What Age Did Your Parents Become GPs?

[Lilpastry]

I ask because my parents are 55 and 65 and DHs are both 58. We aren't planning kids for about 3 years or so (been together 8, but only married 1).

Anyway, we get lots of frustrated chat (particularly from DHs parents), about time passing and them being too old to be first time grandparents and what are we waiting for etc.

However, neither of us are even 30 yet! DH will be 32 and I'll be 30 when we start trying. All going to plan, my parents will be around 58 and 68 and his will be 61. I don't see the rush, and would say these are normal ages for GPs?

My parents were both 56 when I had my first at 30.

It's got nothing to do with then anyway. Majority of my friends started having babies around 29/30. You've got to do it when it's most right for you. You're the ones getting up at night and caring for little one.

59 and 61

67, 68, 69 and 74. My parents had me at 38 and 39, DH’s parents had him at 39 and 44. We are both only children. My plan was always to have my first shortly before I was 30 - first was born when I was 29.

All the GPs are involved, visit often, have our older child (nearly 7) to stay a couple of times a year etc. They’re looking forward to having the younger one (4) to stay in a year or so.

Thank you.

Blimey! I only became a mother at 42!

There's no "right age" . I made my mum a first time nan at 36 lol. However my husbands mum was late 50s!

My parents were 50 and DHs were 55

My parents where 55 and 56 when I had my first although they had older grandchildren. My partners parent was about 68 and 70 they also have older grandchildren, two of their grandchildren are the same age as me 😅 there is a 13 year age gap between me and my partner though

I was 49.

50 & 54, regardless of their ages they had no interest in helping with their grandchildren.
My Grandmother was in her early 70's and absolutely doted on my children but was to poorly to help with them much, she loved to treat them though.

49 and 54

I have both the eldest and the youngest GC and I'm the middle child.

They were 51 and 57 (now 62 & 68) They were the last of their friends to have GC, but their friends had their own children much younger. They can do loads with the kids but were/are working full time so didn't have as much time to do so initially.

DPs parents were 69 and 75 when the baby was born and they are much less able, we can't do much 'kid centred' stuff with them.

I think it depends on the people more than the ago though tbh. My gran was 74 when DS1 was born and used to help out loads with childcare and was physically able to do so

63 and 61
Me and DH became GPs at 50 and 49

Now I’m a mum I don’t understand why I put it off until later. The odd year or two doesn’t make a difference

When we had our first we were 26 - GPs were all ages between 48-55.

We recently had our second and obviously they are now all 60 onwards id say yes they definitely tire easily and we don't get huge amounts of help.

But, the age of GPs is definitely not a reason to have a baby lol.

Stick to your timelines as you don't want to regret missing out on travel, or job opportunities etc because you felt pressured.

If I could take my exact same children and have them 5 years later I would. At 26 I thought my 'clock was ticking' 😂

My parents didn't live long enough to become grandparents. If they they they would have been 91 and 82 (both my parents and I became parents later in life). MIL was 71. DH's father died when he was a child.

60 and 71

In their mid 40s. We are now mid sixties and no sign of any, but I would never comment about it.

My parents were 48, his Dad’s parents were 59. But then my parents had me in their early twenties and his parents had him in their early thirties - we’re both the oldest sibling. I was 25, he was 28.

Like my step-dad is 53, but his children are 18 and 12. I imagine it will be awhile still before he’s got a bio grandchild (though he’s definitely my DS’s grandad, he doesn’t see his bio grandad.) Too much variation in everyone lives to settle on an exact answer.

But you guys do you! If you want to wait, and keep doing what you’re doing, do it. They can’t tell you when to have them just because of what they did.

I had to read and reread this to make myself understand that you didn’t mean doctors 🤣

65ish. One grandparent is not physically fit enough to help out and so the other grandparent does all the help. It really depends on how fit they are.

Any long distance and adventure travel you should do now before kids. However, I personally think it is better to start earlier with children in case you have trouble conceiving. I know couples who had no fertility issues but still took years to conceive a baby and they wished they started earlier. Of course it is a personal decision but, if you want more than one child, don’t assume you’ll get pregnant instantly.

on my side mine weren’t the first but DP is an only child. His parents were 67 &69. My parents were early 60s when mine were born. My MIL never pressured but I know she was sad she wasn’t as fit and healthy by the time DS was born and couldn’t look after him. 8 years in we’ve lost two GP.

Me too!

My dad was 56 and my mum 54. My brother's don't have any kids yet as no rush, but my healthy dad nearly died 2 months ago just before he was about to retire (he won't ever be the same again). If he didn't have my kids he would never have been able to do anything with his grandkids as he is now disabled. Just bare in mind that your parents probably feel that life is short and they are getting to the age where things might change drastically health wise. I wouldn't rush to have kids if you aren't ready but just pointing out that for them it's not like they have forever.

My paternal granny and grandad were both 51 when I was born my parents were 52 and 47 when by brother's daughter was born and I was 58 and husband 62 when our grandaughter was born. I would have preferred to have been younger as I would have had better health.