Son ran out of money

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My son is 18 and lives away from home in accommodation provided by work. He’s terrible with budgeting, I’ve tried and tried with him. He has spent all his money with ages to go until payday. I am actually sick of bailing him out all the time but can’t see him starve obviously. Any ideas for cheap meals so I can drop off some shopping. Like ration type! He needs to lean to manage his money! Thanks.

It's not saying that the kids can have it hard. It's saying that at 18 he is an adult, earning a wage, and should be capable of working out that he needs to eat! When I was 18 I lived 300 miles from home, there were no credit cards, no bank transfers (in fact my parents didn't have a bank account), and no bail outs. We were adults and had to learn to manage our money or deal with the consequences. And we didn't need to learn that lesson twice or more times before it sank in, because there was nobody bailing us out. You don't have to be throwing your kids to the wolves, but it also isn't unreasonable to expect them to act like adults when they are adults.

I agree. It's generally this mindset that whilst well intentioned, tends to breeds an entitlement adult of below average competence.

He sounds like a complete waste of space. Just stop bailing him out otherwise he will never lear.

"keep bailing him out".. But he's only just legally turned into an adult?

I thought you were going to say he's 25 at least.
What money budgeting did you teach him as ha child? You can't expect him to just know and this is his learning process.

Get envelopes and make him split all his money up in cash into envelopes.
Help him budget.

If by support you mean cookery lessons, lots of advise about how to budget, lots of trips with you to the supermarket helping with the grocery shop,teaching how the washing machine works then you really are decent parents. If you just mean chucking money at them then you really are failing

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