so I see everyone at least weekly even it's just for 5 minutes. Nobody is just a name on a card or a photo on WhatsApp.

It was a valid question ….I have 15 nephews and nieces and 15 great nephews and nieces ….I’m 58…..my oldest great niece is 15….so may well be greeting my great great nephews and nieces in time
much prefer to spend my money on my own 3 GDs

Yes but your circumstances are very different to mine. I dont have children & I only have the 2 nieces, who I'm incredibly close to so they're my priority which is why I can't imagine stopping buying from them

Maybe a more valid question would have been how many nieces/children I have to buy for

I'm hoping age 16. From age 11 it turns into Amazon vouchers or equivalent. Or Xmas cards with £20. They send us £20, we return it in a different card. Crazy.

No fast rule .

I am late 50s and still get a present from one of my aunts. She never had any DC so maybe why she always spoils her nieces. Don't know if she sends anything to my brother though.

My own parents stopped sending to nieces/nephews on age 18 and my brother has followed this with my DS - which my DH is finding odd . Meanwhile we still swap presents with his best mate and all their family including 3 adult DDs and DGD. But they are close like brothers . I wonder sometimes if we will continue this forever .... but we are a small family - DH has no sibling, and I only have one who I only see a couple of times a year and has no DC.

Over 21 and earning you are in the secret Santa, £70 this year. Kids always get
Present but only immediate family, i have 36 cousins so it's just crazy.

Well get you 🙄…..I’m close to my family….. especially the 50 plus members that live in my home town….you don’t have to buy people presents to be close….very weird viewpoint….. we just don’t buy presents beyond our own children and grandchildren……I’m spending 6 weeks at Christmas overseas staying with BIL SIL their children and their grandchildren and we won’t be buying any presents nor they for us…..i don’t do cards either 😱

@ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea I do think being childless changes the dynamics. People with children want to focus on their own kids / grandchildren.

For some childless their neices and nephews are the kids the never had.

Jesus Christ.
I've got a close family I buy for everybody and always will. You've got a close family and don't.
Lots of people don't, no need to be so dramatic.
Shock news for you - people are different.

Why is it ridiculous to send presents to people you care for? If your husband wants to buy presents for them I don't see the issue

I haven’t got Christmas present from uncles and aunts for ages now. Probably stopped around age of 18, and it was chocolates or something anyway. My godfather still gives me cash for my birthday though.

It varies. Bil and Sil (DH's side) have met DD a handful of times, and have never bought presents or sent cards - we continued sending presents to our niece and nephew for a couple of years, but DH stopped it a few years ago.

On my side, we buy for Parents, Siblings, nieces and nephews, I also buy presents for some Aunts and Uncles and a cousin (practically my brother)

I haven't considered stopping. DD gets christmas gifts from aunts and uncles rather than me, which is lovely. We celebrate birthdays with cards and gifts no matter how old you are.

Different strokes for different folks.

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I'll always give presents to our nieces and nephews just as I will to other family members. They are family and I don't care if they do have their own jobs and their own money. I can still give them a gift at Christmas.