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Feel so bad for my daughter who's just given birth

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lilyroseabell · 26/10/2023 21:12

My daughter became a first time mum 8 days ago. She went 8 days overdue, was induced but didn't make it past 2cm dilated (later found out baby was tangled in the cord so had no way of escaping) she was prodded and poked for 12 hrs and put on the hormone drip without any pain relief. In the end she was told she needed an emergency C-section. Two days after delivery she came home but was in the worst pain with trapped wind and it was horrendous to watch her go through all this. Two days later it was her birthday but she spent it in bed in pain so that was rubbish. Two days after that she came over really Ill shivering and hallucinating, rushed her to hospital this was Tuesday just gone and she's still there and they don't know what's wrong with her. Bloods for sepsis have came back clear, not covid either. Her temp keeps going up and down and her section scar is weeping so it's obviously an infection. I know she's in the best place medically but I can't help feeling really sorry for her. After a long pregnancy she should be home enjoying her baby not alone in a hospital. Her husband has been great going up and sitting with her and taking the baby up to visit her but from 9pm she's alone while myself and her husband are taking care of baby. She's in a private room with nothing to look at bit 4 walls. What a rotten first time experience 😢 I'm hoping this isn't setting her up for post natal depression, she's already got the baby blues and worried her baby won't know who she is. I feel dreadful for her I really do. Don't know why I'm writing this or what I want from this I'm just feeling quite low this evening. I've been here almost 2 weeks now and missing home and the rest of my family. I'm suppose to be going home Saturday but I can't see that happening as I want to make sure she's home and recovered.

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lilyroseabell · 29/10/2023 01:40

@ThereIbledit aww bless you. She's still in hospital (day 6 now) she's doing alot better but the scars still infected and they are squeezing it out of her. Yesterday morning they told her that she would be getting a scan to see how much infection was there and if it's alot they would need to open her back up 😢 she waited all day and then 4 hrs ago told her it will be today or Monday 😤 she called me up sobbing saying she felt so depressed and that she just wants them to give her oral antibiotics and send her home.

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ThereIbledit · 29/10/2023 13:19

Oh that sounds horrible, your poor daughter.

I don't suppose they think oral ABs are sufficient :/

Orchidgarden · 29/10/2023 13:39

Oh that sounds awful for your poor daughter. I hope things settle down for her as soon as possible.

EvilElsa · 29/10/2023 14:21

Oh the poor thing! She's had a terrible time. Fingers crossed she will start to turn a corner very soon and can go home.

Mariposista · 29/10/2023 14:42

MumApril1990 · 26/10/2023 23:21

They should be letting her have the baby with her so she can establish Breastfeeding

For heaven’s sake she is far too ill to be breastfeeding. Every ounce of strength her body has needs to be used to fight this infection.

404usernotfound · 29/10/2023 18:25

I hope she’s home soon @lilyroseabell

How are you holding up yourself? Are you getting any rest?

lilyroseabell · 30/10/2023 13:44

She's coming home today!! Scans show infection is almost gone and they are prescribing her oral antibiotics. A nurse is coming to her everyday to clean and change dressing. I'll be staying with her until the weekend and if everything's good I'll go home Sunday. Her husband had to go back to work today after taking two weeks paternity leave. Thanks everyone for the kind messages it's been appreciated x

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EvilElsa · 30/10/2023 14:54

Fantastic news! I bet you are all so relieved and I bet she can't wait for her baby, her own bed and some home comforts! Happy days.

shininglight16 · 30/10/2023 17:05

Super happy for your daughter! Happy days! @lilyroseabell

404usernotfound · 30/10/2023 19:06

Wonderful news 🎉

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