Any other women never had much male attention?

[YearOfTheRear]

I often see on here about the relentless attention women get from men. I just can't relate at all, and I'm wondering if it's just me!

I'm currently 34. 5ft 3, throughout my adult life my weight has fluctuated between 8.5st and 11.5st (which seems to make no difference to how others treat me). Admittedly I'm not very into fashion and live in jeans and nice tops, but I do choose items which flatter my rather curvy figure (I'm a 32F). I don't wear much makeup.

I've had five medium-long term relationships but day to day, men never seem to notice me. I've never been wolf whistled at or spoken to in a flirtatious kind of way. I'm either very ugly or very unfriendly! I can't help but feel a bit sad about this!!

I've never had male attention, but I probably wouldn't have noticed even if some had come my way 😂

I never went to clubs or pubs though which is where it mostly happens I think. I mainly ignore men and pretend they're not there in everyday life unless I absolutely can't avoid interacting. They seem to have issues and I'm not getting dragged into them.

I went shopping with a beautiful friend once and it was eye opening - the amount of men who were mesmerised by her. Quite depressing tbh.

Could it just be others interpret more flirtatious behaviour than you do?

Is it just men you think don’t give you much attention, or is it women too? I think generally, I dont draw much notice from anyone and as an introvert am quite comfortable. If it makes you sad, could you take some body language tips from someone you think does get attention? I think it’s not about looks.

If I've had randoms staring at me in the street I've been oblivious to it. I don't remember being wolf-whistled past my teens (ugh). The few times I've had men seeming to be flirty I've found it extremely unpleasant and mistrusted their motives immediately and got myself away from them asap. I have never gone to pubs or nightclubs where one might be expected to be receptive to this stuff. I've never wanted a relationship with any man alive, so I'm very glad to be free of this. Last time I had attention from a stranger was a man politely asking if I needed help when I was having a touch of vertigo. I didn't need help but that sort of non-sexual attention (which would more usually come from a woman) I did appreciate!

i have never had male attention either OP.

it's shit - and I do wonder what is wrong with me. and then i make a list! so I try to ignore it.

hard thing to admit. hard reality to ignore

I get attention but it's usually from 65 year old men now I'm 57. They can keep their attention thanks!

I've never had any male attention. I suppose I'm average in weight / looks, but I think it's personality that has a big effect. I've never had a flirty or funny personality.

I met my dh online, and I do think it's the way to go if you are looking for a relationship.

Me neither. I still remember the one time I’ve been wolf whistled at, when I was a student. I was secretly flattered by it.

Bizarrely, I’ve had a lot more male attention as I’ve got older, from early 40s onwards. I do think it’s a lot to do with confidence and how friendly / open you’re perceived to be. I like talking to new people, both men and women, much more than I did when younger.
It’s definitely not only about looks in my experience, I mean it can’t be, as I obviously was much more attractive when younger.

Do you court make attention? When I was your age (and throughout my 20s) I was extremely flirtatious, wore short skirts, made myself available to men. I worked in an office where misogyny was rife. The culture of the time was the “ladette” thing, so I was trying to be sexy while also cool. Looking back, much of my interaction with men was ill-advised. But there was plenty of attention seeking by me!

Genuine question: do you see other girls/women getting attention? I used to get a lot in London and I hated it but I haven’t had any since I moved to Canada. It just doesn’t happen (in this part of the country anyway!) I thought maybe it was because I was older but I watch men’s reactions when beautiful women walk past them and they literally don’t even notice. So I was wondering if maybe it is the same in England now or perhaps it’s just unique to this part of Canada?

Be careful what you wish for, @YearOfTheRear male attention is all very well and an ego boost - but if they're a sleezy misogynistic creep it's vile getting male attention and very uncomfortable. Unfortunately you don't get to choose who homes in on you and ime it's very objectifying.

case in point, I had to go to an evening function in London this week and was in the hotel lobby waiting for my taxi and some creepy bastard came up to me and started letching and making all sorts of "oooo aren't you looking gorgeous" comments. I literally blanked him and the receptionist told him to get the hell away. I felt absolutely vile, and certainly not flattered.

