Matthew Perry buried already?

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I don't mean this to be an insensitive question but why has Matthew Perry been buried so quickly? Is it customary in America? Admittedly it was nearly 20 years ago but when a family member died unexpectedly at home in the UK we had to wait over a month before the body was released.

In france people are usually buried within two-three days

@NeedToChangeName to me, semantics seem a slightly odd thing to focus on as a form of support. Suicide ceased being a crime in 1961. I'd be surprised if the majority of the population was aware that it was ever a crime.

I'm obviously unusual, because I found it helpful to have a gap between death and funeral when my parents died.

There was about a 3 week gap in both cases. My siblings and I needed that time to plan the funerals. I wouldn't have wanted to have to make quick decisions about hymns, readings etc and I'm sure they felt like the same. Planning the funerals also really helped me with the grieving process and I don't think I'd have been emotionally ready for the funeral much sooner.

We also wanted to make sure that the important people were able to attend. In both cases most of the people who attended the funerals lived quite a distance away from where they took place. I don't think it would be possible for as many to come if we had given only 2 or 3 days notice.

It was ‘only’ 2 weeks for my dad, but I hated the thought of his body decomposing in the funeral directors’ all that time.

Once he was in the ground, I stopped having that mental image.

Had a wait a month for my aunt in Wales in June. No reason, the crem was inundated apparently.

2 weeks for dh.

The doctor that verified my mother's death went down with Covid the next day so it was about 3 weeks before I could actually register the death....
Arranging the cremation was quite quick after that.

In the early 90's my dad's 15 days for a burial (following autopsy after a shock death) was on the long side.

Since the 2000s I've typically known 3 weeks, stretching to 4 in recent years.

Earlier this year it was 6 weeks for my Grandmother despite it being an anticipated death from cancer. Apparently the delay was because she'd changed GP in the Covid years and never attended that practice with her healthcare needs having been covered by ongoing hospital provision. The cancer was identified from a fall, not following GP referral. This apparently caused significant disruption to the beaucratic procedure.

A lot of the beaucracy is the legacy of Harold Shipman and the system aims to prevent further foul play by proffessionals going undetected and the evidence rapidly disappearing. Then there's the cost of burial pushing people towards cremation and with a baby boom generation reaching life expectancy on an infrastructure that hasn't been expanded significantly since the 1960s further practical delays stack up.

Emotionally I feel 2 weeks is fairly appropriate to prepare and deal with practicalities- obviously influenced by my cultural experiences.

We had a close family funeral on a Mon/ Tues in Ireland following death on a Thursday. The logistics of getting there were snug particularly as we were away from home, and had to get back in between. It had been discussed many years prior amongst family to allow an extra day or two for travel logistics although to an English observer it was quite an interesting circular discussion until I finally manage to interject and ask if 48 hours was critical and why and was it not possible to ask local family if they were amenable to adding a little extra time to allow for security of travel plans which turned out to be no major issue.
Hundreds came to the evening prior after work, but the ceremony and burial were closer friends with family. I liked that structure as a way of enabling people to pay their respects more flexibly.