I hardly got any attention in my younger years but I now am in my 40s. All I want to do now is sit in my pj's, eat ice cream and watch the telly box. 😂😂

I'm surprised you don't with big boobs. I am not very attractive but so many normal professional men seem drawn to my chest, I hate it. It makes me feel like a cow for someone.
Do your boobs make you subconscious at all? If people give off 'don't look at me' vibes. I think men are unlikely to be flirty with you if you are projecting that energy.

I've never had loads of male attention (apart from the tit starers) and I think as well as my unique face it is my energy. I'm always the 'mates' one as I like a beer and I don't really care what people think of me. I don't put any effort into my appearance, which doesn't sound like you OP, you sound hot.

You sound exactly like me (height and size wise!). How funny! And no I don't, and never have had, much male attention at all. Thank goodness! I'd hate it! I think maybe I give off "fuck off" vibes as well as not making much of an "effort" (not much make up, don't 'do' my hair, prefer looser styles of clothing to cover boobs etc). Either that or I'm just rather ugly

I didn't as a teen. And I'm glad I didn't TBH. I wasn't one for dressing pretty or fashionable back then. As an adult, I began working in a male dominated environment and had come into my own style wise. So I did get more attention. By that time I was with my STBXH, so largely ignored it and used my relationship to deflect attention away.

It died away in my 30s when I had kids and became the comfortable dressing disaster I am now. I do chuckle to myself when I see the same men who tried to hit on me 15 years ago trying to hit on women in their 20s all over again. And the women fawning over the attention.

V little, except from horrible sleazy harassers beeping at us in school uniform, then pubs and clubs when late teens/ early twenties.

I had and still have a few friends who ‘court’ male attention by starting conversations, flirting etc, with whichever men are there. Irritating!

had a lot of male attention when working in the US, in an area with relatively few people from the UK, they liked the accent, would get asked out regularly.

I’m similar - never really had any male attention since school. I’m pretty flat chested and very plain looking, even with make-up!

I seldom had any and can't relate to being harassed constantly. I'm not bad looking, I think I'm a bit of an acquired taste and a few men (including DH) have found me very attractive but I reckon it was mainly that throughout my teens and 20s (aka my most 'harrassable' years) I had short,cropped hair. I was also pretty flat chested. So I think I just flew totally under the radar of most of the sort of men who like to holler at women, because they didn't register me as female. I wondered if I just imagined this but read something recently about a young woman saying her friends found harrassment stopped dead if they cut their hair really short.

Honestly delighted never to never have experienced much attention from men from everything I've heard!

I haven't either. I'm quite chubby but even when I wasn't, I've always had an ugly face. I've had total strangers and fairly close friends tell me I'm just not attractive. It gets me down less than it used to, but when I see people moaning about getting attention I want to scream.

Very little, and now post-menopause none whatsoever! It’s bothered me in the past but on balance I think I’d rather have too little attention than too much.

I still get male attention and im 50...im not stunning (im prettyish)..im short...not thin ..but...i am confident and very chatty 🤣 and look after myself. Tbh im not bothered...i dont want to put effort in to another man..ive done that all my life. I put the effort into me OP.

I'm a bit confused by this OP because I can't understand why anyone would want 'attention' from men. What is so good about getting a compliment/attention from some random bloke? When I'm out with my DD I often see men leering at her, it's vile frankly.

I think it shows a lack of self esteem, perhaps work on that?

Very little, or I’ve not noticed. I’m told I’m ‘intimidating’.

Never had any male attention. I am 5'7", flat chested, no makeup, between 9-10 stone. I think I am beautiful (modest too, lol) but not pretty or 'attractive'. I am not flirtatious at all.

Men are not interested. Maybe they think I am gay- who knows.